Healing with WORTH

Jeff Ford MS, LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in St. George, UT. Jeff specializes in treating pornography and sexual addiction. He also works with spouses and family members that are affected by addiction.  

We are honored to have Jeff with us today to discuss a topic he is very passionate about.  Over many years of working with men and women dealing with sex addiction, he is helping the women he works with individually and in group recognize the emotional abuse the sex addiction is causing in their relationship.

Helping women break free of denial and recognize the emotional abuse, gas lighting and manipulation, women will then have questions of what do I do now and how do I move forward?  Now holding on to that reality, we need to learn how to set boundaries.  Group therapy plays a vital role in helping women with the guidance of a therapist and support of other women make those boundaries and learn how to keep them in their life.  

Today's episode is the second part of our interview with licensed therapist Randi Gray on Somatic Experiencing and EMDR work in trauma recovery.

At the end of 2020 we had a WORTH member come on the podcast and share how Somatic Experiencing helped her in her healing recovery.  This week we have Licensed therapist Randi Gray LCP, NCC on the podcast to discuss how Somatic Experiencing and EMDR can bring your recovery to the next level.

Randi explains that Somatic Experiencing focuses on resolving fight flight and freeze responses that can sometimes can get trapped in our body during the initial traumatic experience.  This type of therapy allows for the completion of those self protective responses and release that energy, helping us move forward and take us to the next level of healing.

Traumahealing.org states, "Somatic Experiencing® International is the leading authority on the SE™ method and is a major provider of training and educational programs. SE is a body-oriented therapeutic model that helps heal trauma and other stress disorders. Developed by Peter Levine, Ph.D., it is the result of the multidisciplinary study of stress physiology, psychology, ethology, biology, neuroscience, indigenous healing practices, and medical biophysics, with more than 45 years of successful clinical application."

Show Notes and Resources:

To learn more about Somatic Experiencing and find a therapist to work with: https://traumahealing.org/

For more information about EMDR and to find out if it would be helpful in your recovery you can learn more here

To contact Randi Gray you can find her on her website at: https://www.randigraycounseling.com/

Or email her at: [email protected]

Today's episode is all about how to use a specialized form of therapy to release trauma from your body and bring your recovery to the next level.

At the end of 2020 we had a WORTH member come on the podcast and share how Somatic Experiencing helped her in her healing recovery.  This week we have Licensed therapist Randi Gray LCP, NCC on the podcast to discuss how Somatic Experiencing and EMDR can bring your recovery to the next level.

Randi explains that people generally use talk therapy to learn healthy coping skills where with EMDR and somatic experiencing you are doing deeper level of work, helping you access parts of your brain that stores trauma.

Goodtherapy.org states "Somatic Experiencing® (SE™) was developed by Peter A. Levine, PhD to address the effects of trauma. Levine developed this approach after observing that prey animals, whose lives are routinely threatened in the wild, are able to recover readily by physically releasing the energy they accumulate during stressful events. Humans, on the other hand, often override these natural ways of regulating the nervous system with feelings of shame and pervasive thoughts, judgments, and fears. Somatic Experiencing aims to help people move past the place where they might be “stuck” in processing a traumatic event."

"What are you willing to sacrifice for your safety and well-being?"  In this follow up episode to creating safety through boundaries we discuss what fear we personally have had creating boundaries and what also may be holding you back. 

Dr. Jill Manning shared with us in her interview in Episode 44 and 45, the top 5 barriers that hold us back from creating boundaries for ourselves. This list is from her 21 barriers that can be downloaded on her website (link in show notes).  In this episode we go through her top 5 barriers and relate them to our own personal experience in our relationships.  

Show Notes:

https://drjillmanning.com/product-category/all/free-printables/

This is the final episode of a 3 part interview.  At the beginning of this year we shared with you that we really wanted to have stories of hope from couples who have both worked their recovery through betrayal trauma and addiction.  Make sure to listen to the first parts in Episodes 41 and 42 before listening to this episode. 

In this episode TC and Jon Jolley share where they are today and how they got involved in producing a video of their story on the church's website.  To watch that video you can find it here: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/help-for-spouses/stories-of-hope/god-supports-us?lang=eng

They were so gracious to share their time with us and their story of betrayal, addiction, and today their beautiful message of hope and healing.  We have turned their story into a three part series for you.  

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This is part 2 of a 3 part interview.  Make sure to listen to the first part in Episode 41 before listening to this one.  At the beginning of this year we shared with you that we really wanted to have stories of hope from couples who have both worked their recovery through betrayal trauma and addiction.

In this episode TC and Jon Jolley share what their separation period was like for each of them.

They were so gracious to share their time with us and their story of betrayal, addiction, and today their beautiful message of hope and healing.  We have turned their story into a three part series for you.  Please listen to next weeks episode to hear their complete story.

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@healingwithworth6

At the beginning of this year we shared with you that we really wanted to have stories of hope from couples who have both worked their recovery through betrayal trauma and addiction.

In this first part TC and Jon share their story from each of their perspectives on what they went through from Jon's first disclosure and the aftermath of all that was brought to light.

We are happy to share part 2 of our interview with Dr Adam Moore.  Dr. Moore is a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-owner of Sila health, which operates mental health counseling offices in Utah and Nevada.  He also hosts a mental health podcast called Pocket Therapist, and has been a guest on dozens of other podcasts. He is a relationship and mental health expert and specializes in treating compulsive pornography use.

Listen as we discuss the process of healing from trauma and what we need to go through in order to heal through "neural network rewiring".

To find out more about Adam and his work you can find him at: https://adammmoore.com/

Show Notes:

Dan Solen https://utahvalleycounseling.com/blog/therapists/daniel-solen/

We were honored to have Doctor Adam Moore on the podcast!  Dr. Moore is a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-owner of Sila health, which operates mental health counseling offices in Utah and Nevada.  He also hosts a mental health podcast called Pocket Therapist, and has been a guest on dozens of other podcasts. He is a relationship and mental health expert and specializes in treating compulsive pornography use.  

Listen as we discuss the process of healing from trauma and what we need to go through in order to heal through "neural network rewiring".  

To find out more about Adam and his work you can find him at: https://adammmoore.com/

Show Notes:  Studies show that married women are more likely to experience trauma symptoms than single women who's partners have a compulsive problem with pornography.  

Susan Johnson EFT https://drsuejohnson.com/

In this second part of the conversation of Physical Intimacy we discuss what our beliefs are today around sexuality and some of the boundaries we have in place to have safety.

We want to point out that safety involves much more than physical safety. It involves spiritual, emotional, and mental.  All types of safety are necessary to be established before you reach the connection of physical.

If those other types of safety aren't established we are missing trust in the relationship which is a foundational part of a relationship. Trust is the groundwork for relationships to build any kind of connection on.

Show Notes:

Jason Carroll: BYU Professor, Department of Family Life https://fhssfaculty.byu.edu/FacultyPage/jc32

Laura Brotherson: Agency, Change and Sex https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/Agency-Change-and-Sex.pdf