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The transformation stage of grief in the context of estrangement typically refers to the process of adapting and finding meaning after experiencing the loss of a relationship with a close family member, friend, or significant other. Estrangement involves a significant emotional distance or fracturing of a once-close relationship. The stages of grief in my model are: Disbelief, Anger, Dispair, Acceptance, Transformation, and Maintenance.

In the transformation stage of estrangement grief, individuals may undergo a series of psychological and emotional changes as they work towards an open and authentic new understanding of themselves and the circumstances of their estranging adult child. A key element of the work people do in this stage is to better understand their own communication style and relational behaviors.  As they gain new self-awareness they can then begin expanding their communication tools and strengthen their communicaion skills. They can then ready themselves for the potential opportunities to establish  communication that better aligns with their adult child's needs (expectations). Effective communication is the bedrock of relationships - our communicaton skills and style can lead to trust, authenticity and strong boundaries.  In this episode we take a deep dive into what the transformation stage might involve in your circumstances.

For more information, please go to https://www.WhenOurAdultChildrenWalkAway.com to find resources, strategies and tips to prepare to repair!

The continuum of estrangement discussed today can be found at https://www.togetherestranged.org/levels-of-estrangement.

The stories, examples, reflections, and perspectives shared in this podcast are based on my professional work as an estrangement coach and my personal estrangement journey. Any examples, characters, or stories referenced are either drawn from my own lived experience or represent a composite of multiple real-life situations shared with me over time. The intention of this podcast is not to accuse, label, or defame any individual but to provide insight, validation, and support for those navigating the complexities of family estrangement. All opinions expressed are my own and are shared with you, the listener, from a place of healing and learning.