What if the secret to thriving after divorce isn’t about pushing harder, but learning when to let go?

In this powerful conversation, Amanda Goetz joins Michelle Dempsey-Multack to unpack toxic grit, the hidden cost of overperformance, and how divorced and single mothers can reclaim energy, clarity, and joy without burning out.

Listeners will walk away with practical frameworks for balance, permission to prioritize themselves, and strategies for rewriting outdated scripts about womanhood, motherhood, and success.

Why toxic grit keeps women trapped in cycles of guilt, overwork, and exhaustion

How Amanda’s Character Theory helps you separate and align the different versions of yourself, mom, professional, partner, and more

The power of transition sequences to reset your energy and reduce overstimulation in parenting and work

Why outsourcing certain tasks (the “sanity tax”) can be essential for single parents

How to navigate guilt, societal expectations, and scripts handed down by family or culture

04:12 – Amanda shares her journey from a small-town upbringing to building a career in tech and marketing while navigating divorce.

11:58 – The hidden weight of toxic grit and why traditional “lean in” culture fails single mothers.

18:20 – Introducing Character Theory, a framework to understand the multiple roles we play and how misalignment leads to burnout.

24:37 – Practical strategies for creating transition sequences that shift your energy between work, parenting, and personal life.

31:15 – The “sanity tax” and how investing in help can protect your well-being and your children’s stability.

36:42 – Reframing guilt and learning to ask: Whose voice am I hearing when shame or doubt creeps in?

40:10 – Amanda’s insights on mosquito tasks, 10-10-10 decision making, and reducing cognitive overload.

Meet The Guest:

Amanda Goetz is an author, CMO, and founder whose upcoming book, Toxic Grit redefines resilience and self-leadership for women. A divorced mother of three, she blends personal experience with business acumen to empower women to pursue ambition without self-sacrifice. She is also the new host of the Girl Boss podcast, reimagined as Ambition 2.0.

Character Theory – understanding the multiple identities within us and how to align them

Transition Sequences – practical rituals to reset energy when shifting roles

Sanity Tax – reframing outsourcing as a necessity, not a luxury

10-10-10 Framework – assessing urgency and significance before reacting

Mosquito Task List – capturing small tasks to reduce cognitive load

“Permission is power. When we give ourselves permission to rest, delegate, and prioritize joy, we break free from the toxic cycles of guilt and overperformance.”

Connect with Amanda:

LikedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandagoetz/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theamandagoetz/

Join The Moving On Collective! A safe, judgment-free support group experience for divorced and divorcing parents: https://bit.ly/MichelleCommunity

Learn from Michelle how to navigate divorce & co-parenting: https://bit.ly/MDMPodStore

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LINK TO TRANSCRIPT: https://transcripts/moving-on-method-ep266-amanda-goetz-reinvention

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