After betrayal there are many internal struggles that a mother faces as she tries to meet her own emotional needs and then balance those with the needs of her children.  In the hard moments we "should ourselves" or in other words give ourselves guilt trips about all the things we think we should be doing.  That can be pretty common with women in general, but then you throw the mom guilt in with betrayal trauma and it can heighten destructive unhealthy patterns.  We are so grateful for KayLee Dunn coming on the podcast to explain how betrayal trauma affects mothering and how to connect with our children and balance our own healing.  We love KayLee's honest and realistic approach to mothering while dealing with betrayal trauma.  We hope that you will feel validated and uplifted as we did talking with her!

Kaylee is an EMDR therapist and she specializes in betrayal, trauma, and unwanted sexual behaviors. She provides tele-health therapy services to women and men in Utah and Arizona.  She also co facilitates a weekly live group discussion through her free Facebook community called Awake Resilience From Betrayal. Kaylee is also a mom to triplets who are seven and twins who are five years old. 

Show Notes:

Follow Kaylee on instagram @kayleecdunn and join her free private facebook community:  Awake Resilience From Betrayal

Continuing our discussion on Mine, His, and Our Recovery, in this episode we talk about his recovery.  In the beginning of our own recovery journey, this was important for us to understand because we felt like we needed information and tools to be able to discern whether or not he was in recovery.  One important lesson we have learned is we cannot control or manage his recovery.  

Listen as we discuss a list of ways to tell if he is working his own recovery from Rhyll Croshaw's book, "What Can I Do About Me?"

Show Notes:

This episode discussion stems from Rhyll Anne Croshaw's book "What Can I Do About Me?  To read or download the book you can find it on Amazon:  What Can I Do About Me?: Rhyll Anne Croshaw: 9780981957616: Amazon.com: Books

On the podcast we talk about recovery all the time and we wanted to break it down and be more specific. Over the next 3 episodes we talk about what our recovery looks like as betrayed, what his recovery looks like as the betrayer or the addicted, and then what couple recovery looks like.

These are three separate categories in this process that sometimes we want to lump all together under the umbrella of "recovery", and they really are distinct and separate categories. 

In this episode we're going to start with our recovery and what that looks like, and give some specifics on what to look for.

If you're wondering, am I in recovery or where am I in recovery, we hope that you find this episode helpful today.

How can breaking free from isolation that betrayal can create, to connectiion help us heal?

Brene Brown says, "I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued when they can give and receive without judgment and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship." 

We personally recognize that isolation is such a lonely place to be. One of the benefits of coming out of isolation into connection is that it really helps to combat the loneliness that you feel and to validate your experience and your feelings. 

We have experienced healing and validation from sharing our story with others who can personally and deeply relate to you.

Listen as we share our first steps into connecting with others and recovery groups that have helped us.

Show notes:

If you would like to find out more about joining a WORTH group you can learn more about us and enroll here

Tammy Gustafson, Licensed Professional Counselor with Live Free Counseling, joins us today on the podcast to share her personal story of betrayal and recovery and becoming a therapist and coach.  She has a particular passion for helping wives who've experienced sexual betrayal trauma heal and move forward.

Tammy specializes in helping women heal from the bad things that happened to them so they can move forward in life with purpose, joy, and confidence.  

Show Notes:

For a free empowering gift from Tammy head to her website betrayalhealing.com

Book Recommendations:

Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back: Arterburn, Stephen, Martinkus, Jason B.: 9781601425362: Amazon.com: Books

Rescued: Martinkus, Shelley S: 9780982638279: Amazon.com: Books

This episode is the second part of our interview with Jeff to discuss a topic he is very passionate about.  Over many years of working with men and women dealing with sex addiction, he is helping the women he works with individually and in group recognize the emotional abuse the sex addiction is causing in their relationship.

Helping women break free of denial and recognize the emotional abuse, gas lighting and manipulation, women will then have questions of what do I do now and how do I move forward?  Now holding on to that reality, we need to learn how to set boundaries.  Group therapy plays a vital role in helping women with the guidance of a therapist and support of other women make those boundaries and learn how to keep them in their life.    We hope you enjoy this week's episode and stay tuned for part 2 coming next week.

Jeff Ford MS, LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in St. George, UT. Jeff specializes in treating pornography and sexual addiction. He also works with spouses and family members that are affected by addiction.

If you would like to know more about Jeff or how to work with him you can contact him at https://aspirecounselinggroup.net/jeff-ford-ms-lmft/

Jeff Ford MS, LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in St. George, UT. Jeff specializes in treating pornography and sexual addiction. He also works with spouses and family members that are affected by addiction.  

We are honored to have Jeff with us today to discuss a topic he is very passionate about.  Over many years of working with men and women dealing with sex addiction, he is helping the women he works with individually and in group recognize the emotional abuse the sex addiction is causing in their relationship.

Helping women break free of denial and recognize the emotional abuse, gas lighting and manipulation, women will then have questions of what do I do now and how do I move forward?  Now holding on to that reality, we need to learn how to set boundaries.  Group therapy plays a vital role in helping women with the guidance of a therapist and support of other women make those boundaries and learn how to keep them in their life.  

Today's episode is the second part of our interview with licensed therapist Randi Gray on Somatic Experiencing and EMDR work in trauma recovery.

At the end of 2020 we had a WORTH member come on the podcast and share how Somatic Experiencing helped her in her healing recovery.  This week we have Licensed therapist Randi Gray LCP, NCC on the podcast to discuss how Somatic Experiencing and EMDR can bring your recovery to the next level.

Randi explains that Somatic Experiencing focuses on resolving fight flight and freeze responses that can sometimes can get trapped in our body during the initial traumatic experience.  This type of therapy allows for the completion of those self protective responses and release that energy, helping us move forward and take us to the next level of healing.

Traumahealing.org states, "Somatic Experiencing® International is the leading authority on the SE™ method and is a major provider of training and educational programs. SE is a body-oriented therapeutic model that helps heal trauma and other stress disorders. Developed by Peter Levine, Ph.D., it is the result of the multidisciplinary study of stress physiology, psychology, ethology, biology, neuroscience, indigenous healing practices, and medical biophysics, with more than 45 years of successful clinical application."

Show Notes and Resources:

To learn more about Somatic Experiencing and find a therapist to work with: https://traumahealing.org/

For more information about EMDR and to find out if it would be helpful in your recovery you can learn more here

To contact Randi Gray you can find her on her website at: https://www.randigraycounseling.com/

Or email her at: [email protected]