Sharing sexual intimacy and love making with your significant other can be such a profound and prominent way to express love and passion within your bond. And yet, there are so many things that make the process of coming together in an open, flexible, and engaged way challenging.

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In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses:

• How our expectations, assumptions and judgements influence our experience sexually.
• What differentiation has to do with sexual fire and passion.
• How couples get stuck in gridlock and sexual difficulties.
• The fears, shame, anxieties, trauma, and stress that affect our ability to be available and present sexually.
• The ways our attachment strategies show up in our love making.
• How safety in the relationship helps partners be more present, expressed and engaged in erotic play.

"Worry and distraction do not make for expansive, fulfilling sex. Sealed-off sex tends to be erotic but empty, while solcae sex is soothing but unerotic. The most satisfying and orgasmic sex, what I call "synchrony sex," occurs when partners are securely attached." by Dr. Susan Johnson

Mentioned:

Shifting Criticism into Connected Communication - Free Guide

Relationship Map - Free Cheat Sheet

Mentioned:

• WHAT DOES THE DEVELOPMENT OF INTIMACY LOOK LIKE IN RELATIONSHIP?
• ERP 110: HOW TO MANAGE TWO MAJORLY CONFLICTING NEEDS IN RELATIONSHIP
• Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships, by Dr. Susan Johnson
• Hold Me Tight, by Dr. Susan Johnson
• Passionate Marriage by Dr. David Schnarch
• Intimacy & Desire, by David Schnarch

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