Infinite Devotion

Do we use punishment? Does she ever take off her collar? What am I really like as a Dominant?

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
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GO DEEPER: Rapture, our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep009&utm_content=notes_top

We asked our Instagram followers to send their questions anonymously, then spent an hour answering as many as we could. We cover why we don't use punishment and what we do instead, jealousy, what it means for me to take control of every part of our lives, and why I even choose her face wash.

We also answer questions about finding the right partner, tracking her cycle, living this dynamic in front of family and friends, and how we handle judgment. Some are fun, some are serious, and all of them get at how a healthy D/s relationship really works.

Most of these questions come back to one thing: how to have the intensity of D/s and a safe, loving relationship at the same time. That is what Rapture is about. It's our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission, with more than twenty hours of video from Dawn and me plus live Q&A. Start here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep009&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

Can a Dominant man be deeply sensitive and still lead with strength? Dawn and I say he has to be.

FREE for dominant men: 12 Steps To Dominance
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GO DEEPER: Becoming a Dominant Man, the 12-step path to the authentic Dominance she can trust
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep008&utm_content=notes_top

I start by reading something I wrote about the walls men build around their hearts, the ones that protect us from feeling helpless, useless and unable to control our reality. Dawn shares what felt different about me from the very start, and we get into why sensitivity is an imperative part of dominance. Without it you are cut off from your heart, and you have no idea how you are impacting your submissive.

We talk about the ways men numb out, from the gym used as armor to video games and Netflix, and how boys learn to shut down long before they know what they feel. Then we get into what it takes to let the walls come down, why healing those wounds makes you untriggerable, and how a man who can feel everything and still decide becomes someone a woman can follow anywhere.

Becoming a Dominant Man is the 12-step path I walked to heal the inner weakness and lead from real, felt strength, with my heart wide open. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep008&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

Many submissives say with pride that they're people pleasers. Dawn shares how submission set her free from it.

FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
https://infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep007&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Submissive Foundations, how to be a submissive and never lose your self respect
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep007&utm_content=notes_top

In this episode Dawn and I look at people pleasing as it plays out in Dom/sub relationships. The difference between giving and people pleasing is that pleasing is never fully real. Dawn shares how her pattern went all the way back to childhood, how she tied her self-worth to how much she gave, and how giving to me started to feel gross and filled with resentment even though she loved me and wanted to serve.

We talk about learning to say no when you mean no, why the most loving people have the strongest boundaries, and how Dominants people please too, through what Dr. Robert Glover calls the covert contract. Dawn shares how kneeling changed from something she did because I wanted it to something she does because it feels good to her. And we finish with why I asked her to be a little selfish: fill yourself first, and the giving overflows.

If you want to submit from fullness instead of obligation, Submissive Foundations is where to start. It's the course for women learning to surrender without losing themselves. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep007&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

Bringing dominance and submission into a loving, long-term relationship? These are the tips Dawn and I wish someone had given us.

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep006&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Structuring Your D/s Dynamic, build the structure that makes your deepest desires real
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep006&utm_content=notes_top

Dawn and I share what we have learned living D/s inside a marriage, and what we have watched other couples run into. A dynamic that lives outside the bedroom asks for far more emotional intentionality than one that turns on and off with a scene, and old reactions surface the moment she agrees to let you lead. We talk about the date night that showed Dawn her own resistance, and why punishment for not obeying keeps you from ever finding out why following feels so hard.

We get into people pleasing and the resentment it builds on both sides, how a submissive can speak to the part of her that hesitates, and why a man needs the inner strength to hold her big emotions without fixing them. Then we talk about starting slow, introducing this to a long-term partner, why chasing what she wants feels like chasing the wind, and the mutual surrender that makes it all work: hers to being led, and mine to the truth of what is best for her.

Every one of these tips comes down to building a dynamic that fits your real life. Structuring Your D/s Dynamic walks you through the agreements, rules and rituals that make it last. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep006&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What is it really like to wear a collar 24/7 for five years, in public, every single day?

FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
https://infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep005&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Submissive Foundations, how to be a submissive and never lose your self respect
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep005&utm_content=notes_top

Dawn has worn my collar every day since 2018. In this episode she shares how we chose her first one, what it meant to her at the start, how people react when they notice it, and how her pride in wearing it grew as her surrender deepened.

We also answer the practical questions we get all the time: comfort, weight, tan lines, our collaring ritual even in the middle of an airport, and the different collars in her collection. If you've ever felt shame or fear about wearing a collar in public, this one is for you.

