At a young age, we learned to hide the parts of ourselves that made adults uncomfortable. It can feel like in your mind you will never be known. Some of us created a whole identity on not being known and our struggle to be seen and heard as who we were and are. It can create a great deal of shame, because it may be the feeling you try to avoid by hiding who you are. You may have been shamed for what you did or did not do because your parents didn't know how to deal with you. They may have been going through their own stuff, which limited how they were able to deal.

The shame has carried through your adult life still with the identity and the feeling of will anyone ever really know me and stay? You've struggled to feel seen and to find value in yourself because your environment growing up did not give you an opportunity for anyone to see the real you.

This struggle for validation is generational. To finally be authentically you, you have to learn to let go of the feelings your parents (and their parents, and their parents and so on) have projected onto you. In this episode, you'll learn how to break the cycle of generational shame, not being known and connect with yourself.

The only way you find happiness is through self-acceptance. You have to learn to just be you. In this episode, you'll learn how to tackle your shame and break your cycle of perfectionism.

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