Infinite Devotion

Anyone can figure out the bedroom. How do you live Dom and sub over breakfast on a Thursday morning?

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GO DEEPER: Rapture, our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission
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People sometimes ask why Dawn and I don't talk more about the kinky stuff. In this episode we explain why we teach D/s as a way of relating rather than a scene with a start and a stop. Commanding Dawn to kneel feels very different in a restaurant than in the bedroom, and the intensity that works for a weekend scene can feel harsh in daily life. Once love gets involved, everything from your past comes into play, and that's why couples so often lose this energy the same way the infatuation stage turns into a dead bedroom.

I talk about the Dominant as the embodiment of consciousness, seeing the truth in her that she has hidden, and why the truth about most people lives where they shut down. Dawn shares the big love she walled off as a girl and what opened when she surrendered. We get into what the pull to kink is really pointing at, the value of her emptiness, why surrender comes before submission, and how her desire, held without attachment, draws her open to my leadership.

Living D/s outside the bedroom asks both of you to bring your whole hearts, your history and your desire into the way you relate every day. Rapture is where Dawn and I teach that whole dynamic, from leadership and surrender to desire and intimacy. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep028&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

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Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

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My good friend Eric is back on the Dom Sub Devotion podcast for another conversation with me in the exploration of conscious Dominance.

And in this episode, we dive into the meaning of the word consent and how it opens the door to a deeper, more meaningful Dom/sub dynamic when it is seen as an opportunity for connection, rather than an agreement to avoid feeling and emotion.

And you won't want to miss Eric's special gift of analogy, when he compares different types of D/s dynamics to different types of farming. Farming? Yes, farming.

Enjoy this episode, and share your thoughts and feedback with us!

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More about Eric:

MY MISSION IS TO COMMAND AND RESPECT THE CRAFT OF CONSCIOUSNESS SO THAT MEN MAY THRIVE AS HOSTS OF AUTHENTIC, STEADY TRUTH.

I am here because of a commitment to my vision, study, practice, wisdom, perseverance, gratitude, and the support of loved ones.

I share my gifts openly and lead with my heart. I now live a purpose of divine service, alchemy, authorship, and authenticity.

I coach the MASCULINE through self-renovation, relationship polarity, Conscious Dominance, inner-alchemy, feminine containment, and oracular guidance offerings.

You can learn more about how Eric supports men in their consciousness at: https://elementalartsinitiative.com

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

How do you earn trust, and how do you give it, in a Dom/sub marriage? Dawn and I break down what trust has really meant to us.

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GO DEEPER: Rapture, our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep027&utm_content=notes_top

Everyone agrees trust matters, yet very few people look at what it actually is. I believe it's the man's responsibility to go first and be trustworthy in how he lives. Dawn shares how her old idea of trust was really a fear of getting hurt, and how it has become complete confidence that I've got her while still accepting my humanness. I talk about learning to trust myself again after years of feeling stuck, and Dawn tells the moment in our kitchen when she realized she wasn't trusting me because she didn't trust herself.

We get into how learning to speak up gave Dawn the self-trust to go deeper into submission, why speaking up when I hurt her is one of the rules of our relationship, and the morning she asked for my attention back. We talk about giving each other permission to change, the crabs in a bucket, and owning it every time I fell short. I share the faith it took to keep leading her when she disappeared inside herself, and why a man's trust in himself starts with self-worth.

Trust in each other and in yourselves is what lets the whole dynamic open up, and Rapture is where Dawn and I teach how we built ours, from speaking up to giving each other room to grow. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep027&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

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Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What does a Dominant do with his submissive's sadness, anger and grief? Dawn asks me how I learned to receive all of it as love.

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GO DEEPER: Becoming a Dominant Man, the 12-step path to the authentic Dominance she can trust
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep026&utm_content=notes_top

Dawn turns the questions on me in this one: what it's been like, as her Dominant, to receive the full range of her emotions. Early on, every time she felt sad or upset, I tried to change it. I called it love and I meant it as love, but underneath it was my own discomfort and my defenses against being hurt by a woman's feelings. I share the conversation on our couch when I told her I would receive all of her emotions as her love for me, and why submission is an inherently emotional experience.

