Core beliefs are the fundamental, deeply held beliefs we develop in early childhood that shape how we see ourselves, others, and the world around us. In this eye-opening episode, Lindsey breaks down how eating disorders stem from and reinforce negative core beliefs that can take years to heal from. Learn about the three types of core beliefs that are secretly feeding your disordered eating patterns and discover how to identify and transform these beliefs to break free from the cycle keeping you stuck.
Key Takeaways
Core beliefs are fundamental truths you've made into idols that need to be challengedEating disorders stem from and reinforce negative core beliefs developed in childhoodThere are 3 types of core beliefs: how you see yourself, others, and the worldYou are becoming someone you've never been before - be patient with that process"You either quit or keep going - they both hurt. Choose your hurt wisely."The 3 Types of Core Beliefs
Type 1: How You See Yourself
Self-worth and personal valueSelf-competence, skills, and abilitiesSelf-identity - who you are at your coreBeliefs shaped by caretakers, feedback, and criticisms over your lifetime"I'm not good enough" leads to perfectionism, restriction, and rigidityFalse identity created by the eating disorder becomes your truthTying worth and value to performance instead of inherent valueBuild self-compassion through recovery inspirationEmbrace your identity as "daughter of the most high, warrior, queen"Recognize the voice in your head is a false narrativeUnderstand you don't have to earn, restrict, or compensate for nourishmentType 2: How You View Other People
Trustworthiness and reliability of othersBeliefs about goodwill and kindness in peoplePrejudices and stereotypesSafety mechanisms developed from rejection or inconsistent caregiving"If I can just be perfect, I'll have less rejection"Using food and exercise to control how others perceive you"If I gain weight, will my husband/boyfriend still want me?"Stop comparing yourself to other peopleUnderstand most people don't actually care about your recovery journeySet boundaries with people who aren't in your cornerAccept support from those who truly want what's best for youType 3: Your Perception of the World
Beliefs about safety vs. danger in your environmentAbundance vs. scarcity mindsetBeliefs about available resources and opportunitiesLevel of control you have over your life and world events"The world is unsafe, so I must perform to prove my value"Searching for control and stability through food/body managementFear-based restriction during uncertain timesChallenge wellness culture and societal body image messagesCreate personal meaning and purpose beyond the disorder"Stay away from processed bodies rather than processed foods"How Core Beliefs Create ED Cycles
Core beliefs affect your motivations, goals, life choices, and desires for freedomNegative self-perception breeds perfectionism and restrictionFear of others' judgment results in using food and exercise for controlWorldview of unsafety heightens need to prove value through performancePowerful Quotes from This Episode
"You are becoming someone you've never met before - and that's what I want you to take with you today.""What other people think of you is not your business.""No one truly cares what you are doing in your recovery outside of those closest to you.""You either quit or you get to keep going, and they both hurt. Choose your hurt wisely.""We have to stop living and breeding a culture where our daughters feel wrong for being in their own body."The Core Belief Transformation Process
Step 1: Identification
Recognize which of the 3 types of core beliefs are impacting your EDIdentify the "fundamental truths" you've made into idolsUnderstand these beliefs reinforce unhealthy coping mechanismsStep 2: Challenge
Question beliefs about yourself, others, and the worldRecognize many beliefs aren't even yours - they were inheritedChallenge wellness culture and societal messagesStep 3: Rebuild
Build self-compassion and embrace your true identitySet boundaries and stop caring about bystanders' opinionsCreate meaning and purpose beyond the disorderWarning Signs Your Core Beliefs Are Feeding Your ED
Tying your worth to your performance or appearanceBelieving you must be perfect to avoid rejectionUsing food/exercise to control how others see youFeeling unsafe in the world and needing control through restrictionBelieving you're "not good enough" or "unlovable"The Recovery Mindset Shifts
From: "I'm not good enough" To: "I am a warrior becoming someone I've never been before"
From: "I must be perfect to be loved" To: "I am worthy of love exactly as I am"
From: "The world is unsafe" To: "I can create meaning and purpose beyond my fears"
Journal Prompts for Core Belief Work
"What beliefs about myself are keeping me stuck in ED patterns?""How much influence am I allowing others to have in my recovery?""What worldview am I holding that makes me feel unsafe?""Which core beliefs are reinforcing my unhealthy coping mechanisms?"The Call to Action
Challenge societal messages about body image and successStand up for your truth"Stay away from processed bodies rather than processed foods"Stop creating negative cycles for future generationsSigns You're Ready to Transform Core Beliefs
You recognize these beliefs are "idols" you've createdYou're tired of caring what everyone else thinksYou want to break generational cyclesYou're ready to become someone you've never been beforeYou understand recovery requires belief transformation, not just behavior changeReady to Break the Chains of Limiting Core Beliefs?
If you're ready for personalized support in transforming the core beliefs keeping you stuck, Lindsey has one slot available for personal coaching, plus amazing support coaches on her team.
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Lindsey Nichol is a former competitive figure skater turned God-led entrepreneur, boy mom, and digital CEO. She understands how core beliefs formed in childhood can create and maintain eating disorder patterns, and she's passionate about helping women identify and transform these beliefs to find lasting freedom.
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*While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.