Infinite Devotion

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Infinite Devotion episodes

January 29, 2024 I can't be submissive to Sir if I dom myself | Infinite Devotion Episode 19
You can't truly submit to him while you're still dominating yourself. Dawn shares how she learned to let go of the control she didn't know she had.
FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
https://infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep019&utm_content=notes_top
GO DEEPER: Living Surrendered, Dawn's workshop on letting go of control
https://infinitedevotion.com/living-surrendered?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep019&utm_content=notes_top
Unwinding Dawn's sense of control has been one of the biggest themes of our dynamic. She was already my submissive when I first told her she was domming herself, and letting go sounded like an abstract idea. In this episode she shares the voice in her head that ran her life, the good-girl programming that taught her to follow anything that looked like authority, and how many other things she had allowed to be her Dominant before me.
We get into the self-abandonment underneath her natural obedience, the house cleaning she could not stop even when it pulled her away from me and her kids, and the paradox so many women live in: I have to be in control, and I don't want to be in charge. Dawn talks about the difference between surrender and submission, why obligation only drives performance, and the deep longing she found once she stopped keeping herself small.
If you hold everything together and can't seem to let go, Dawn made Living Surrendered for you. It's her workshop on how she let go of control, with the full Q&A. Watch it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/living-surrendered?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep019&utm_content=notes_bridge
MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources
LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion
Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book
1 hr 11 min
January 22, 2024 Q&A with a married Dom/sub couple | Infinite Devotion Episode 18
Dawn and I answer your questions about living a 24/7 Dom/sub marriage, from her collar to the fear of losing each other.
FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep018&utm_content=notes_top
GO DEEPER: Rapture, our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep018&utm_content=notes_top
Your questions were so good last time that we did another Q&A. Dawn starts with what it is like to wear her titanium Eternity collar every day, how it fits and whether it ever gets in the way, and then shares the books that helped her most, including The Untethered Soul and The Four Agreements, and why you have to feel your way into submission rather than think your way there. I answer whether making all of the decisions stresses me out, and Dawn talks about recognizing her own control and what it took to unwind it.
We also get into how a submissive can tell whether a Dominant is trustworthy, why that trust starts with trusting yourself to speak up, and why D/s is about love, connection and devotion alongside the kink. We talk about releasing the shame around these roles, the honest fear of losing each other, and why depending on someone you love is different from codependency. We close with a lighter round so you can get to know us, from our favorite wine and food to life in the RV.
If you want a dynamic with this much love, trust and desire running through it, Rapture is where Dawn and I show you how we built ours. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep018&utm_content=notes_bridge
MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources
Dawn's collars come from Eternity Collars. Use code DEVOTION for a discount (affiliate link): https://www.eternitycollars.com?bg_ref=0iRJJDqHMs
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Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion
Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book
54 min
January 15, 2024 A 24/7 submissive interviews her Dominant | Infinite Devotion Episode 17
Dawn turns the tables and asks me anything she wants about what it's really like to be her Dominant.
FREE for dominant men: 12 Steps To Dominance
https://infinitedevotion.com/12-steps-to-dominance?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep017&utm_content=notes_top
GO DEEPER: Becoming a Dominant Man, the 12-step path to the authentic Dominance she can trust
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep017&utm_content=notes_top
After a week of me asking Dawn the questions, she gets her turn. She asks how our dynamic compares to the fantasy I had, and I share how different it turned out from what my neediness thought I wanted. We talk about the moments I doubted it would work, the hardest part of being her Dominant, and what it is like to meet the part of her that tries to destroy what is good for her.
Then we go deeper. I explain how I see what is right for her and know when to push into her edges, why the man has to go first and become strong enough for her to lean on, and why strong resistance to something good is so often a sign you are on the right path. We finish with leading in rhythm with her cycle, why polarity is practical, and how getting beyond neediness changed everything between us.
Becoming a Dominant Man is how I teach men to go first: to become strong enough inside that she can finally lean on you and come alive. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/becoming-a-dominant-man?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep017&utm_content=notes_bridge
MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources
LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion
Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book
1 hr 6 min
January 08, 2024 My journey inward as a 24/7 submissive | Infinite Devotion Episode 16
What does submission feel like from the inside, all day long? I ask Dawn questions she hasn't seen, and she answers live.
FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
https://infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep016&utm_content=notes_top
GO DEEPER: Submissive Foundations, how to be a submissive and never lose your self respect
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep016&utm_content=notes_top
In this episode I put Dawn in the hot seat with a list of questions she'd never seen. She shares how she stays connected to submission through her day, from my physical presence to the little ways I lead her, like her makeup, her food and her workouts. She explains what she means by emotional poison: the emotions we suppressed as children that cover up our hearts and keep love from fully moving in or out. And she talks about the freedom from overthinking, and where fear still catches her most.
