Confessions of a Freebird - Midlife, Divorce, Heal, and Date Differently with Somatic Experiencing, Empty Nest, Well-Being, Happiness

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser (and Start Setting Healthy Boundaries)


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I must confess, I’m a recovering people pleaser. 


For years, I bent over backward to keep the peace in my marriage. I avoided conflict like the plague and ensured everyone else was happy even at the expense of my happiness. Where did it all start? In my childhood.


Does this sound familiar? If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly putting others first, afraid to say no, or sacrificing your needs to gain approval, you're not alone. And it’s time to understand where that stems from and how to change it.


Today I’ll delve into a topic that resonates with many of us—people pleasing.


In this episode, I’ll share: 


  • My personal journey to overcoming people pleasing behavior.
  • What causes us to become people pleasers? 
  • How our coping mechanisms in our childhood can lead to people-pleasing habits as adults.
  • How low self-esteem, negative experiences and trauma can lead to people-pleasing habits. 
  • The 8 common signs of a people pleaser and how setting boundaries can help you recover too.  
  • 10 ways you can stop being a people pleaser.
  • And somatic practices that will help you break free so you can develop stronger boundaries. 


And I share a couple of my favorite quotes from Brené Brown and Glennon Doyle.


So start prioritizing yourself and tune into this episode. 



Cheers to finding more inner freedom,



Laurie


These guides will help you take the next step in life. 


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