We get into the loop most couples get caught in, where she controls to avoid feeling and he protects himself from her feelings, and the two ways a Dominant can use his authority: to shut her up or to set her expression free. Dawn talks about the anger she never let herself feel, punching pillows on the bed while I sat with her, and the harder moments when that anger turned toward me. For the men who think she's crazy, I explain why her emotional chaos is where her affection, desire and aliveness come from, and how holding it has made me steadier everywhere, even pulling our camper through near misses on the road.

Staying present and open while she feels everything is some of the deepest inner work a Dominant man can do. Becoming a Dominant Man is the 12-step path I took to build that strength. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep026&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What does it take for a man to lead a woman with awareness, love and integrity? My friend Eric and I get into it.

FREE for dominant men: 12 Steps To Dominance
https://infinitedevotion.com/12-steps-to-dominance?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep025&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Becoming a Dominant Man, the 12-step path to the authentic Dominance she can trust
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep025&utm_content=notes_top

Eric is one of my closest friends and confidants, and he lives in a long-term monogamous D/s relationship with his partner Rachel. We talk every week, and I first went to him because I wanted another man who could call me out if I wasn't leading in integrity. In this conversation he shares his own crash and rebuild, from losing his art studio in a fire to stopping being a victim and taking responsibility for his life. We talk about death and rebirth as the fertile ground of these relationships, and why a long-term Dom has to be creative.

I share why I stopped trying to be the source of the Eros in our marriage and became the container, so Dawn could be the power plant. Eric talks about previewing, making things beautiful for Rachel, and leading without letting her swirl become the directive. We get into women's health in a world built on a solar cycle, why we need each other, the feminine civilizing the masculine, and turning her storm into desire by staying unmoved. We close on the fool, beginner's mind, and the first three steps of my 12 steps.

Eric named the groundwork perfectly: take responsibility for your life, take care of yourself first, and live by your own code. Becoming a Dominant Man is the 12-step path I built from there, all the way to living as an expression of truth. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep025&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
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Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What happens to a Dom/sub marriage when you live half the year on the road? Dawn and I share how our nomadic life has deepened our dynamic.

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep024&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Rapture, our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep024&utm_content=notes_top

For the last couple of years Dawn and I have spent about half of every year living in our RV, chasing warmer weather and new places. In this episode, recorded in a Texas thunderstorm, we share where the dream came from, why it took on new meaning after we learned we couldn't have kids, and what it took for Dawn to take the cap off a life lived within 20 miles of where she grew up. I talk about taking full responsibility for every breakdown and every plan that falls through, and Dawn shares how trusting that I've got it has deepened her surrender.

We walk through how we choose where to go: Dawn feels out the options and I do all the deciding. We get into why living with uncertainty is a practice ground for embodied submission, the forced simplicity of 250 square feet, and Dawn letting herself take up space. Then the city that felt so dead to her that she snapped at me, and how her receptivity informs every decision I make so we can live as one unit, each in our strengths.

Dawn feeling and me deciding is how our whole dynamic moves through daily life, and Rapture is where we teach all of it, from surrender in uncertainty to leadership informed by her feeling. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep024&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

Dominance is who you are on the inside, long before it shows up in anything you do. Dawn and I talk about what it takes to build that character.

FREE for dominant men: 12 Steps To Dominance
https://infinitedevotion.com/12-steps-to-dominance?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep023&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Becoming a Dominant Man, the 12-step path to the authentic Dominance she can trust
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep023&utm_content=notes_top

I made Becoming a Dominant Man because I kept meeting men who wanted to lead in their relationships and couldn't make it feel real. In this conversation Dawn describes what Dominance feels like from her side, a kind of reverence and awe, and I share what I learned: what I really wanted was the feeling of being followed, and the only way to earn it was to become someone worth following.

