We all have our inner wisdom, our intuition, our self-awareness… and I believe the greatest epiphanies come from that place. We’re able to see how so many decisions come from fear. We may fear there isn’t enough love for us; that we can’t have enough; that WE aren’t enough. So we look for someone else to fill us up, get comfortable and stay there, hooked and waiting for more. It’s like a fix we need to keep us going.

But living from fear is disempowering. We have no personal power because we’ve given it away to somebody else with the hope they’re the magic pill to stop fear from haunting us. We believe everything must come from outside of us, even our “cure” for fear. We hold tightly to someone who cannot possibly fill us up, yet we hate ourselves for feeling this way, so we end up rejecting them on some level. We push them away only to pull even harder to get them back. It’s a horrible game of tug-of-war with fear, and when you throw attachment into the mix, the stakes feel even higher.

What would it be like to be loving instead of manipulative? Yes, fear is manipulative, driving us toward that temporary fix which never solves the problem. Wouldn’t it be nice not to be stuck in attachment and overcome by the fear of loss? It starts with taking care of the feelings percolating inside of you rather than putting that responsibility on someone else. To empower yourself, you MUST feel your feelings and get honest with yourself. When you stop feeding your stories of fear (the ones that repeat in your head, detached from reality), it changes your feelings and your actions. You have to shift inward to see that success and fulfillment are inside jobs. Once you shift the pattern from fear to love, emotional freedom results. Find out why fear holds you back, keeping you stuck in attachment.