We are back today with Part 2 about getting to our why's about divorce with Roxanne Granata! 

Last week, we discussed our why's about staying and how to navigate that.  If you missed this episode, please see show notes to listen in as there are insights for staying and divorcing as well. 

In this episode, we are talking more about moving into separation and possibly divorce and what that might look like. One question Roxanne encourages us to ask ourselves to think more about is "Do I feel more peaceful being separated/distancing myself than I do when we're together?" She tells us that trusting our gut will help guide us through these decisions, but that choice does not need to be made immediately. There also may be some fear of the possibilities after divorce, but she also gives experiences of the change that might result because of that decision. 

Please listen in for insights of the decision of divorce and thoughts/ideas of how to navigate that. Ultimate question: What is the life you want to have and experience?

Show Notes:

If you would like to listen in to #78 on our Why's of Staying with Roxanne, please do that here. 

If you would like to listen in to the 70 episodes that Roxanne has released, please listen in here.

If you would like more information on Roxanne Granata, please visit her website and instagram below:

www.roxannekennedygranata.com

Instagram: Roxanne Kennedy Granata

If you would like to be apart of Worth's marriage or divorce groups, you can enroll here and receive the first 6 months free!

We are back today as promised with a new episode with the lovely Roxanne Granata! Roxanne is a betrayal trauma coach, the author of Cutting Ties, the host of the Choose In Podcast and a speaker and advocate helping others move through trauma and other life problems and on to a happy and healing life. She has been divorced and now remarried for the past 2 years. Together they have 7 children and one grandbaby. Roxanne has graciously accepted to come on to discuss the topic of divorce, as that as been highly requested by you, our listeners. 

In this episode, we discuss the why's of staying in a marriage.  Roxanne informs us that there might be two common reasons why we may fear the thought of divorce and helps us to recognize some underlying feelings that might be associated with these. If we choose to stay, there may be some "poisonous" behaviors present that we may need to watch out for. She gives us a few examples, as well as ideas of how to keep ourselves safe and healthy. 

Next week we will be back with part 2 on the "why's of divorce" and we hope you'll listen in as both give great insights! 

Show Notes: 

If you would like more information on Roxanne Granata, please visit her website and instagram below: 

www.roxannekennedygranata.com

Instagram: Roxanne Kennedy Granata

If you would like to be apart of Worth's marriage or divorce groups, you can enroll here and receive the first 6 months free! 

Re-releasing Part 2 of our interview with Dr. Jill Manning! 

This episode is in response to a listener question on how to set boundaries.  In the previous episode we addressed what boundaries are, what they are not, and how to set them.  In this episode we will be discussing barriers to boundaries, reasons why we have a hard time setting and keeping boundaries, and how to overcome these barriers.

The quicker that we can learn to be effective in identifying, finding, setting boundaries, and forcing and upholding those when, and if they are violated, will be a gift to healing for both people. We are not suggesting the person setting boundaries is responsible for both people's healing paths, but it will have a positive effect on the whole family.

We are grateful to have Dr. Jill Manning, Ph.D., LMFT, CCPS, CCTP, BC-TMH with us to discuss the topic of boundaries. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in working with individuals impacted by betrayal trauma in their primary relationship.

Over the last 20 years, her academic and clinical work has been featured in numerous peer review journals. Television programs, TV shows, magazine articles, including the Oprah magazine. She is a former social science fellow at the heritage foundation in Washington, DC. And while she was in that role, she testified before the US Senate subcommittee about the harms of pornography on the family.

She currently serves on the board of directors and the advisory council for Fight The New Drug. She is a native of Calgary, Alberta, Canada, and currently lives in Colorado with her husband and two daughters. Thank you for sharing you time and expertise with us Dr. Manning.

Make sure to check out our show notes with resources Dr. Manning shared with us.