For Dawn, the collar has always been a symbol of a submission she chose and owns. That is exactly what Submissive Foundations teaches: how to surrender inside a loving relationship and keep every bit of your self-respect. Start here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep005&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources
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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What is the number one secret behind a D/s dynamic that is loving, real and lasting?

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep004&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Structuring Your D/s Dynamic, build the structure that makes your deepest desires real
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep004&utm_content=notes_top

For Dawn and me the answer is patience. The default image of D/s is immediate command and obey, and that never got the job done for us, because what we both wanted was authentic submission. Dawn shares how much of her early submission was past programming and people pleasing, and why coming into the real thing meant a big inward emotional unraveling that neither of us could rush. I talk about the fantasies I carried into a dynamic with a real woman, and why I could never force her out of an authentic reaction.

We get into the times it felt like her emotions were dominating the relationship, and what changed when I stopped seeing her feelings as separate from me and started leading her through them. Dawn tells the story of the first time I thanked her for being so patient with me, and we talk about the patience and compassion each of us had to extend to ourselves. We finish with our advice for couples building a dynamic: respect the humanity and history of you both, start small, and leave each other wanting more.

If you want to build your dynamic one real step at a time instead of forcing it all at once, Structuring Your D/s Dynamic walks the two of you through creating the rules, rituals and agreements that fit where you actually are. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/structuring-your-ds-dynamic?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep004&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
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Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What does it take for a strong, capable woman to become a 24/7 submissive? Dawn tells her story.

FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
https://infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep003&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Living Surrendered, Dawn's workshop on letting go of control
https://infinitedevotion.com/living-surrendered?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep003&utm_content=notes_top

Before our dynamic, Dawn and I had a good marriage by every outside measure. In this episode she tells what it was like to step from that life into submission, and what had to change inside her to do it. She was afraid of becoming a doormat, and what she discovered was that she had been abandoning herself all along, through self-sacrifice, the good-girl programming she grew up with, and a lifetime of living for other people.

She talks about letting go of control, why a submissive has to be a little selfish, and how she stopped treating every outside authority as her Dom. We get into rebuilding her self-trust, learning to speak up, and discovering that all of her emotions, even anger, are love. And she shares the season when she said no to nearly everything I led, so she could finally learn her yes was a real choice.

If you're the woman who holds everything together and can't seem to let go, Dawn made Living Surrendered for you. It's her workshop on how she let go of control, with the full Q&A. Watch it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/living-surrendered?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep003&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

What did it take for me to grow from a vanilla husband into the Dominant Dawn could truly follow? We get honest about all of it.

FREE for dominant men: 12 Steps To Dominance
https://infinitedevotion.com/12-steps-to-dominance?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep002&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Becoming a Dominant Man, the 12-step path to the authentic Dominance she can trust
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep002&utm_content=notes_top

One of the most overlooked parts of a Dom/sub relationship is the work it takes for the Dominant to become a healthy, strong leader. In this episode Dawn and I talk about what I had to change. I've never been a leader who leads with a stick, so we have no punishments in our dynamic. Dominance had to come from within, and early on I was doing the stuff without it feeling real. When I fell apart, she either fell apart too or stepped in and took over.

I share how I let go of being a victim, learned to live at cause, and stopped seeking validation. We talk about why trying to please her actually put her in charge, the vulnerability of Dominance, and learning to speak up for what I want even when she doesn't want it. Dawn reflects on what my collapses felt like to her, and how my growth in discipline, fitness and integrity let her surrender more deeply. Her ability to follow equals the integrity in my inner world.

Everything I had to change is in Becoming a Dominant Man, the 12-step path to the authentic Dominance she can trust. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep002&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book

How does a happy but vanilla marriage become a 24/7 D/s dynamic?

FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep001&utm_content=notes_top

GO DEEPER: Rapture, our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep001&utm_content=notes_top

This is where our story starts. After eight years of a good, comfortable, vanilla marriage, I asked Dawn to be my submissive over a cocktail on a date night. Fifty Shades was about all she knew of D/s. In this first episode we share what led me to ask, how she responded, and the month of conversations that led up to her collaring.

If you love your partner and still feel the fire fading into comfort, or you've kept a desire locked in a box for years, you'll hear yourself in this one. I refused to accept that love and passion couldn't live in the same relationship, and this is the night I finally said it out loud.

Rapture is our course on exactly this question: can you have the intensity of D/s and a safe, loving relationship at the same time? Dawn and I teach everything we've learned since that night, in six modules and more than twenty hours of video, with live Q&A. Start here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep001&utm_content=notes_bridge

MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources

LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion

Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book