What if the ultimate freedom—sexual, creative, personal—doesn’t actually lead to lasting happiness? In this thought-provoking episode of the Love U Podcast, I explore Miranda July’s All Fours and the larger cultural conversation around women embracing the “middle-aged sexual awakening.” But here’s the twist—I haven’t read the book. Instead, I take a hard look at the genre, ask whether the same story would be celebrated if the protagonist were a man, and challenge the idea that chasing novelty leads to fulfillment. Plus, for the first time ever, my wife Bridget joins me to share her own post-divorce journey. Tune in for honest insights, a few laughs, and a reality check on whether “having it all” is actually worth it.

Article mentioned in this episode: https://open.substack.com/pub/freddiedeboer/p/miranda-julys-lucrative-fantasies?r=5xgs2