With 25 years of post-graduate training and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC.

She has been treating clients, training professionals, and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on Schema Therapy for narcissism. She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on the subject of Schema Therapy, and the subject of narcissism, relationships, and dealing with difficult people. 

 

In this episode, Wendy Behary and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: 

• How confusing and disorienting it can be to be in a relationship with a narcissist. 
• Understanding how a narcissist got to be how they are and what it entails. 
• The spectrum of narcissism.
• The goal of a narcissist and the missing piece in relationship. 
• How one’s own schema, or learned thought patterns and behaviors, can be triggered by, and play into, the tendencies of a narcissist.
• How to have an effect of the relationship. 
• How to get your emotional balance, so that you can approach your partner with empathic confrontation. 
• The work that goes into helping someone feel capable of standing on their own, to be the strongest healthiest adult they can be, and their own best advocate. 

   

"To hear your own voice, to stand up for yourself...That's a new new movement, which will guide you towards making a decision about this relationship one way or the other, but making it from a healthy position, not from a frightened reaction." —  Wendy Behary 

  

 

Mentioned: 

Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed, by Wendy Behary

Loving Leaving Living With...The Narcissist In Your Life

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Website: disarmingthenarcissist.com

LinkedIn: Wendy Behary - Speaker-Lecturer - PESI

Facebook: Wendy T. Behary

Email: [email protected]

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