This is the second part of an interview of Geoff Steurer MS, LMFT on therapeutic disclosures.  

A full therapeutic disclosure is: "As detailed as you need it to be, including the truth about all sexual behaviors past and present. Accompanied by professional care for you before, during, and after the disclosure." www.btr.org

Show Notes:

Formal Disclosure Documents by Mary A. Lee LMFT , CSAT-S

"Disclosing Secrets:  An Addicts Guide For When, To Whom, And How Much To Reveal" by M Deborah Corley Ph.D. and Jennifer P Schneider M.D.

"Full Disclosure: Seeking Truth After Sexual Betrayal: Volume 1: How Disclosure Can Help You Heal" by Dan Drake and Janice Caudill

To find Geoff and access his work or online courses you can reach him at:  https://www.geoffsteurer.com/ or on his podcast The Illuminate

https://anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast

We were fortunate to have Geoff Steurer, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist come on the podcast to discuss therapeutic disclosures. 

A full therapeutic disclosure is: "As detailed as you need it to be, including the truth about all sexual behaviors past and present. Accompanied by professional care for you before, during, and after the disclosure." www.btr.org

Listen as he answers our questions:

 We are so grateful to Geoff, for his expertise, for the work he is doing to help marriages heal, and his validation to us.

Show notes:

"The research shows that over 90% of people who complete a full therapeutic disclosure and end up staying together.  

It's an act of healing, a gesture of contrition, of humility, of trying to rebuild trust and it's worth doing."

To contact Geoff or to learn more about him head to his website: www.geoffsteurer.com

Geoff's Podcast "The Illuminate": https://anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast

With the start of the New Year we wanted to share some exciting interviews we have coming up .  We will be having therapists Dr. Adam Moore, Geoff Streurer, and Dr. Jill Manning on the show.  We are so grateful to them and their willingness to come share their expertise on betrayal trauma with us.   Look for those to be released in the upcoming weeks ahead.

We also wanted to share a message of hope to all of you.  Hope that whatever has brought you here that you will be able to rebuild your life "brick by brick" into something more than you could ever imagine.

We are so grateful to you for listening and going on this journey.  If you have anything you would like us to discuss or potential guest requests we would love to hear from you!  Email us at [email protected]

With the holidays here we wanted to share some of our past favorite episodes with you in case you missed it or would like to take a second listen.  This episode was previously released on 9/3/20.  We were so impressed with the vulnerability and strength of these girls to share what they have learned and how they have grown through the Teen WORTH program and how it's helped their families.

To learn more about Teen WORTH head to our website:  https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/teen-worth/ 

With Christmas and New Year's around the corner, there are a lot of things that we do in a family dynamic, that often during this time when you are experiencing so many emotions around betrayal that bring up a lot of mixed emotions.

We wanted to put out an episode to offer some validation, share some of our experiences, and some of the ways that we've coped and dealt with some of these emotions that come around the holidays when you are in this situation.

Wising that all of you may find some peace this Christmas Holiday season.

Hosts Naomi and Janeen reflect on this past year, favorite episodes, and their takeaway of their personal growth from 2020.  We hope this will inspire you to go back and listen to some of the previous episodes you may not have heard yet.

Thank you for listening and supporting us in our journey to help all women and especially women with betrayal trauma.  If you have anything you would like to hear us talk about, questions, interview requests you can reach out to us at [email protected]

Previous episodes mentioned in this episode:

Stop Gaslighting And The Crazy Making In Your Life (Exclusive Interview) | Episode 13 listen here

The Truth Behind Gaslighting (Exclusive Interview) | Episode 14 listen here

Teen WORTH. Interview with teens on their experience with their own parents' betrayal | Episode 25 listen here

WORTH YSA. Interview with Betrayal Trauma Coach Amie Woolsey| Episode 20 listen here

Healing with WORTH: Somatic Experiencing in healing from betrayal trauma | Episode 31 listen here

WORTH mentor Kara joins us this week to discuss Somatic experiencing and how it can be beneficial to our listeners journey in healing.  Kara is a volunteer for WORTH.  She is involved in the development of a psychoeducational class, the mentor groups and sister in arms program for Life Changing Services. Kara is a latter day Saint and a mother of four.

What is somatic experiencing?  How can Somatic Experiencing help in our recovery journey with betrayal trauma?  Somatic Experiencing is used for trauma in the short term and for developmental trauma as an adjunct to psychotherapy that may span years. Somatic Experiencing attempts to promote awareness and release physical tension that remains in the aftermath of trauma.  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Somatic_experiencing#:~:text=Somatic%20Experiencing%20is%20used%20for,in%20the%20aftermath%20of%20trauma.

Show notes:

Awakening The Tiger by Peter A. Levine

https://www.amazon.com/Waking-Tiger-Healing-Peter-Levine/dp/155643233X

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.

https://www.amazon.com/s?k=the+body+keeps+the+score&i=stripbooks&crid=3EJYWE85A0USS&sprefix=the+body+%2Cstripbooks%2C297&ref=nb_sb_ss_ts-a-p_1_9

Recognizing and Responding to Destructive and Abusive Relationship Patterns: A Stay by the Tree webinar special

In this episode of our special Stay By the Tree series, we are joined by clinician Kim Day, LMHCA, CCPS. Kim tackles a very delicate topic by being open and straightforward as she talks to women. She talks about people's ways of thinking, behaviors that can be destructive to a marriage, and setting healthy boundaries.

To find out more about Mother's Who Know and the free services they provide head to their website: https://motherswhoknow.org/?fbclid=IwAR2CBXNw4FsaOmb3NNpxb0bD98SsYJbPBXpMsDBLVH_9S5AzIdPc-Z2-wf0

Talk Referenced in this episode is from a BYU devotional by Lili Anderson, Three Realms of Law, Light and Life. https://video.byui.edu/media/Lili+Anderson+%22Three+Realms+of+Law%2C+Light%2C+and+Life%22/0_k2l3a4f2

This episode is from a presentation WORTH director Alana Gordon LMFT-I gave on the Mothers Who Know Stay By The Tree Webinar Series.

Mothers Who Know, founded by Karen Broadhead, is an online community where mothers support other mothers and learn how to protect children against pornography.  To learn more about them and find out how to sign up for their free online classes head to their website: https://motherswhoknow.org/

You can follow Mothers Who Know on social media:

https://www.instagram.com/mothers_whoknow/

By now you and your family have been home for 7 very long months.  This added pressure of helping kids with distance learning or home schooling and possibly working and doing school themselves has added to many women's plate during 2020.  For women with betrayal trauma struggling to find the time to take care of yourself is already difficult, how do you practice self care during covid?  How do you make the time to even do this?  One of our wonderful WORTH therapists Jody VanDrimmelen, MSW, LCSW came to speak on the podcast about the topic of self care and gives us great tools and tips how to make this is a priority during this time of working from home, school from home, church at home, and even therapy at home!  

We learned so much from this episode and hope that you will be able to take these tips and start working on just one at a time to care of you today.

You can learn more about Jody and the work she does in and out of WORTH at https://www.ldscounselordfw.com/