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Ever notice how motivation feels strong for about two weeks and then suddenly disappears?

If you’ve ever told yourself “I just can’t stick to things” or “I always fall off,” this episode is going to flip that belief on its head.

Because the truth is — your problem isn’t discipline, consistency, or commitment.

It’s your nervous system.

In this episode, we’re breaking down why willpower always fails, especially after emotional stress, burnout, or abusive relationships — and what’s actually required for change to last. You’ll learn why your brain prioritizes safety over goals, why familiar patterns pull you back even when you want something different, and how consistency becomes effortless once your body feels safe enough to move forward.

I’ll also share real examples that show how people stop self-sabotaging without trying harder — simply by addressing the root cause.

If you’re ready for this year to be different — not because you pushed harder, but because you finally worked with your system instead of against it — this episode is for you.

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Welcome to The Be A Better You Podcast, where I am exploring empowering women to break through their subconscious blocks that hinder personal growth and success. In this episode, we explore the hidden barriers that hold us back, from fear-based blocks and resistance to change to unresolved emotions. Through a guided visualization exercise, listeners will visualize their specific blocks and tap into their innate wisdom to find personalized solutions. 

Join us on this journey of self-discovery and empowerment as we unlock the path to becoming a better version of ourselves together!

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The New Year is soon! So let's dive in to being a Better You.

Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in life — spinning your wheels, starting over and over but never following through? Maybe you’ve tried to eat healthier, save money, be a better partner, or show up as the mom you want to be… but no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to stick with it. That constant cycle of starting, failing, and feeling like you’re not enough can leave you frustrated, sad, or even depressed.

In this interactive episode of The Be a Better You Podcast, Allison K. Dagney takes you step by step through a powerful exercise to define what “being a better you” actually looks like — so you finally have clarity instead of vague goals that keep you stuck. You’ll unpack the subconscious beliefs that sabotage your progress, discover the hidden trauma responses that make it harder to take action, and learn how to break free from these old patterns.

By the end of this episode, you’ll have a simple but clear roadmap for taking action, plus fresh motivation to believe you really can create a healthier, happier, more successful life.

If you’re tired of feeling like you’ll never change, this episode will show you how to finally shift from hopeless and stuck to confident and in control.

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It’s officially Hoover Season — that magical time of year when toxic exes suddenly remember you exist and send a “Merry Christmas ❤️” text that derails your entire night. If you’ve ever felt your heart drop, your stomach twist, or your brain spiral from one message… this episode is for you.

We’re breaking down why narcissists and emotionally abusive partners love the holidays, why they come back during December, and what their sudden “I’ve changed” or “I miss us” messages actually mean (spoiler: it’s not love). You’ll learn the psychology behind hoovering, how to decode the emotional bait, and why your nervous system reacts even when you know better.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:
 ✨ The 6 flavors of holiday hoovering and how to spot each one
 ✨ How to decode the “Merry Christmas 🎄❤️” text without spiraling into fantasy
 ✨ Why YOU feel the emotional pull even when you don’t want them back
 ✨ How nostalgia, loneliness, and old trauma bonds get activated this time of year
 ✨ A powerful reframe: they’re not reaching out because they value you — you’re a dopamine hit
 ✨ The 3-step Hoover-Proof Protocol to take your power back and protect your peace

If you struggle with no contact, boundary-setting, or emotional guilt when a hoover hits, you’ll hear exactly what to do — and what NOT to do — so this season doesn’t suck you back into a cycle you worked so hard to leave.

Want to break this pattern for good?
Book your free 30-minute Root Cause Call and let’s uncover the belief driving the trauma bond so you can finally end this cycle.

Helpful extras:
🎧 Listen to Episode 19 for deeper boundary work
📦 Grab the free Survivor Starter Pack for the hidden gem “How to Stay No Contact” audio

This year, you get to be unavailable for manipulation — and fully available for peace.

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If the holidays hit you harder than any other time of year, you are not alone — and nothing is wrong with you. In this episode, we’re digging into why December activates old emotional wounds, resurfaces trauma you thought you healed, and pulls you back into patterns, people, and feelings you’ve outgrown.

We break down what I call the Holiday Regression Effect — the way your nervous system remembers past experiences, holiday chaos, old relationship dynamics, and emotional pain long before your conscious mind catches up. This isn’t weakness. It’s conditioning.

You’ll hear a powerful story about a client (fictionalized for privacy) who had been doing incredible work… until holiday nostalgia and loneliness brought her ex back into the picture. You’ll see exactly how the trigger happened, why she wasn’t “slipping,” and how she ultimately reclaimed her power, ended the contact for good, and understood the belief driving her holiday vulnerability.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:
 ✨ Why your body reacts faster than your logic around holidays
 ✨ The truth behind holiday nostalgia, trauma bonding, and seasonal triggering
 ✨ How emotional memories get activated by décor, music, family expectations, and old traditions
 ✨ Why even healed survivors can feel pulled back toward toxic exes
 ✨ How to tell the difference between genuine desire and trauma-driven longing
 ✨ My 3-Step Holiday Trigger Reset to bring you back into the present and out of emotional flashback

If this season feels overwhelming, nostalgic, lonely, or strangely activating — this episode will help you understand why and give you the tools to move through it with clarity and compassion.

Want to explore your specific holiday triggers?
Book your free 30-minute Root Cause Call 

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Press play and take your power back — one grounded breath at a time.

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If December turns you into everyone’s emotional paramedic, this episode is your intervention.

We’re unpacking the Holiday Savior Complex, that sneaky trauma-driven pattern where you over-function, over-give, manage everyone’s moods, smooth over conflict, and basically try to save the entire holiday season from falling apart.

And yes… 

we’re going there with adults and kids.

