It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

High Conflict and Intimate Partner Violence: The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (Part 4)


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The Intersection of High Conflict Personalities and Domestic Violence

In this compelling episode, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter dive into the complex relationship between high conflict personalities and domestic violence. They explore how individuals who have borderline personality disorder (BPD) and antisocial personality disorder (ASPD) may contribute to intimate partner violence (IPV), while emphasizing the importance of distinguishing between high conflict families and domestic violence cases.

Bill and Megan discuss the challenges faced by professionals in identifying the true perpetrator in a domestic violence situation, as well as the underlying fears and motivations that may drive abusive behavior in individuals with these personality types. They also address the issue of accountability and the potential benefits of group therapy for individuals who have BPD.

Questions we answer in this episode:

  • How do high conflict personalities relate to domestic violence?
  • What role do individuals who have BPD and ASPD play in intimate partner violence?
  • What are effective interventions for perpetrators of domestic violence?

Key Takeaways:

  • Distinguishing between high conflict families and domestic violence cases is crucial.
  • Individuals who have BPD and ASPD have a higher incidence of IPV perpetration.
  • Setting limits and imposing consequences are essential for holding perpetrators accountable.

This episode offers valuable insights into the complexities of domestic violence and high conflict personalities, making it a must-listen for anyone navigating these challenges.

Links & Other Notes

  • BOOKS
    • Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
    • Our New World of Adult Bullies
    • Dating Radar
    • Calming Upset People with EAR
    • High Conflict People in Legal Disputes
  • COURSES
    • Conversations About Domestic Violence in Family Law with 16 Experts
    • Strategies for Helping Clients with Borderline Personalities in Divorce
    • Handling Family Law Cases Involving Antisocial High Conflict People
  • ARTICLES
    • Domestic Violence vs. High Conflict Families: Are one or two people driving the conflict?
    • Domestic Violence and Personality Disorders: What’s the Connection?
    • Living with High-Conflict People: Do’s and Don’ts for Living with an Antisocial High Conflict People
    • Differences in Dealing with Borderline, Narcissistic and Antisocial Clients in Family Law
    • Why I Wrote Splitting
    • Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder in Family Law Cases
  • OUR WEBSITE
    • https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
  • QUESTIONS
    • Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
  • All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
  • You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

  • (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
  • (00:38) - The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life Part 4
  • (01:26) - Domestic Violence and HCPs
  • (03:49) - Bill’s Background
  • (06:48) - Stats
  • (09:23) - Anti-Social
  • (14:38) - Verbally Abusive
  • (16:42) - Accountability
  • (18:53) - Disruptive
  • (20:21) - When Law Enforcement’s Involved
  • (23:13) - Borderline Personality
  • (27:17) - More Reactive
  • (28:18) - Remorse
  • (29:41) - Can't Control Themselves
  • (31:06) - Generalizations
  • (31:38) - When in One of These Relationships
  • (36:09) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Law Enforcement Guest

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