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August 24 Is Your Marriage Stuck in the Same Fight? with Dr. Jessica Higgins Part 1
t's the same argument on a loop — different night, same wall, same silence afterward — and you keep thinking if you could just explain it better this time, it would finally land. By the end of this episode you'll see the fight was never really about the dishes or the schedule; you're both running protective moves that quietly hurt the other, and once you name what's underneath, the same conversation that used to blow up can actually move mountains. Bring Dr. Diane's free Yes, No, Maybe Checklist to your next talk — a five-minute, low-stakes way to say what you mean before it turns into a fight: mylibidodoc.com/yesnomaybe.
About the Guest:
*Dr. Jessica Higgins
Expertise: Dr. Jessica Higgins holds two graduate degrees in psychology, two coaching certifications, and over 20 years of experience helping clients achieve successful results. As the host of the Empowered Relationship Podcast, she helps people navigate the terrain of long-lasting intimacy more skillfully and mindfully. Through her coaching and online course, clients transform pain into love and connection.
https://www.facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship https://www.linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins/ https://www.instagram.com/drjessicahiggins/ https://in.pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation/ https://twitter.com/DrJessHiggins Website: https://drjessicahiggins.com/
Download Dr. Jessica's free guide - SHIFTING CRITICISM FOR CONNECTED COMMUNICATION: https://drjessicahiggins.com/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
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Timestamps:
0:00 Introduction, communication breakdown, and deeper needs in conflict
4:23 Strategies for effective listening
7:16 Steps for addressing conflict in relationships
9:40 Breaking the rejection cycle in the bedroom
11:41 Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
12:13 Expanding the definition of intimacy
15:08 Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan's Lady Pump
16:43 Expectations about sex in long-term relationships
19:22 One simple tip to improve your relationship tonight
20:07 Free gift from Dr. Jessica Higgins
21:02 Announcement and closing remarks
(0:00) Introduction, communication breakdown, and deeper needs in conflict
(4:23) Strategies for effective listening
(7:16) Steps for addressing conflict in relationships
(9:40) Breaking the rejection cycle in the bedroom
(11:41) Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
(12:13) Expanding the definition of intimacy
(15:08) Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan's Lady Pump
(16:43) Expectations about sex in long-term relationships
(19:22) One simple tip to improve your relationship tonight
(20:07) Free gift from Dr. Jessica Higgins
(21:02) Announcement and closing remarks
23 min
August 13 Do this for 3% of the day to save your marriage with Monica Tanner Part 2
You lie next to someone you love and feel more like co-managers of a household than a couple — and you couldn't name the day it started.
In this second part, Dr. Diane Mueller reframes the resentment you've been quietly swallowing as a warning light on the dashboard, not a death sentence — and shows how handing each other just 3% of your week patches the small leaks before the boat takes on real water.
Before your next date night, grab her free Yes, No, Maybe Checklist (mylibidodoc.com/yesnomaybe) and use it to finally say the small things out loud — the ones that pile up when they stay unspoken.
About the Guest:
*Monica Tanner
Expertise: Monica Tanner, Relational Life Therapy Certified, Relationship Coach and host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast, transforms marriages with simple communication, connection, conflict resolution and commitment strategies. Her mission is to lower the divorce rate and improve marital satisfaction. Through her engaging podcast, new Amazon Best-Selling book, Bad Marriage Advice, vibrant social media community, and couple’s coaching practice, Monica's expert guidance has impacted thousands of couples, by helping them ditch resentment and roommate syndrome and get back to living their happily ever after love story.
Website: https://monicatanner.com
Instagram: https://instagram.com/monitalksmarriage
50 Connecting Questions to Ask Your Spouse - https://monicatanner.com/connect
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Get stronger better erections and grow in both length in size by getting the top of the line penis pump here: https://bit.ly/3Nn4J0h. Make sure to use the code to get a 10% discount LibidoDoc10
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/
✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
Timestamps:
0:00 Roommate syndrome and myths in long-term relationships
3:20 How common is roommate syndrome?