We get into step one, taking 100% responsibility for your life, and why a man bossing people around from inner weakness hurts everyone near him. I tell the story of the night I stopped trying to convince Dawn to want me, and what changed. We talk about integrity, living by your own code, and why no woman who loves you will ever be fooled by dominance you haven't built inside. The world needs men who are kind and strong at the same time.

Becoming a Dominant Man is the course this episode is about: the 12 steps I walked, starting with total responsibility for your life, to build Dominance she can trust. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep023&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

On the eve of our 13th wedding anniversary, Dawn and I went live to talk about how a Dom/sub dynamic transformed our marriage.

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep022&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Structuring Your D/s Dynamic, build the structure that makes your deepest desires real
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep022&utm_content=notes_top

We spent our first eight years doing marriage the way we thought it was done, and the last five inside a D/s dynamic. In this live episode we compare the two. We grew up around marriages where the best you could say was that people didn't hate each other, and we slid into our own version of roommates with benefits. The dynamic gave us a structure, a container, and real intention around how we relate.

We talk about how one decision maker ended the fights that come from two people trying to get their way, why there's no space left for resentment to build, and how I had to take my own life back before I could lead us anywhere. Dawn shares how the structure let her walls come down and her old wounds heal. And I answer a question from the chat about how to show her I'm listening without judging: by simply receiving her, without trying to fix anything.

The structure is what changed our marriage. Structuring Your D/s Dynamic shows you how to build yours, from the vision and values to the rules and rituals that fit your real life. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep022&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What does a 24/7 Dom/sub marriage actually look like, from the moment we wake up?

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep021&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Structuring Your D/s Dynamic, build the structure that makes your deepest desires real
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep021&utm_content=notes_top

In this episode Dawn and I open up our real daily life: the message I write her every morning, why she takes her temperature before she gets out of bed, kneeling over our first cup of coffee, why she waits for my first bite, and why she always walks on my right. Then we get into a few of the rules in our contract and the reason behind each one.

The thread through all of it is intentionality. Every ritual and every rule has a why, and we built our dynamic into the life we already live, so it never has to compete for time. We also talk about why punishment was off the table from day one, what I do when she slips, and why our contract starts with a vision, our core values and a code of conduct that holds me accountable first.

If you're building a dynamic of your own, the hard part is turning what you want into rules and rituals that fit your real life and keep their meaning. Structuring Your D/s Dynamic walks you through the same process we used to write our contract, our vision, our values and our code of conduct, step by step. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep021&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What does conflict look like inside a 24/7 Dom/sub marriage? Dawn and I talk about why we rarely fight, and why we don't avoid it either.

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep020&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Structuring Your D/s Dynamic, build the structure that makes your deepest desires real
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep020&utm_content=notes_top

In the final call of Communion, someone asked Dawn and me what our relationship looks like when there's conflict and disagreement. As we talked it through, we realized there isn't much conflict between us anymore. Dawn shares how she used to retreat inside instead of speaking up, and how her subtle control came out as big reactions. We get into 100% ownership, seeing disagreements as opportunities, and why dominance and submission only make sense through polarity: one of us has the final say, and the other gets to be completely heard, felt and received.

Then we break down a tiny moment from after the sauna, when Dawn told me not to start the washing machine because she was afraid of running out of hot water. In the past her fear would have met my defensiveness, and we'd have ended up fighting about our reactions to each other. We talk about coming to the same side of the table, disagreeing in Union, and the upward spiral that integrity creates. Friends asked why the relationship seems to suffer more when the Dominant is off, and I explain structure and chaos: when I drop my part, there's unconstrained chaos, and when she drops hers, everything goes flat.

Most conflict between a Dominant and a submissive comes from defenses, and the way through is structure you both trust: who has the final say, how she gets fully heard, and how each of you owns your part. Structuring Your D/s Dynamic walks you through building that structure in your own relationship. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep020&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book