#245: This week, I’m re-sharing one of my favorite episodes from the podcast archive all about how regret is self-abandonment. The regret cycle is one we lean on and keep choosing for understandable reasons, but it’s time to understand why and how we can drop it because the truth is regret is not the solution to the future you want.

Hear why living in regret is a form of self-abandonment, and how it doesn’t save us from repeating old patterns. I’m highlighting why we think regret is protective, how regret prevents from you seeing the power you have in your own life, and of course, the remedies for healing and dropping regret so you can get to the other side.

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#244: This week, we are reviewing one of my absolute favorite topics to geek out on: polyvagal theory. Polyvagal theory is an incredibly helpful way to better understand our lived experiences and nervous systems, which is why it’s one of the main tenets of all the work I do across my various programs.

I’m sharing how polyvagal theory is an important vessel for getting to know ourselves better, why learning to regulate our nervous system matters, and how to start seeing where you can drop guilt, blame, and shame around your patterns.

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#243: Do you struggle to set boundaries with the people in your life? Are you prone to prioritizing everyone else’s well-being first, often not even realizing you have needs of your own? Are you in constant hyperdrive mode, striving to do more and more, only to eventually burn yourself out?

Join me today to learn where overfunctioning comes from and how it manifests in our lives. I’m showing you how it not only takes a toll on our relationships, but our physical, mental, and emotional health too, and my top tips for beginning to address your overfunctioning habit to lead a healthier, happier life.

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#242: Last week, we talked all about feeling our feelings somatically and the myriad of reasons doing so can help us live richer, more fulfilling lives with more connection to ourselves and our loved ones. You heard in detail why we don’t feel our feelings, and in part two today, we’re exploring the how-to of feeling your feelings somatically.

Tune in this week to discover how to begin feeling your feelings somatically. I’m showing you why practicing this creates capacity in your nervous system to feel the emotions you most want, what you’ll find if you allow and stay with difficult emotions, how to kitten-step your way to feeling your feels, and my top tips for supporting yourself through this process.

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#241: “Feeling your feelings” is a term you may have seen all over social media, and it can be an incredibly supportive and loving thing to do. However, as we do here on Feminist Wellness, we also need to proceed with caution and care when it comes to addressing the emotions that live within us.

Join me this week to discover why you may not habitually feel your feelings, the common fears that may arise about doing so, and how to gain a different way of relating to your emotions. I’m also diving into why we want to feel our feelings somatically, and what can improve in our lives when we do.

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#240: Offering unnecessarily exhaustive explanations is a very smart coping mechanism we develop, usually in childhood. However, while overexplaining can provide short-term relief, it also reinforces the very emotional outsourcing cycles we’re trying to escape. 

Join me today to discover the common origin stories that lead to the habit of overexplaining, how it affects our nervous system, and what we can do to start breaking free from this cycle. I’m sharing some of the science behind why we feel the need to overexplain, the power of nurturing self-compassion in this work, and my favorite ways for practicing more concise, direct communication.

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#239: I’m speaking to coach, three-time best-selling author, and all-around badass Andrea Owen. Andrea helps smart, high-achieving women let go of five default behaviors that leave them feeling terrible so they can engage in better coping mechanisms around shame. She’s here to introduce us to the shame work she writes about in her book, How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t.

Join us as Andrea and I explore the wound of shame and how our emotional outsourcing behaviors act as an armor to help us avoid shame. She’s walking us through the different frameworks she uses to guide her clients through shame, and why approaching yourself with compassion and understanding is key to healing your wounds.

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#238: We tend to look for other people to be the main attraction in our lives, to save us, and to be our cake. Tune in to learn the importance of embodying your own cakefulness, and how waiting for someone else to be your cake might be the root cause of your relational pain. You’ll hear why you are the main dessert, how to let everyone else be a delightful addition, and why your whole life can change in every possible way when you step into being the cake.

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#237: With transitions come grief, and whether it relates to death or non-death losses, it’s a topic we don’t talk about enough.

Tune in today to hear three brilliant experts on grief, Briana Simmons, Charlene Lam, and Krista St-Germain, share their expertise on why we suck at grief, and how we can begin grieving in a nervous-system-based and somatically-embodied way. You’ll hear what we need to increase our capacity to grieve, why this process will be unique to each and every person, and how we can support ourselves through grief spirals.

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#236: Whether you resonate with the habit of offering unsolicited advice or you’ve been on the receiving end of it, it can have significant implications on our relationships and be a wicked bummer for everyone involved. 

Join me this week as I unravel the threads of unsolicited advice in the name of nurturing healthier, more authentic, and loving connections. You’ll hear why it can cause huge ruptures in our relationships, why it’s the antithesis of interdependent living, and remedies, from the lens of both giving and receiving unsolicited advice. 

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