4:42 The 3% rule for maintaining connection
7:22 Using connecting questions to deepen intimacy
10:03 The power of a yearly getaway
13:00 Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
14:28 Recycling connecting questions over time
15:50 Addressing and resolving resentment
20:11 Skills for tackling small issues early
22:27 How to work with Monica and her book
23:36 Free gift from Monica and closing remarks
(0:00) Roommate syndrome and myths in long-term relationships
(3:20) How common is roommate syndrome?
(4:42) The 3% rule for maintaining connection
(7:22) Using connecting questions to deepen intimacy
(10:03) The power of a yearly getaway
(13:00) Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
(14:28) Recycling connecting questions over time
(15:50) Addressing and resolving resentment
(20:11) Skills for tackling small issues early
(22:27) How to work with Monica and her book
(23:36) Free gift from Monica and closing remarks
25 min
August 06 Do this for 3% of the day to save your marriage with Monica Tanner Part 1
You're not fighting — but you're not really reaching for each other either, and somewhere between the mortgage and the bedtimes the two of you started living like polite roommates who happen to share a bed.
By the end of this episode you'll see the thing no one told you: "meeting in the middle" hasn't kept the peace — it's quietly made you both lose, and the way back isn't more compromise, it's getting curious about your partner again instead of managing them.
If that curiosity is the part that's gone cold, start small and start solo — take the free Sex Code Language quiz to learn how you're wired and how your partner is, at mylibidodoc.com/freebies.
About the Guest:
*Monica Tanner
Expertise: Monica Tanner, Relational Life Therapy Certified, Relationship Coach and host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast, transforms marriages with simple communication, connection, conflict resolution and commitment strategies. Her mission is to lower the divorce rate and improve marital satisfaction. Through her engaging podcast, new Amazon Best-Selling book, Bad Marriage Advice, vibrant social media community, and couple’s coaching practice, Monica's expert guidance has impacted thousands of couples, by helping them ditch resentment and roommate syndrome and get back to living their happily ever after love story.
Website: https://monicatanner.com
Instagram: https://instagram.com/monitalksmarriage
50 Connecting Questions to Ask Your Spouse - https://monicatanner.com/connect
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Get stronger better erections and grow in both length in size by getting the top of the line penis pump here: https://bit.ly/3Nn4J0h. Make sure to use the code to get a 10% discount LibidoDoc10
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/
✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
Timestamps:
0:00 Monica Tanner's childhood beliefs, parental divorce, and introduction to today's topic
2:07 Monica's realization about bad marriage advice and her study of marriage
4:38 Monica's motivation to write her book and personal marriage experience
6:12 Sharing relationship lessons with children and the problem with "happy wife, happy life" advice
11:43 Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
13:16 Impact of constant serving on masculinity and intimacy
15:25 The issue with compromising in marriage
17:24 Collaboration as a better alternative to compromise
21:02 Importance of being on the same team in a relationship
22:33 Teaser for part two: roommate syndrome and resentment
23:09 Monica's freebie and ways to work with her
24:36 Conclusion and call to action
(0:00) Monica Tanner's childhood beliefs, parental divorce, and introduction to today's topic
(2:07) Monica's realization about bad marriage advice and her study of marriage
(4:38) Monica's motivation to write her book and personal marriage experience
(6:12) Sharing relationship lessons with children and the problem with "happy wife, happy life" advice
(11:43) Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
(13:16) Impact of constant serving on masculinity and intimacy
(15:25) The issue with compromising in marriage
(17:24) Collaboration as a better alternative to compromise
(21:02) Importance of being on the same team in a relationship
(22:33) Teaser for part two: roommate syndrome and resentment
(23:09) Monica's freebie and ways to work with her
(24:36) Conclusion and call to action
25 min
July 30 Why You Can't Tell Your Husband What You Want Part 2 with James Bullard
You're lying awake next to them wondering when reaching over became the hardest thing in the room — and whether asking out loud would fix it or finally break it.
In this episode, Dr. Diane Mueller unpacks why a partner's "no" isn't a verdict, why most of the resentment between you is built from assumptions neither of you said out loud, and how non-sexual touch can rebuild the bridge before either of you has to be brave about anything bigger.
If you want a way to start the conversation without it turning into a fight, grab Dr. Diane's free YES, NO, MAYBE Checklist at mylibidodoc.com/yesnomaybe — it gives you the language to say what you actually want, hear what they want, and find where you two still meet.
