Be A Better You

Episode 154: Why Shrinking Yourself Attracts the Wrong People


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If you’ve ever felt like you have to tone yourself down, stay quiet, or be "easier to love" in order to keep people around—you’re not alone. But here’s the hard truth: shrinking yourself doesn’t protect you. It actually attracts the wrong people—the ones who only connect with the edited, filtered version of you.

In this powerful episode, we unpack the deep emotional patterns behind people-pleasing, codependency, and chronic self-abandonment. You’ll learn why hiding your true self creates unhealthy relationships, and how stepping into your authenticity changes everything—from who you attract to how you feel in your own skin.

Whether you're healing from emotional abuse, recovering from a toxic relationship, or simply tired of not being fully seen, this conversation will help you understand the subconscious programming behind it all—and how to start rewriting it.

We’ll also talk about:

  • Why your nervous system confuses shrinking with safety
  • How childhood wounds and trauma responses shape your need for validation
  • The reason you keep attracting emotionally unavailable or misaligned people
  • How to reclaim your power, your voice, and your self-worth

🧠 Ready to stop molding yourself just to be chosen? Book a free 30-minute consultation with me and we’ll uncover the hidden beliefs keeping you stuck—and how to release them for good.

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