Amelia had a painfully costly month. Emily bought Crocs that look like Big Bird’s feet. But in the end, they find the true meaning of No Buy / Low Buy.

Links:

Danger zone (food safety)

Innocence (Opera composed by Kaija Saariaho)

Dyslexie Font

The Big Short (film)

For every personality trait, there is a shadow. Emily and Amelia discuss Shadow Work and do just a touch of dream analysis.

Links:

Carl Jung

Jungian archetypes

Mapping Your Emotional Floor Plan:

A comic by Erika Moen based on Come Together

Jaak Panksepp 7 Primary Process Emotions⁠ (interview)

Monica's Secret Closet | Friends

FSP Season 2, Episode 22: The Magic Trick of Transcendence

Locus of control

Stepmomming Made Easy (preorder)

No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz

WeRateDogs

Rebecca Dupas - HOW TO SLAY A DRAGON (youtube)

(this is the poem at the end of the episode.)

Emily confesses to a migraine induced mullet. Amelia discusses Hidradenitis Suppurativa and effective strategies for going to a medical provider with a hypothesis and being taken seriously.

(Much like the dizziness episode, we’d love to hear from you if learning about HS helps you understand something that is affecting you)

Links:

Hidradenitis suppurativa

Mast cell activation syndrome

Bringing HS (Hidradenitis Suppurativa) Out Of The Dark | Jackson Gillies | TEDxSantaBarbara

FSP Season 2, Episode 14: Introduction to Food and Body Awareness

FSP Season 2, Episode 18: Introduction to Food (and Body Acceptance)

Season 2, Episode 20: Food Again. This Time, It’s Personal?

Hidradenitis SuppuraDIVAS - Podcast (Apple Podcasts)

FSP Season 1, Episode 18: The New Hotness

Twins (1988 film)

FSP Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101

Piloerection

Emily’s been confronting just how dizzy she is all the time. Emily and Amelia discuss brain stems, car accidents, and disability. If you experience some of the same issues as Emily, please drop us a line at [email protected]

Links:

Dizziness Handicap Inventory (PDF)

Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS)

FSP 2025: The Car Accident Experience

Intermittent claudication

Lindy Hop

Vestibular Migraine

Orthostatic intolerance

Minnie Van

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle

FSP 2025 contact form

Amelia has thoughts about the costs (and benefits) masking, as well as being a vestigial toe.

Links:

Unmasking for Life by Devon Price (Recommended)

Interoception

Alexithymia

The Autistic Burnout Workbook by Megan Anna Neff (Recommended)

Extraordinary Attorney Woo

Jaak Panksepp 7 Primary Process Emotions (interview)

A rad comic about emotional floor plans by Erika Moen

(Based on Emily's book, Come Together.)

A Black Lady Sketch Show: No Makeup (Youtube)

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle (By Emily and Vestigial Toe)

FSP Episode 34: The Madwoman

Turns out twin siblings can learn something new about each other after forty-plus years. Amelia isn’t sure if they’re allowed to go to Pride. 

Image: What it looks like to nap during a parade.

Links:

Non-binary (gender identity)

Agender (gender identity)

Mercury Stardust: The Trans Handy Ma'am

Sweet Honey in the Rock

How To Tell When We Will Die: On Pain, Disability, and Doom by Johanna Hedva

Unmasking for Life by Devon Price

Woodworking by Emily St. James

This week, Emily talks to Dr. Donna Oriowo about Donna's new book, "Drink Water and Mind Your Business." Donna will change your life.

tl; dr: Other people may have more than you, but they are not WORTH more than you.

Drink Water & Mind Your Business:

A Black Woman’s Guide to Unlearning the BS & Healing Self-Esteem by Dr. Donna Oriowo

Buy Donna's book from:

Amazon

Barnes & Noble

Sourcebooks

Loyalty Bookstore

Join Donna's In My Black Feelings group

Follow @dr.donnaoriowo on:

Instagram

TikTok

YouTube

Links:

"Time is an illusion. Lunchtime doubly so."

"Let It Burn" from Paradise Square the Musical featuring Tony Award Winner Joaquina Kalukango

Sunrise on the Reaping by Suzanne Collins

Extraordinary Attorney Woo

Good Sex by Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons

(Amazing book!)

My Pronouns are Dr. T-shirt by Dr. Lexx Brown-James

(Dr. Lexx rules)

RaQuel Hopkins, Capacity Expert  (instagram)

Centering (and Studying!) Black Women's Pleasure, a conversation with Dr. Shemeka Thorpe

Transcendence! (Or as we call it, “The magic trick.”) It’s for everybody. Unless you’re not ready. Emily and Amelia discuss.

Come Together (by Emily) Chapter 12: The Magic Trick

Audiobook on Audible

Signed paperbacks at Book Moon

The Neurobiology of “We” by Daniel J. Siegel

Entrainment

“The Mere Co-Presence: Synchronization of Autonomic Signals and Emotional Responses Across Co-Present Individuals Not Engaged in Direct Interaction” by Yulia Golland, Yossi Arzouan, and Nava Levit- Binnun via PubMed

The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt

Dead Poets Society

Murmuration (swarm behavior)

Aristotle’s Rhetorical Triangle

“The Field” - see Come Together page 276

No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz

Out Beyond Ideas by Rumi

FSP Live: turning down your pain sensors (Amelia on Youtube)

Transcendental Meditation

Catching the Big Fish: Meditation, Consciousness, and Creativity by David Lynch

Maslow’s Hierarchy Of Needs

Emily had a car accident. Emily is safe and not hurt, but her car has seen better days. She was able to use what she learned writing Burnout, as well as other books and therapy to help with recovery.

Let's talk about neuroplastic pain and the stress response cycle.

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Links:

FSP2025: We’re Stronger Than the Fire

Apple Podcasts • Spotify • Youtube

In an Unspoken Voice by Peter A. Levine, Ph.D. 

Complete the stress response cycle - See chapter 1 of Burnout

Somatic experiencing

Friendly’s 

No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz

Emily’s newsletter post about neuroplastic pain

The Way Out by Alan Gordon and Alon Ziv

Explain Pain Supercharged by G. Lorimer Moseley & David S. Butler

Curable app

Emily and Amelia talk food: Episode 3. This time it’s about food restrictions and why you might choose not to eat certain foods. No Sith were Revenged in the making of this podcast.  

tl;dr

• Make the best choices you can with the resources you have.
• You’re absolutely allowed to try restrictions on your food, to find out what works for you. You're also absolutely allowed not to restrict your food.
• Recognize that since we’re all making the best choices we can with the resources we have available, as your resources change, be responsive to those changes and develop the skills to make changes flexibly.

• And always remember that you don’t have to judge yourself. You’re doing your best.

Links:

Green Dot Bystander Intervention

Annie's Organic Dijon Mustard

Polar Seltzer