About the Guest:
*James Bullard
Expertise: James Bullard is a storyteller, public speaker, and host of the podcast Radical Joy — part therapy session, part stand-up set, part permission slip to want more out of life. Through his speaking engagements and one-on-one coaching, he helps people who are secretly terrified of success as much as failure finally chase the big, scary, honest goal instead of settling for "fine.”
YouTube freebie, Sustainable Audacity: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F6ciBFVNjR8
Join The Bullard Brand community (includes Sustainable Audacity master class and BONUS PDF download): https://tinyurl.com/Sustainable-Audacity
Schedule a 30-minute connection session: https://calendly.com/thebullardbrand/30min
Opt-in/lead magnet: https://james-bullard.mykajabi.com/apply-to-work-with-me
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Get stronger better erections and grow in both length in size by getting the top of the line penis pump here: https://bit.ly/3Nn4J0h. Make sure to use the code to get a 10% discount LibidoDoc10
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/
✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
Timestamps:
0:00 Introduction, recap, and the problem of assumptions and resentment
1:54 Asking your partner for permission to share your wants
2:38 Respecting boundaries and finding support in your tribe
5:41 Identifying and clarifying wants and needs in a relationship
7:00 Preparing for and initiating discussions about relationship needs
8:51 Addressing small grievances before they escalate
10:52 Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
12:11 Importance of communication to avoid resentment
18:42 Apologizing and acknowledging impact in relationships
20:09 Addressing desire mismatches and intimacy issues
23:21 Promises versus guarantees in relationships
24:20 Importance of clear and open communication
24:39 Announcing James E. Bullard's free giveaway
26:10 Upcoming episodes preview
26:38 Closing remarks and key takeaways
26:48 Where to find Dr. Diane Mueller online
(0:00) Introduction, recap, and the problem of assumptions and resentment
(1:54) Asking your partner for permission to share your wants
(2:38) Respecting boundaries and finding support in your tribe
(5:41) Identifying and clarifying wants and needs in a relationship
(7:00) Preparing for and initiating discussions about relationship needs
(8:51) Addressing small grievances before they escalate
(10:52) Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
(12:11) Importance of communication to avoid resentment
(18:42) Apologizing and acknowledging impact in relationships
(20:09) Addressing desire mismatches and intimacy issues
(23:21) Promises versus guarantees in relationships
(24:20) Importance of clear and open communication
(24:39) Announcing James E. Bullard's free giveaway
(26:10) Upcoming episodes preview
(26:38) Closing remarks and key takeaways
(26:48) Where to find Dr. Diane Mueller online
28 min
July 23 Why You Can't Tell Your Husband What You Want Part 1 with James Bullard
The longer you're married, the harder it gets to even identify what you want from each other — let alone say it out loud without it sounding like a complaint. This first episode breaks down why naming your own wants feels riskier than staying quiet, and gives you a simple method for turning years of unspoken frustration into language your partner can actually act on. Grab Dr. Diane's date night checklist at mylibidodoc.com/freebies to start that conversation this week instead of letting it sit for another year.
About the Guest:
*James Bullard
Expertise: James Bullard is a storyteller, public speaker, and host of the podcast Radical Joy — part therapy session, part stand-up set, part permission slip to want more out of life. Through his speaking engagements and one-on-one coaching, he helps people who are secretly terrified of success as much as failure finally chase the big, scary, honest goal instead of settling for "fine.”
