Healing with WORTH

From Numbing to Nurturing: Grounding Techniques for Trauma Recovery

In this episode of Healing with Worth, hosts Janine and Naomi dive into the topic of nurturing versus numbing as coping mechanisms, especially in the context of trauma and triggers. The discussion centers on the importance of recognizing when we’re avoiding issues by numbing our emotions through activities like excessive TV watching, unhealthy eating, or overworking, and the negative impact this has on our relationships and overall well-being.

The hosts share personal experiences with numbing behaviors, such as binge-watching shows like Survivor or indulging in Hallmark movies, and the temporary relief these activities provided from the overwhelming noise in their minds. However, they emphasize that while these behaviors might offer a temporary escape, they ultimately prevent healing and growth.

The conversation then shifts to healthier ways of coping through nurturing practices. The hosts suggest using mindfulness techniques and grounding exercises that engage the five senses—sight, smell, touch, sound, and taste—to stay present and process emotions. They also discuss the value of connection, encouraging listeners to reach out to trusted friends or support groups, like the WORTH group, for authentic, non-judgmental support.

Janine and Naomi highlight the importance of self-compassion and mindful practices as pathways to healing, suggesting alternatives like prayer journals, essential oils, and nature walks to nurture oneself through difficult times. The episode serves as a gentle reminder to prioritize self-care and seek healthier ways to cope with life’s challenges.

In this episode of "Healing with Worth," Janine and Naomi continue their exploration of grief, particularly focusing on the phase of obsession following betrayal. They discuss how this phase can consume one's energy and leave someone stuck, often leading to hypervigilance, constant analyzing, and feeling unsafe. The hosts emphasize that while it's normal to experience obsession, it's crucial not to get stuck there. They highlight the importance of self-care, setting boundaries, and being present in the moment as key tools to move through this phase.

Janine and Naomi also differentiate between grieving a betrayal and grieving a death, noting that betrayal grief is complicated by the ongoing presence of the person who caused the pain. They discuss the process of healing, which involves not only the betrayed spouse's work but also the understanding that true safety and healing come from within. The episode concludes with a reminder that while it's normal to spin in obsessive thoughts, having the right tools and compassion for oneself can help in stepping out of it and moving toward healing.

In this episode of Healing with Worth, Janine and Naomi take a deep dive into the stages of the grief cycle, focusing particularly on the stages of shock and obsession. They discuss the initial shock that comes with the discovery of betrayal, explaining how it can push someone into a trance-like state, triggering fight, flight, or freeze responses. The hosts emphasize that this overwhelming reaction is a natural survival mechanism as one grapples with the sudden upheaval of their reality.

They also explore the tendency to enter a state of obsession, where ruminating thoughts about the future of the relationship can dominate, making it difficult to function in daily life. Janine and Naomi stress the importance of self-care during this stage, including eating, drinking, and sleeping, as these basic needs are crucial for navigating through the shock and beginning the healing process.

The episode also touches on the interconnectedness of shock and denial, explaining how denial can coexist with shock as a way to protect oneself from the full impact of the betrayal. However, they caution against getting stuck in denial, as it can hinder the healing process. They discuss the importance of acknowledging the damage done to the relationship and oneself, rather than skipping straight to forgiveness, which can prevent true healing.

The conversation is rounded out with personal insights and experiences, highlighting the complexities of forgiveness and the necessity of seeing real change in a partner's behavior before moving forward.

In this episode of Healing with Worth, hosts Janine and Naomi delve

The hosts stress the importance of connection in healing, warning against

In this episode of Healing with Worth, hosts Janine and Naomi continue their exploration of myths and misconceptions about boundaries. They delve into the essential nature of boundaries, discussing how they are crucial for creating a sense of peace and safety, especially when such security has been compromised. The hosts clarify that boundaries are personal and do not necessarily need to be communicated to others. They emphasize that boundaries are actionable steps taken to protect oneself, not passive guidelines.

Janine and Naomi debunk several myths, such as the idea that setting boundaries is a sign of weakness or that it will make others dislike you. They highlight the importance of self-respect and assertiveness in maintaining healthy boundaries. The discussion also touches on the misconception that boundaries are rigid and inflexible, explaining that they are dynamic and can change over time as individuals grow and circumstances evolve.

The hosts share personal experiences, illustrating the complexities and challenges of setting boundaries, particularly in relationships where there may be overt or covert abusive behaviors. They underscore the importance of continually reassessing and adjusting boundaries to ensure ongoing safety and well-being. The episode concludes with a promise to continue this vital discussion in future episodes, as there are many more myths and nuances to explore.

Episode: Self Care for Recovery

Closing Thoughts: Emphasize the importance of modeling self-care for children and setting goals in areas such as spiritual, intellectual, physical, and social aspects of life. The episode concludes with a quote from Kristen Neff on the transformative power of self-compassion.

Join your hosts, Janine and Naomi, as we dive into an enlightening discussion with our special guest, Ashley Hilton. Ashley recently graduated with her master's degree in counseling and is working toward dual licensing as a Licensed Professional Counselor and Marriage and Family Therapist in Colorado. She works with individuals, couples, families, and groups, focusing on those dealing with betrayal, trauma, infidelity, compulsive pornography addiction, and shame.

In todays episode, Janine and Naomi are diving into the vital topic of boundaries. We'll discuss the importance of setting boundaries not just with our husbands, but also in various aspects of our lives where we might find ourselves overextending to accommodate others.