Do you have an image in your head of who you are supposed to be? And does that image contradict who you actually are? These images often stem from a need for love and respect, thinking the only way to have either is by being what other people want. This can lead to contortionism where you bend yourself to fit a particular picture, or walking on eggshells so people won’t see the real you. Maybe you go to med school because that is the expectation in your family. In relationships, it can manifest as working extra hard to be the nurturer or provider or anything else that goes against your true nature.

But what if it didn’t have to be so hard? What if you were loved and accepted without the costume? When you let go of the idea of who you’re supposed to be, it allows the space to become who you are. Yes, it is REALLY scary to chip away at the façade you’ve grown accustomed to. What if you end up broke or alone? Is it worth the risk? Uncovering who you are beneath all those layers of conditioning leads to a freer, happier existence where you are in a state of flow. You get to stop swimming upstream, wondering why you’re so depleted. To get there, however, you have to ask yourself some difficult questions and face some uncomfortable truths. Then you can move away from your false identity and take steps in the direction of who you actually are.