I’m breaking down why survivors of emotional and narcissistic abuse slip into “fixer mode,” how it drains you, and what it’s really costing your nervous system. You’ll also hear the story of the year I didn’t put up a Christmas tree right before a big move — my kids weren’t thrilled, my friends had opinions, and I learned one of the biggest lessons of my healing journey:
 I don’t have to rescue anyone from their own emotions.
And neither do you.

In this episode you’ll learn:
 ✨ Why the holidays activate old survival patterns
 ✨ How rescuing creates self-betrayal (even when it feels loving)
 ✨ What it looks like to stop managing everyone else’s feelings
 ✨ How to support your kids without over-functioning
 ✨ Nervous-system resets you can use at holiday gatherings
 ✨ Permission to do less — without guilt, shame, or burnout

If this hits a little too close to home, it’s not a coincidence. These patterns come from deep subconscious conditioning — and that’s exactly what I help women unravel.

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Today I am shedding light on the unique challenges faced by abuse victims and survivors during the holiday season—dubbed "Stressmas." As the festive spirit envelops many, those navigating abuse often find themselves in heightened stress, facing tactics from their abusers that intensify during this time.

The episode delves into the common challenges victims experience, exploring the ways abusers may escalate tactics and create additional stress, especially in co-parenting situations involving children. I'm offering valuable insights into setting boundaries, prioritizing self-care, and building a support system during Stressmas.

Learn how to navigate the emotional challenges and the importance of self-care. The episode extends its focus to survivors with children, addressing the complexities of protecting children from abuse and creating positive holiday memories despite the adversity.

So, if you have experienced narcissistic abuse and/or toxic family and are worried about holiday stress...listen in for some quick tips to help you along the way to make your Holiday less Stressmas and More Christmas!

If you'd like to be part of the market research to bring my future healing app to survivors of abuse, I'd love your feedback on this short survey!  https://forms.gle/YhGSecGkZM1cdWQv8

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In this eye-opening episode, we unravel the intriguing complexities behind the world of positive affirmations and why they so often don’t work. We explore the profound impact of subconscious communication, emphasizing the transformative power of images, stories, and analogies that speak directly to the deeper layers of your mind.

Discover why positive affirmations can actually backfire—creating cognitive dissonance and even self-gaslighting when your conscious mind repeats words your subconscious doesn’t believe. Instead of building confidence, they can deepen self-doubt, leaving you wondering why you still don’t feel good enough.

Through compelling examples and real-life insights, we navigate the psychological landscape of inner resistance and conflicting beliefs, shedding light on how these hidden patterns block true transformation. You’ll learn how the subconscious mind interprets meaning, why it rejects surface-level statements, and how to start reprogramming it in ways that actually stick.

Join Allison K. Dagney, emotional-healing coach and subconscious-reprogramming expert, as she shares practical techniques that go beyond mere words—so you can stop wasting time with affirmations that don’t reach your core, and start speaking the language of the subconscious mind to create real, lasting change.

✨ Ready to go deeper?

• Book your Free Root Cause Call with Allison to uncover the beliefs blocking your transformation.
• Explore the Radiate & Rise Community for guided subconscious tools, live coaching, and genuine support.

Because true empowerment doesn’t come from repeating what you wish you believed—it comes from rewiring your mind.

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Have you read all the books, journaled your heart out, listened to the podcasts, and done all the work — yet still wake up anxious, triggered, or doubting your worth? You’re not broken. You’re just trying to heal with the wrong tools.

In this episode, emotional healing coach Allison K. Dagney reveals the real reason survivors stay stuck even after months or years of “doing the work.” You’ll learn why conscious mindset tools don’t always reach the subconscious beliefs that drive your emotional pain — and what to do differently to finally feel free.

Allison shares powerful stories of women who were exhausted from trying harder and still feeling the same — and how everything changed once they began rewiring their subconscious mind.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• Why knowledge isn’t the same as healing
• The subconscious patterns that block your progress
• How to tell if you’re managing pain instead of transforming it
• What “doing the work” actually means for lasting change
• The real path to peace, confidence, and emotional freedom

If you’ve been wondering “Why am I still stuck?” this conversation will give you the clarity — and hope — you’ve been missing.

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• Book your Free Root Cause Call with Allison to uncover the subconscious blocks keeping you stuck.
• Join the Radiate & Rise Community for live coaching, emotional healing tools, and support from other survivors who truly get it.

Healing after emotional abuse isn’t about trying harder. It’s about finally working with your subconscious mind — not against it.

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Have you ever felt a wave of guilt the moment you finally laughed, smiled, or felt a spark of joy after abuse? You’re not alone. For many survivors, healing can feel like betrayal — especially when your kids, family, or others are still struggling.

In this raw and honest episode, Allison K. Dagney, survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert, breaks down why joy can feel unsafe and how subconscious beliefs keep you stuck in guilt. You’ll hear the hidden thoughts that survivors carry, like:

• “If my kids are hurting, I’m not allowed to be happy.”
• “If I move on, people will think it wasn’t abuse.”
• “If I heal, I’ll be leaving others behind.”

Through powerful examples and real-life scenarios, you’ll learn how guilt shows up in everyday life — from canceling fun plans, to sabotaging new relationships, to downplaying your progress so no one thinks you’ve forgotten what happened.

This episode will help you see why your healing is not abandonment — it’s the most powerful gift you can give yourself and your loved ones.

✨ Ready to go deeper?

• Book your free Root Cause Call with Allison to uncover the beliefs keeping you stuck.
• Take the free Beliefs Quiz to reveal your hidden patterns.
• Download the Survivor Starter Pack with journal prompts and bonus podcast episodes designed to help you break free from rumination.

Healing after emotional abuse doesn’t have to feel like betrayal. In fact, your joy is the beginning of breaking the cycle.

Support the show

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