Show Notes and Resources:

1. Personal Boundaries: A Worksheet for Betrayed Individuals

https://drjillmanning.com/product/personal-boundaries-a-worksheet-for-betrayed-individuals/

2. Eleven Responses to Boundary Violations

https://drjillmanning.com/product/eleven-responses-boundary-violations/

3. Boundary Work Bundle (Combines both documents at a discounted rate):

https://drjillmanning.com/product/boundary-work-bundle/

Link to the entire Digital Download Store: https://drjillmanning.com/digital-downloads/

Link to Free Printables: https://drjillmanning.com/product-category/all/free-printables/

https://drjillmanning.com/product/bookmark/

To start off the year, we are re-releasing this episode with Jill Manning on Boundaries! We will be back in 2 weeks with a new podcast for you with Roxanne Granata! 

During our healing journey we hear how important boundaries are, but how do we know what boundaries we need and then how do we set them in our relationships?

This episode is in response to a listener question on how to set boundaries.  This can be a really difficult concept for some people to understand, especially if you haven't been used to setting them.  It's one of the key components related to our healing , especially if we continue to be in a relationship where there have been patterns of lying present, we really need to protect ourselves.  Some of the takeaways that we would love for you listeners is 

We are grateful to have Dr. Jill Manning, Ph.D., LMFT, CCPS, CCTP, BC-TMH with us to discuss the topic of boundaries. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in working with individuals impacted by betrayal trauma in their primary relationship.

Over the last 20 years, her academic and clinical work has been featured in numerous peer review journals. Television programs, TV shows, magazine articles, including the Oprah magazine. She is a former social science fellow at the heritage foundation in Washington, DC. And while she was in that role, she testified before the US Senate subcommittee about the harms of pornography on the family.

She currently serves on the board of directors and the advisory council for Fight The New Drug. She is a native of Calgary, Alberta, Canada, and currently lives in Colorado with her husband and two daughters. Thank you for sharing you time and expertise with us Dr. Manning.

Make sure to check out our show notes with resources Dr. Manning shared with us.

Show Notes and Resources:

1. Personal Boundaries: A Worksheet for Betrayed Individuals

https://drjillmanning.com/product/personal-boundaries-a-worksheet-for-betrayed-individuals/

2. Eleven Responses to Boundary Violations

https://drjillmanning.com/product/eleven-responses-boundary-violations/

3. Boundary Work Bundle (Combines both documents at a discounted rate):

https://drjillmanning.com/product/boundary-work-bundle/

Link to the entire Digital Download Store: https://drjillmanning.com/digital-downloads/

Link to Free Printables: https://drjillmanning.com/product-category/all/free-printables/

https://drjillmanning.com/product/bookmark/

Happy New Year! We are so excited to start this year off with you and highlights that are coming!

Many of you have asked to hear more of topics on divorce and how to navigate that. We are fulfilling the request! To help us discuss these, we have invited Roxanne Granata, Amie Woosley, and Emily Sanchez to help us better understand when it might be time to consider a divorce or when you might know when to stay married. We hope that you will watch out for these podcasts as they will be released in the first few months of this year! Please listen in as they share perspective that could be helpful for many.

We also want to start the new year with a little fun! If you go on apple podcasts and give us a review, we will be reading the review and calling out tag names during our podcast. When and if yours's is called, we will be sending you a little gift from us to say thank you. Our thank you of helping us reach other women who may be experiencing betrayal trauma in silence who could receive the help that they need.

Thank you for listening and we hope you'll continue to! 

Show Notes: 

If you would like to join our marriage or divorce Worth groups, please do that here.

To submit a review, please go to apple podcasts and search Healing with Worth. We'd love to get your feedback! 

If you have any questions, topics you'd like discussed, or any guests that you'd like us to reach out to, please email us at [email protected]

To end the year with a bang, we wanted to do a recap of some of our favorite episodes from 2021! It has been a great year with so many wonderful guests and professionals that we've had the pleasure of interviewing on the podcast. They have given us insight into healing, and we hope that you have found validation, guidance and hope in your journey through these episodes. If you would like to listen to any of the podcasts mentioned in the episode, some will be included in the show notes below. 

If you have anything you would like to hear us talk about, questions, interview requests you can reach out to us at [email protected]

Show Notes: 

If you would like to listen to Kim Day's Sexual Abuse episodes, listen here.

