April 09, 2024

ERP 419: How to Identify and Break Negative Cycles (Especially High Conflict Cycles) in Relationship — An Interview with Jennine Estes Powell & Jacqueline Wielick

58 minutes

How can we cultivate a culture of emotional safety within our relationships, where vulnerability is embraced and recurring negative patterns are met with empathy and understanding, rather than defensiveness or blame?

Traumas, whether subtle or overt, can fuel recurring negative patterns that gradually erode the foundation of a relationship. These unseen wounds, left unattended, can manifest as distress and conflict, undermining the very fabric of our closest bonds.

In this episode, we delve into the depths of these dynamics, exploring how awareness, vulnerability, and proactive communication can pave the way for healing and transformation. Join us as we navigate the complexities of attachment styles, emotional safety, and the power of corrective emotional experiences in forging healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Jennine Estes Powell & Jacqueline Wielick, are distinguished Therapists and co-authors of "Help For High-Conflict Couples." Jacqueline Wielick is the owner of her practice, Therapy by Jackie, and is known for the empowering, empathetic, and engaging style she brings to her work. Jennine Estes Powell is a dedicated therapist for her clients, and is the driving force behind Estes Therapy, a thriving group practice in San Diego, the go-to hub for couples counseling. She also trains therapists globally.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode

07:52 Jennine and Jacqueline‘s personal journeys into emotionally focused therapy.

13:03 Distinguishing high conflict from regular conflict.

20:13 The subtleties of trauma, challenging stereotypical perceptions of traumatic experiences.

23:18 How differing attachment styles can create communication barriers within relationships.

28:15 The evolution of relationships: Understanding the shift from early romance to bonded attachment.

34:53 Individual and couple strategies for recognizing and addressing attachment insecurities.

40:54 Repairing relationship patterns through vulnerability and repetition.

55:59 Accessible support and resources.

Mentioned

Help for High-Conflict Couples (website) (speaking events)

Help for High-Conflict Couples: Using Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Science of Attachment to Build Lasting Connection Paperback (book) (affiliate)

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

Connect with Jennine Estes Powell

Websites: helpforhighconflictcouples.com | estestherapy.com | jenninepowell.com

Instagram: instagram.com/estes_therapy

TikTok: tiktok.com/@jennine_estes

Connect with Jacqueline Wielick

Websites: helpforhighconflictcouples.com| jackiewielick.com

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