YouTube freebie, Sustainable Audacity: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F6ciBFVNjR8
Join The Bullard Brand community (includes Sustainable Audacity master class and BONUS PDF download): https://tinyurl.com/Sustainable-Audacity
Schedule a 30-minute connection session: https://calendly.com/thebullardbrand/30min
Opt-in/lead magnet: https://james-bullard.mykajabi.com/apply-to-work-with-me
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Get stronger better erections and grow in both length in size by getting the top of the line penis pump here: https://bit.ly/3Nn4J0h. Make sure to use the code to get a 10% discount LibidoDoc10
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/
✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
Timestamps:
0:00 Communication, vulnerability, and conflict in relationships
0:28 Introduction to the episode and guest
1:07 Difficulty in identifying what we want
2:25 Welcoming James Bullard from Radical Joy podcast
2:30 The importance of direct, kind communication
3:19 James Bullard's background in performance and joy
4:41 Understanding what you don't want
5:03 The human brain's preference for safety and familiarity
7:03 Practical examples of identifying likes and dislikes
10:22 Addressing serious relationship issues
13:50 The evolution of relationship dynamics
15:09 Revisiting and updating relationship questions
18:17 Methodology for analyzing relationship wants and needs
20:49 Teaser for next episode and free gift from James Bullard
24:15 Importance of confidence and efficiency in personal growth
25:00 James Bullard's coaching programs and sustainable audacity
25:30 Addressing core issues and efficiency in coaching
26:06 Wrap-up and reminders to subscribe and download freebies
26:26 Preview of next episode on desire mismatch
26:48 Closing thanks and acknowledgements
26:52 Outro and where to find Dr. Diane Mueller online
(0:00) Communication, vulnerability, and conflict in relationships
(0:28) Introduction to the episode and guest
(1:07) Difficulty in identifying what we want
(2:25) Welcoming James Bullard from Radical Joy podcast
(2:30) The importance of direct, kind communication
(3:19) James Bullard's background in performance and joy
(4:41) Understanding what you don't want
(5:03) The human brain's preference for safety and familiarity
(7:03) Practical examples of identifying likes and dislikes
(10:22) Addressing serious relationship issues
(13:50) The evolution of relationship dynamics
(15:09) Revisiting and updating relationship questions
(18:17) Methodology for analyzing relationship wants and needs
(20:49) Teaser for next episode and free gift from James Bullard
(24:15) Importance of confidence and efficiency in personal growth
(25:00) James Bullard's coaching programs and sustainable audacity
(25:30) Addressing core issues and efficiency in coaching
(26:06) Wrap-up and reminders to subscribe and download freebies
(26:26) Preview of next episode on desire mismatch
(26:48) Closing thanks and acknowledgements
(26:52) Outro and where to find Dr. Diane Mueller online
28 min
July 16 The Attachment Style Quietly Running Your Marriage with Dr. Diane
You're lying six inches apart every night, and it still feels like the loneliest room in the house. This episode explains why that distance usually isn't about attraction fading at all — it's a childhood-built nervous system pattern deciding, without asking you, whether closeness is safe. Start there tonight with our free Date Night Checklist — one small, pressure-free way back toward each other: mylibidodoc.com/freebies
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Get stronger better erections and grow in both length in size by getting the top of the line penis pump here: https://bit.ly/3Nn4J0h. Make sure to use the code to get a 10% discount LibidoDoc10
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/
✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
Timestamps:
0:00 Understanding low desire, safety, and attachment theory
1:57 Misconceptions and awareness about low desire and attachment
3:32 Contributions of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth
4:19 Formation of attachment styles and subconscious behaviors
4:52 Overview of the four attachment styles
5:50 Secure attachment and its impact on relationships
7:10 Anxious attachment and its effects
7:33 Avoidant attachment and its effects
8:42 Disorganized attachment and its effects
9:52 How attachment styles show up in the bedroom
11:18 Differences in arousal and desire between men and women
12:41 Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
13:17 The pursue-withdraw cycle in relationships
17:42 Responsive vs. spontaneous desire
20:03 Healing through naming and self-awareness
22:15 Exercises for avoidant and anxious attachment
24:21 Addressing multiple root causes for healthy desire
24:59 Sponsor: Libido quiz
25:43 Sponsor: Libido quiz continued
26:18 Upcoming relationship topics
26:48 Social media and contact information
(0:00) Understanding low desire, safety, and attachment theory
(1:57) Misconceptions and awareness about low desire and attachment
(3:32) Contributions of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth
(4:19) Formation of attachment styles and subconscious behaviors
(4:52) Overview of the four attachment styles
(5:50) Secure attachment and its impact on relationships
(7:10) Anxious attachment and its effects
(7:33) Avoidant attachment and its effects
(8:42) Disorganized attachment and its effects
(9:52) How attachment styles show up in the bedroom
(11:18) Differences in arousal and desire between men and women
(12:41) Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
(13:17) The pursue-withdraw cycle in relationships
(17:42) Responsive vs. spontaneous desire
(20:03) Healing through naming and self-awareness
(22:15) Exercises for avoidant and anxious attachment
(24:21) Addressing multiple root causes for healthy desire
(24:59) Sponsor: Libido quiz
(25:43) Sponsor: Libido quiz continued
(26:18) Upcoming relationship topics
(26:48) Social media and contact information
28 min
July 09 The Four Horsemen Destroying Your Marriage With Dr. Diane Mueller
If you and your partner stopped fighting but also stopped connecting, you're not in a better place — you're in a more dangerous one. This episode breaks down the four communication patterns silently poisoning your relationship (and why fixing just one of them could shift the entire dynamic in bed and out). Take Dr. Diane's free Yes, No, Maybe Checklist at mylibidodoc.com/yesnomaybe — it's a five-minute conversation starter that opens the door when words have stopped coming naturally.