If you would like to listen to Jeff Ford's Emotional Abuse episodes, listen here. 

If you would like to listen to Noelle McBride's Divorce episodes, listen here. 

If you would like to listen to Jeff Steurer's Therapeutic Disclosure episodes, listen here. 

If you would like to listen to Jill Manning's Boundary episodes, listen here. 

If you would like to listen to Tammy Gustafson's episode, listen here.

If you would like to listen to Jody Steurer and Jamee Adam's episodes, listen here. 

We want to wish you all a Merry Christmas! In this episode, we discuss the Macaroni Necklace Analogy. It is also known as the airplane or buffalo/squirrel analogy. 

Have you ever received a macaroni necklace from your child that they made at school that day? You get so excited because they feel so proud of their efforts and want you to wear/be proud of it too. You may smile and wear it around the house, but at the end of the day, you won't wear it to church. 

This can often correlate with the relationship we have with our spouse and their sexual behaviors. If you are interested in learning how, please listen in!

We recommend you say no to the macaroni necklaces this year for Christmas and know that your safety is important. 

Show Notes: 

If you would like to join Jody's Worth group, or any other Worth marriage or divorce group, please do that here at https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/enroll/

If you would like to read more about pioneer mode that Janeen was talking about, please visit our website with many other recovery terms and concepts here https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/common-recovery-terms-and-concepts/

We have a special episode for you today! Naomi and Janeen were invited to be on the amazing Choose To Be podcast with Choose Recovery Services' therapist Alana Gordon and Amie Woosley.

Our hosts share a little bit more about their stories and how they came to be the hosts of the Healing with Worth podcast. 

We discuss the importance of having support when you are going through betrayal trauma or divorce, struggles that can arise in religious culture through healing, how to know when we come to a point where we need help, and gaining worth and empowerment in your journey. 

 Hopefully this helps you get to know our hosts just a little bit better! 

Show Notes: 

If you would like to listen in to any of the Choose To Be podcast from Choose Recovery Services, you can do that here https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/podcast/

If you would like to learn more about Alana, Amie, or team members of Choose Recovery Services, you can do that on their website: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/

If you would like to join the Worth program, marriage or divorce groups are available at https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/enroll/

Another analogy to our series! 

Here we are discussing the greenhouse analogy. This term, along with many others, comes from the director of Life Changing Services, Maurice Harker, who has studied psychology and human relationships for the last 25+ years. He often uses this term to help those women who are looking to repair their marriages, but it can also be applied to those who are needing distance to provide safety for themselves. 

To give a better understanding, we go over the ways a greenhouse provides safety for a plant to survive and thrive such as supplying the proper temperature, nutrients, sunlight, water, etc. It also protects the plant from outside elements such as freezing or scalding temperatures. 

This same concept can be applied to women who are experiencing betrayal trauma. They may have felt the affects of outside forces, so now they find they are needing to provide safety for themselves. Listen in to find ways of how to do that! 

Show Notes: 

If you would like to enroll in one of our Worth marriage or divorce groups, you can do that here at https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/enroll/

We have Worth therapist, Jody VanDrimmelen back with us to talk about weather checking and when the wind blows analogies!

The weather checking analogy comes from the founder and director of Life Changing Services, Maurice Harker. If you would like to read more about it, you can follow the link below. 

This concept of weather checking is much like how we check the weather outside to determine how we dress, navigate possibly dangerous areas, and what path we take to our destination. To determine if it is safe to engage with our spouse, we might put our hand on his chest to see what the reaction might be. 

We also discuss the concept of when the wind blows. This idea often corresponds with weather checking because you may be noticing different behaviors in your spouse. He may be telling you everything is fine, but your gut is telling you something different. Listen in to hear of ways that we might find the need to disconnect to a safe distance if red flags arise or if everything is okay. 

Show Notes: 

To read more about the term "weather checking", you can do that here at https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/common-recovery-terms-and-concepts/

To join the Worth program, you can enroll here at https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/enroll/ We would love to help you in your healing process.