Infinite Devotion

Why does caring for her own beauty matter so much to a woman, and what happens when fear and perfectionism steal the joy from it?

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GO DEEPER: Submissive Foundations, how to be a submissive and never lose your self respect
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Dawn received an email from Jessica Ash asking whether the crunchy community has missed the mark, and reading it out loud moved her to goosebumps and tears. It names something we both believe: beauty is a feminine practice, an art and a ritual, and making herself feel desirable to herself is one way a woman connects with her instincts. Dawn shares how all her health research turned something she once loved into overwhelm, perfectionism and fear, and how leaning into my guidance helped her see that the stress was more poisonous than anything she could put on her body.

We talk about getting ready as a form of meditation, the scarcity that kept her hunting for coupons instead of buying what she wanted, and why men need to understand the value of creating time and space for this. I share why men miss the small details she sees, what to do when she's being hard on herself, and why beauty is one of the values in our contract. We finish with the difference between enhancing natural beauty and looking fake, the lash extensions and the Botox question, and growing old with grace.

Dawn's whole journey here was learning that she matters and is worthy of care, and that her surrender grows from loving herself. Submissive Foundations is where we help women build submission on that ground. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep058&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

If you carry responsibility for her whole life, who is taking care of you? This one is for the Dominant men.

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GO DEEPER: Becoming a Dominant Man, the 12-step path to the authentic Dominance she can trust
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When I teach men about dominance, it starts with taking 100% responsibility for your life. In a 24/7 dynamic that is a lot to hold, and you can only hold it from a place of fullness. Dawn and I talk about how I spent years sacrificing myself for everyone, running a covert contract where I gave everything and quietly expected it all back. I became a shell of a man, and Dawn shares honestly how that cost her desire for me.

We get into why self sacrifice is not a virtue, and the practical ways I now put myself at the top of the list: sleep, dressing well and grooming, eating well, exercise and good water. I explain how putting myself first and putting her needs before mine work together, and why doing these things because she told me to would put her back in control. Dawn speaks to the men who are afraid she'll be upset, and I share why she will never feel about me differently than I feel about myself.

Taking care of yourself first is step two of the path I teach in Becoming a Dominant Man, right after taking full responsibility for your life. The course walks you through all twelve steps I took to reverse the martyrdom we talk about here. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep057&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

Does the submissive really hold all the power in a Dom/sub relationship? Dawn and I take on a comment we keep hearing.

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
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GO DEEPER: Rapture, our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission
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A statement keeps showing up in our YouTube and Instagram comments: in a Dom/sub relationship, the submissive is the one with all the power. Dawn and I sit down to talk it through, starting with what power actually means and why the ability to say no doesn't put anyone in the lead. We get into consent and safe words, the walls-up energy that can hide behind that statement, and why Dawn never wanted the power in the first place.

I explain why I see our dynamic as an exchange rather than a transfer: Dawn surrenders to my lead, and I surrender to her emotional truth, including admitting when she's right. Dawn shares how she learned where to deploy her no, the summer when nearly everything I brought her got an instant no, and how she sits with fear until the truth wins. We close on the humility it takes for me to see my own mess, and the solidity it takes to stand in the truth when her fear is big.

Making love and power exchange work together takes surrender from both of you, and that's what Rapture teaches in full. It's our flagship course for couples who want a dynamic built on trust, intimacy and real desire. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep056&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

Round two of the questions submissive women sent me anonymously, and Dawn is here to ask them.

FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
https://infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep055&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Submissive Foundations, how to be a submissive and never lose your self respect
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep055&utm_content=notes_top

We got so many good questions in part one that we needed a second episode. Dawn reads the questions and I answer, with her adding her side as we go. We start with how I want her to bring me difficult things (right now, unfiltered), whether she ever fights my lead to feel my strength, how accountability works for a Dom through our code of conduct and my friend Eric, and why service tasks need a real purpose behind them.

From there we get into a woman who discovered submission overnight and wants to know how it happened, sharing past sexual trauma with a new partner, and moving from unsafe hookups into healthy exploration without shame. I talk about finding joy by feeling what you've stuffed down, why we keep our kink private, and what a boundary really is: a decision about what you will tolerate, defended by you. We close with titles, longer scenes, building trust in a more controlling dynamic, and how I feel the difference between Dawn performing and Dawn truly surrendering.

So many of these questions come back to the same skill: speaking up, setting boundaries you'll actually stand on, and submitting from self-respect. Submissive Foundations teaches exactly that, including the Use Your Voice module I mention here. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep055&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

Submissive women asked me anything. Dawn read the questions, and I answered every one straight.

FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
https://infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep054&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Submissive Foundations, how to be a submissive and never lose your self respect
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep054&utm_content=notes_top

Dawn hosts this one and reads me the questions submissive women sent in. I talk about why the responsibility of being a Dominant is relentless and still makes life easier, why the best way she can boost me on a rough day is to be alive in herself, and where consensual force and control fit. I share what an open heart looks like in a man, why I still sometimes say please, and how much a downward inflection in a man's voice changes a command.

Most of this episode is for the woman on the other side. We get into changing your mind about something you consented to, what to do when your Dominant is rude, has a temper or goes silent and cold, and how to forgive after he has hurt you. I answer polyamory, whether you are born submissive, why strong independent woman and submissive can't be reconciled, and what happens to your business and career as you soften. And I end with where men like me are hiding.

