It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

High Conflict People in Mediation, Emotional Triggers in BIFF Responses, and Hereditary Antisocial Personality Disorder


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In this episode, Bill and Megan continue answering listener questions:

  • “I am a family mediator. My practice focuses on keeping people out of court and helping them navigate their divorce in mediation. In my experience, high conflict personalities do NOT do well in this kind of mediation. It’s as if they “need” the authority of a lawyer or even a judge to bring their expectations and demands into the realm of reality. They often “shoot themselves in the foot” as well.”
  • “I’m curious if you are familiar with Nonviolent Communication. Listening to the BIFF responses podcast, which I love, I’m curious if you consider the emotional side of things when working with companies. I have found that empathy can mitigate emotional triggers so people CAN deliver BIFF responses. Until and unless people get empathy, they may not be able to BIFF it!”
  • “Do you often see High Conflict with Antisocial Personality Disorder in multiple generations? After listening to your podcast about ASD with HCD, I think my father had ASD, and my younger sibling has both. My father passed away after creating much chaos during his life, including disowning me. My sibling is very much alive, and creating a lot of chaos and problems?”

Links & Other Notes

  • BOOKS
    • Mediating High Conflict Disputes
    • 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life

  • COURSE
    • New Ways for Mediation (general mediation) training
    • New Ways for Mediation (family mediation) training
  • ARTICLES
    • How to Spot a Sociopath in 3 Steps
    • True or False? If You’re Not Willing to Adapt Your Strategy with High Conflict People, You Should Get Out Now
    • Ten Paradigm Shifts of High Conflict Mediation
    • New Ways for Mediation: Explaining the Method Step-by-Step
  • Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
  • Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
  • All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
  • You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

  • (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
  • (01:34) - More Listener Questions
  • (02:21) - Mediation and Authority
  • (07:27) - Non-Violent Communication
  • (11:05) - Antisocial Personality Disorder Inherited?
  • (18:18) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: More Listener Questions

  • Learn more about our New Ways for Work Coaching sessions. Get started today!

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