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Get stronger better erections and grow in both length in size by getting the top of the line penis pump here: https://bit.ly/3Nn4J0h. Make sure to use the code to get a 10% discount LibidoDoc10
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/
✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/
✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
Timestamps:
0:00 Introduction, New Year greetings, and the importance of safety for sexual intimacy
1:04 Emotional and mental safety in sexual relationships
2:03 The impact of feeling unsafe on intimacy and energy flow
3:08 Scientific validation of acupuncture meridians and energy flow
4:31 Connection between emotions, energy, safety, and trust
6:15 Breaking trust and unmet promises in relationships
9:09 Introduction to Mystery Vibes products
12:34 Sponsor: Mystery Vibes
12:45 Sponsor: Mature Allure by Sherry O
13:09 Communication and trust in relationships
15:01 Emasculation and its impact on men
19:12 Communication strategies to avoid emasculation
20:52 The neurological impact of stress on libido
23:18 Understanding the connection between trust, safety, and libido
24:39 The importance of communication in relationships
25:17 Libido club and exclusive content
25:49 Closing remarks, gratitude, and where to find Dr. Diane Mueller online
(0:00) Introduction, New Year greetings, and the importance of safety for sexual intimacy
(1:04) Emotional and mental safety in sexual relationships
(2:03) The impact of feeling unsafe on intimacy and energy flow
(3:08) Scientific validation of acupuncture meridians and energy flow
(4:31) Connection between emotions, energy, safety, and trust
(6:15) Breaking trust and unmet promises in relationships
(9:09) Introduction to Mystery Vibes products
(12:34) Sponsor: Mystery Vibes
(12:45) Sponsor: Mature Allure by Sherry O
(13:09) Communication and trust in relationships
(15:01) Emasculation and its impact on men
(19:12) Communication strategies to avoid emasculation
(20:52) The neurological impact of stress on libido
(23:18) Understanding the connection between trust, safety, and libido
(24:39) The importance of communication in relationships
(25:17) Libido club and exclusive content
(25:49) Closing remarks, gratitude, and where to find Dr. Diane Mueller online
27 min
July 02 Is It Low T — Or Is Something Else Wrong? with Arthur L. "Bud" II, MD, MBA, FACS
If you've been quietly wondering whether low testosterone is the reason you've stopped wanting to touch your wife — or stopped wanting to at all — this episode is for you. You'll walk away understanding why a hormone fix alone almost never brings back the connection you've lost, and what actually has to happen first. If you're not sure where to start, take the free "Why Is My Desire Low?" quiz at mylibidodoc.com/libido-quiz — it maps both the physical and emotional roots, and it's completely free.
About the Guest:
*Arthur L. “Bud” Burnett II, MD, MBA, FACS
Expertise: Arthur L. “Bud” Burnett II, MD, MBA, FACS is a globally recognized Johns Hopkins urologist, researcher, and educator whose pioneering work in men’s health and erectile function has transformed care worldwide.