We get into the belief systems she's had to question, especially around sexuality and the idea that I could know better for her than she does. Dawn draws the line between codependency and the way she lets herself fully depend on me. She shares what it's like to be deeply seen, the experience with God that confirmed her trust, and why her biggest reactions point to her biggest gifts. Then I turn it around and ask her where she sees me lose connection with my dominance.
If you want submission to feel like peace in your body instead of losing yourself, Submissive Foundations is where to begin. It walks you through the inner work of surrender that Dawn describes here. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep016&utm_content=notes_bridge
MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources
LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion
Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book
1 hr 3 min
January 01, 2024 When our dreams died, our love was born | Infinite Devotion Episode 15
Can passion and deep intimacy keep growing in the same marriage for a lifetime? Dawn and I share where our question, how good can this get, came from.
FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep015&utm_content=notes_top
GO DEEPER: Rapture, our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep015&utm_content=notes_top
Most of the long relationships I watched growing up slowly drained the life out of both people, and I could never accept that passion and deep love had to be opposites. In this episode Dawn and I share the moment that question became the center of our marriage: learning we couldn't have children together, and my realization that our relationship had to be about something. It became about seeing how good this can get. I talk about legacy, pulling my own life into order, reading Esther Perel's Mating in Captivity, and the date nights that got Dawn out of mom mode.
Dawn shares facing the pain of her past, and we get into how a desire for something better can land as you're not good enough, the defensiveness on both sides, and why there's no room for blame or resentment if you want a powerful relationship. We talk about swallowing our pride, what submission becomes when we operate as one, and how often fear has actually been right. And I share why accepting the parts of Dawn that make her come most alive let her bring more of herself to me.
Seeing how good this can get is the heart of what Dawn and I teach in Rapture, our flagship course on the whole dynamic: dropping your defenses, owning your part, and letting passion grow with time. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep015&utm_content=notes_bridge
MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources
LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion
Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book
1 hr 8 min
December 26, 2023 Fear in Dom/sub dynamics | Infinite Devotion Episode 14
What happens to a Dom/sub dynamic when fear is quietly making the decisions? Dawn and I look at fear from both sides of the slash.
FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep014&utm_content=notes_top
GO DEEPER: Rapture, our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep014&utm_content=notes_top
Five years into our dynamic, fear has shown up on both sides of it. I start with the Dominant side: the fear of getting the leadership wrong, the fear of old patterns coming back, and the fear of upsetting her that goes all the way back to my childhood. That last one leads to what I call bottoming from the top, the man who asks his submissive what she wants and hands her the lead. Dawn shares how she projected perfection onto me and went looking for proof I was wrong whenever a decision didn't turn out the way she expected.
Then we turn to the submissive side: false evidence appearing real, the difference between fear from the mind and an actual emotion, and why fear pulls her out of the present moment where following happens. Dawn tells the story of me putting up LED lights in our fifth wheel and asking her what she was afraid of. We get into why fear is not her Dominant, how often her fears turned out to be accurate (never), and how fear can hide excitement. I close with how I lead her toward a fear slowly, building evidence a little at a time, the way you'd help someone afraid of spiders look at one from across the room.
Fear on one side of the slash feeds fear on the other, so a couple has to work through it together. Rapture is where Dawn and I go deeper into the whole dynamic between us, leading and surrendering through moments exactly like these. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep014&utm_content=notes_bridge
MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources
LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion
Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book
54 min
December 18, 2023 We don't want equality in our relationship | Infinite Devotion Episode 13
Why would two people choose a relationship that is deliberately unequal? Dawn and I explain what we found when we stopped trying to be the same.
FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep013&utm_content=notes_top
GO DEEPER: Rapture, our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep013&utm_content=notes_top
A couple of years into our dynamic, Dawn and I realized something deeper was happening than the roles we had signed up for. In this episode we talk about what dominance, submission, structure and chaos actually mean to us, starting with the fact that I am a Dominant man first, which means inner strength and control of myself before anything happens between us. My job is to bring structure and order to our life. Dawn's experience of submission is surrender, the liberation of no longer needing to make sense of everything.
We get into why chaos and the feminine get treated as bad, and how Dawn's old masculine armor kept her from wanting anything for herself. I talk about the trap of needing to please her, and why leadership has to come from abundance rather than a fear of her ever being upset. Then we share the walls we both built against each other's love, what it took to let them down, and why being 100% of each other's opposite is what makes our marriage keep getting better.
Rapture is our flagship course for couples who want to live this way, each of you fully in your role, with all the love and desire that opens up. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep013&utm_content=notes_bridge
MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources
LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion
Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book
1 hr 5 min
December 11, 2023 How Love Grows in a 24/7 Dom/sub Marriage | Infinite Devotion Episode 12
Can a 24/7 Dom/sub marriage actually be the most loving relationship you've ever known? Dawn and I talk about how it became that for us.