Almost every answer here came back to the same thing: speak up, use your voice, and learn to live from your feminine instead of your drive. Submissive Foundations walks you through building that foundation as a submissive woman. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep054&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
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Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

Why do so many new D/s dynamics come out of the gate hot and then fizzle out?

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
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GO DEEPER: Structuring Your D/s Dynamic, build the structure that makes your deepest desires real
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In this episode Dawn and I share what actually makes a dynamic last: making it your own as the Dominant, working with the life you really have, giving every rule and ritual a purpose, and starting smaller than you think you should.

We also get into why structure matters at all, who the Dominant is accountable to, communication safe words and weekly check-ins, and why your partner is looking for participation over perfection.

This episode came out alongside Structuring Your D/s Dynamic, and the course is everything here in practice: seven modules with conversation guides and exercises to build agreements, rules, rituals and tasks that fit your real life. Start here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep053&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

One year of the podcast, celebrated live with all of you: how this started, what's changed, and your questions answered.

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep052&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Structuring Your D/s Dynamic, build the structure that makes your deepest desires real
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep052&utm_content=notes_top

Dawn and I went live to mark the first year of the show. We share the backstory of Infinite Devotion, from a blog about fitness, travel and relationships to the questions that poured in once people noticed Dawn's collar in every picture. We talk about choosing the name, making the logo, and why an Instagram caption could never hold what we wanted to say.

Dawn shares how much more real she feels in her own voice a year later, and how little other people's opinions of her collar matter now. We look back on a year of episodes from the road, why we only teach from our own experience, why we don't center kink, and what's next as we go full time in the camper. Then we take your questions on collars, the inner strength a man needs to lead, accepting your own protective patterns, and what we each love most about each other.

Open communication is where a healthy dynamic starts, and Structuring Your D/s Dynamic walks you through building the agreements, rules and rituals that make it work in your real life. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep052&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources
Dawn's collars come from Eternity Collars. Use code DEVOTION for a discount (affiliate link): https://www.eternitycollars.com?bg_ref=0iRJJDqHMs

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

When she has agreed to follow, why does she still grab for control? Dawn and I look at topping from the bottom from both sides.

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep051&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Structuring Your D/s Dynamic, build the structure that makes your deepest desires real
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep051&utm_content=notes_top

A submissive commits to follow, and she also commits to speak up and use her voice. Sometimes those two feel like they are in direct conflict. Dawn and I talk about how most of the grasping for control comes from a part of her that doesn't feel safe, and how her fear can set off fear in the Dominant too, until we are both just reacting to each other. Dawn shares what it was like early on, when the reactions came so fast she couldn't see them, and why letting go was worth it.

I share what I have had to learn as the man in this: I can't talk to her fear about her fear, so I let her ego be right in that moment and stay standing until the storm blows through. We get into why her biggest reactions often point at her biggest truths, surrendering the timeline, and why non-reactivity means I stop defending myself. Dawn talks about why seeing me fall apart and own it builds her trust, and I share how I vent in my journal the next morning so I can show up better next time.

Topping from the bottom shows up where your agreements, your communication and how you handle reactions are still unclear. Structuring Your D/s Dynamic walks you through building that structure together so her voice and your leadership both have a place. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep051&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

Why is a collar such a meaningful symbol in our D/s marriage?

FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
https://infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep050&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Submissive Foundations, how to be a submissive and never lose your self respect
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep050&utm_content=notes_top

For Episode 50 we poured a cocktail on a Friday afternoon and talked collars: why Dawn wears mine with pride, how we chose hers, the titanium eternity collar, the red lace, the posture collar, and why what other people think has nothing to do with her.

Then the conversation goes deeper: how D/s helped Dawn face the shame she carried around her sexuality, why a collar is never a roleplay for us, and what it means to her to be claimed. As she puts it, she isn't a submissive. She is my submissive.

Owning your submission this fully, with pride and without shame, is the heart of Submissive Foundations. It's Dawn's course for women who long to surrender and are afraid of what it might cost them. Start here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep050&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources
Dawn's collars come from Eternity Collars. Use code DEVOTION for a discount (affiliate link): https://www.eternitycollars.com?bg_ref=0iRJJDqHMs

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

How do you keep having fun together when one of you is deep in the hard inner work? Dawn and I talk it through.

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep049&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Rapture, our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep049&utm_content=notes_top

This summer was an intense season of growth for Dawn, and in this episode we talk about how to keep enjoying life while you're in the middle of the deep stuff. Dawn shares what she has needed from my leadership: real experiences like live music on Wednesday nights, acceptance of where she is in her cycle, and me staying present when her emotions run big. I talk about setting my own important things aside, because her needs come before mine and she's only in chaos to the extent that I'm not present.

We get into surrendering attachment to plans, Dawn learning she's allowed to ruin the moment, and why I can't let her feelings run our relationship. I explain projection, masculine and feminine integrity, the layers of glasses we all wear, and why showing her too much truth too soon only stirs more resistance. We close with why we keep specifics private, the koala bear ritual that softens her into my leadership, and how much we simply like each other.

Living a dynamic that holds the hard seasons and the fun is what Dawn and I have built over years. Rapture is where we go deeper into desire, intimacy and polarity inside a living D/s dynamic. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep049&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book