Dr. Burnett's website: https://drarthurburnett.com/
For interviews, commentary, speaking engagements, or professional inquiries, listeners are encouraged to visit Manifest Greatness Media at https://manifestgreatnessmedia.com/contact/ to get in touch or contact Dr. Burnett directly through his website at https://drarthurburnett.com
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
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✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
Timestamps:
0:00 Introduction and overview of testosterone’s role in libido
0:45 Myths and facts about testosterone
1:48 Testosterone’s impact on sexual desire
3:30 Testosterone replacement therapy: effects and considerations
4:31 When to seek professional help for testosterone issues
5:54 Testosterone and erectile dysfunction
7:16 Recommended tests and evaluation for testosterone
8:12 Criteria and decision-making for testosterone therapy
9:17 Comparing DHEA and testosterone therapy
10:18 Methods of testosterone delivery and patient preferences
13:08 Patient experiences and lifestyle factors in testosterone therapy
16:14 Testosterone therapy for non-symptomatic men
17:54 Root causes of low testosterone and closing remarks
(0:00) Introduction and overview of testosterone’s role in libido
(0:45) Myths and facts about testosterone
(1:48) Testosterone’s impact on sexual desire
(3:30) Testosterone replacement therapy: effects and considerations
(4:31) When to seek professional help for testosterone issues
(5:54) Testosterone and erectile dysfunction
(7:16) Recommended tests and evaluation for testosterone
(8:12) Criteria and decision-making for testosterone therapy
(9:17) Comparing DHEA and testosterone therapy
(10:18) Methods of testosterone delivery and patient preferences
(13:08) Patient experiences and lifestyle factors in testosterone therapy
(16:14) Testosterone therapy for non-symptomatic men
(17:54) Root causes of low testosterone and closing remarks
21 min
June 25Menopause Stole Her Brain — Not Just Her Drive with Andrea Donsky
If your wife has felt like a different person these last few years — foggy, irritable, checked out of the bedroom — and her doctor keeps telling her everything looks fine, this episode is for both of you. You'll walk away understanding that what's happening in her body has a name, 103 of them actually, and that 90% of what menopause does lives in the brain — which means the disconnection you're feeling isn't personal, it's physiological. If you want to understand where her head is right now before your next conversation, start with Dr. Diane's free "Why Is My Desire Low?" quiz at mylibidodoc.com/freebies — it's designed for exactly this moment.
About the Guest:
** Andrea Donsky*
Expertise: Andrea Donsky is a nutritionist (RHN), 7X Published Menopause Researcher & Entrepreneur with 26 years of experience in health and wellness. She is a respected multi-award-winning influencer, media personality, speaker, and author. Andrea hosts the popular podcast “Menopause Reimagined” and she is the co-founder of www.wearemorphus.com, a company that empowers women to feel heard and supported as they go through perimenopause and menopause with nutrition, lifestyle and high-quality, science-backed supplements. Her new book, Nourishing Menopause: Powerful Nutrition and Lifestyle Strategies to Feel Your Best, published by Simon and Schuster, was released on May 5th. Follow her on TikTok, Instagram and LinkedIn @andreadonsky @wearemorphus.
www.nourishingmenopausebook.com?www.wearemorphus.com?TikTok: @andreadonsky
IG: @andreadonsky and @wearemorphus
YouTube: @wearemorphus
Facebook: @wearemorphus
This is a link to our libido survey: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeEDrQyT-aA8J2LYRuhvAdrDEUQf8nYyErbixOkncecwqW9Fg/viewform?usp=send_form
https://wearemorphus.com/pages/symptoms-list : This is a list of the 103+ symptoms women can print off and bring to their doctors or healthcare providers
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Get stronger better erections and grow in both length in size by getting the top of the line penis pump here: https://bit.ly/3Nn4J0h. Make sure to use the code to get a 10% discount LibidoDoc10
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
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✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
Timestamps:
Medical gaslighting is a significant issue affecting forty percent of women during menopause, leading to a lack of support and understanding from healthcare professionals.
Women in perimenopause and menopause experience a wide range of symptoms, with ninety percent being related to cognitive, brain, or mental health, and libido significantly decreasing for ninety-one percent of participants in the survey.
Effective communication and understanding between partners are crucial, as the changes women go through during this stage of life also impact their relationships, causing feelings of walking on eggshells and emotional disconnect.