FREE for D/s couples: 7 Tips For A Rock Solid D/s Dynamic
https://infinitedevotion.com/7-tips?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep012&utm_content=notes_top
GO DEEPER: Rapture, our flagship course on devotional Dominance and submission
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep012&utm_content=notes_top
Search the words Dom and sub and you'll find stern men in suits and desperate women, and very little love. In this episode Dawn and I talk about how dominance and submission made our marriage kinder, more loving and more fulfilling for both of us. I share how I was a Dom long before I was dominant, and how I was still trying to please her instead of leading. We talk about why a dynamic lived with love is built on more consent and honesty than most relationships, and why Dawn needing to know every detail of my decisions was control rather than surrender.
We get into listening instead of fixing, holding her when she's angry with me, and how she learned to let go of one piece of control at a time. I share how tracking Dawn's cycle every day for almost four years turned a roller coaster into something we could see coming. We talk about love running in a circuit of giving and receiving, the love languages quiz, why a man asking for words of affirmation really needs to become a man who deserves them, and the difference between confidence and arrogance.
Love in our dynamic grew from both of us giving everything to our side of it, every single day. Rapture is where Dawn and I teach the whole of that, from leading and surrender to desire and intimacy. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/rapture?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep012&utm_content=notes_bridge
MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources
LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion
Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book
51 min
December 04, 2023 Submission Means Slowing Down | Infinite Devotion Episode 11
Why did slowing down the pace of life become the most important part of Dawn's submission?
FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
https://infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep011&utm_content=notes_top
GO DEEPER: Living Surrendered, Dawn's workshop on letting go of control
https://infinitedevotion.com/living-surrendered?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep011&utm_content=notes_top
Dawn was the get-it-done girl, a doer who filled every moment of her day, and that left no room to find out who she was or what she wanted. We go back to the early days of our dynamic, when we were getting up before 5am for the gym, and the time I tried to fire her from that schedule. She shares why an extended stretch of time with nothing planned felt so uncomfortable, and how I used my authority to slow her down, from drives in the Jeep with the top down to the books I gave her to read.
When the gyms closed and the calendar emptied, Dawn started walking in nature, hearing her intuition and filling her time with less. That slower pace let her see how I had been showing up for her all along, which helped her start letting go of control. She talks about what stillness means to her now, how it helps her honor the changes in her energy through her cycle, and why accepting where she is each day matters so much. I also speak to the men about patience, because her submission could never have grown this deep if she had not been able to slow down.
If you are the get-it-done woman who cannot slow down long enough to let go, Living Surrendered is Dawn's workshop on releasing control so you can finally relax and receive. Start it here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/living-surrendered?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep011&utm_content=notes_bridge
MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources
LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion
Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book
53 min
November 27, 2023 Why would I choose to be a 24/7 submissive? | Infinite Devotion Episode 10
In a world of equality and independence, why would a woman choose to be a 24/7 submissive?
FREE for submissive women: The Self Respecting Submissive Woman, Dawn's manifesto
https://infinitedevotion.com/self-respecting-submissive-woman?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep010&utm_content=notes_top
GO DEEPER: Submissive Foundations, how to be a submissive and never lose your self respect
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep010&utm_content=notes_top
Dawn answers that question in her own words. She shares why she never wanted the boss-babe life, how she chose to follow me before she knew what submission meant, how she learned to recognize truth in her body, and what she has found through surrender.
We also talk about an article that taught submissives to shut down their emotions, and why we believe full emotional expression is the most submissive thing a woman can do. When she shuts her feelings down, she becomes her own Dom.
Dawn's biggest fear was losing herself. What actually happened is she found herself. Submissive Foundations is her course for women who want that same surrender with their self-respect intact, five hours of video with Dawn and me. Start here:
https://infinitedevotion.com/submissive-foundations?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=ds_ep010&utm_content=notes_bridge
MORE FOR YOUR D/s JOURNEY
Devotional D/s, start here: https://infinitedevotion.com/dominance-submission
Every course: https://infinitedevotion.com/store
D/s coaching with Andrew: https://infinitedevotion.com/ds-coaching
The Infinite Devotion Community: https://infinitedevotion.com/community
All free resources: https://infinitedevotion.com/free-resources
LISTEN AND SUBSCRIBE
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infinite-devotion/id1703653891
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NOiUF8kMERd52klxIrr1w
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@infinitedevotion
Andrew Reign's book, Infinite Devotion: How Love and Desire Grow Together for a Lifetime: infinitedevotion.com/book
1 hr 1 min

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Most long-term relationships end up in the same place. Two good people who love each other, living like roommates, wondering where the fire went and whether it's ever coming back.