(0:00) Introduction, Andrea Donsky on menopause, symptoms, and impact on libido
(1:07) Menopause effects on relationships and importance of conversations
(2:29) Medical gaslighting and lack of support from healthcare professionals
(3:28) Andrea Donsky's research and published work on menopause
(4:22) Unfair treatment of women during menopause and personal experiences
(6:08) Overview of menopause symptoms and research findings
(8:27) Recognizing, validating, and discussing menopause symptoms
(9:29) Unique symptoms: phantom smells and cognitive changes
(12:44) Cognitive, mental health, and stress management during menopause
(16:23) Libido, sexual health, and decreased desire in menopause
(18:11) Men’s perspectives and relationship impacts
(18:47) Communicating advice and support for low libido
(19:59) Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
(22:12) Vaginal dryness and practical tips for relief
(24:05) Understanding blood work, laser rejuvenation, and fatigue
(25:29) Mindset, self-esteem, and sexual health
(27:36) Importance of blood flow and clitoral pumps
(28:06) Andrea Donsky's book and further research
(30:27) Weight gain, self-blame, and perimenopause
(32:10) Relearning sex, lifestyle changes, and essential nutrients
(38:33) Magnesium and high-level dietary advice
(40:24) The balance blueprint for menopause health
(41:43) Bio-individuality and choosing the right diet
(42:41) Understanding your body and supplements
(44:08) Men’s perspectives on partners in menopause
(46:01) Mindset, relationships, and encouragement to get Andrea’s book
(46:49) Importance of taking the survey and downloadable resources
(47:59) Closing remarks, subscription reminder, and outro
49 min
June 18 How One Person Can Fix a Dead Marriage with Dr. Lee Baucom
You've been managing the household, the kids, and the calendar together — but somewhere along the way you stopped actually being together, and now it feels like you're sharing a life with a stranger. In this episode, marriage coach Dr. Lee Baucom explains why the real problem usually isn't communication — and what one person can quietly do to shift the entire dynamic, even when their partner has already checked out. If you're not sure where to start, the Yes, No, Maybe Checklist at mylibidodoc.com/freebies is a simple, low-pressure way to open a door that's been closed for a while.
About the Guest:
*Dr. Lee Baucom
Expertise: Dr. Lee Baucom is a marriage coach who believes something most therapists won’t tell you: you don’t need your spouse on board to start saving your marriage. For over two decades, he’s helped thousands of people in hurting marriages discover that real change begins when one person decides to stop waiting and start acting. Lee doesn’t do endless processing or dwelling on what’s broken. Instead, he teaches people how to shift from “me versus you” thinking to seeing their marriage as a system they can influence, even when they feel completely alone in the effort. His approach is hope-infused and action-oriented, because he knows that the people who find him are tired of feeling stuck and ready for a new direction.
http://UnPauseYourMarriage.com
http://SaveTheMarriage.com
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family.
💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass
💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Get stronger better erections and grow in both length in size by getting the top of the line penis pump here: https://bit.ly/3Nn4J0h. Make sure to use the code to get a 10% discount LibidoDoc10
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
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✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/
✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/
✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU
Timestamps:
0:00 The pause button, subconscious disconnection, and introduction to Libido Lounge
1:31 Different categories of couples in trouble and common scenarios
4:18 The pause button vs. autopilot in relationships
7:02 Report vs. rapport in daily conversations
8:14 Starting points for one-sided efforts to revive a marriage
12:31 Guiding one person to initiate change
13:25 Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
15:05 The three C's: Connecting, changing, and creating a 'we'
19:18 Mistakes therapists and couples make in the beginning
20:40 Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan's pump systems
21:12 Common mistakes in therapy and communication issues
24:39 Lee's methods: Unpause Your Marriage and Save Your Marriage models
25:07 The Unpause Your Marriage app: How it works
25:50 The Save Your Marriage program and crisis action steps
26:18 One-on-one coaching, team support, and resources
27:13 Outro, subscription reminder, and sponsor acknowledgment
(0:00) The pause button, subconscious disconnection, and introduction to Libido Lounge
(1:31) Different categories of couples in trouble and common scenarios
(4:18) The pause button vs. autopilot in relationships
(7:02) Report vs. rapport in daily conversations
(8:14) Starting points for one-sided efforts to revive a marriage
(12:31) Guiding one person to initiate change
(13:25) Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
(15:05) The three C's: Connecting, changing, and creating a 'we'
(19:18) Mistakes therapists and couples make in the beginning
(20:40) Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan's pump systems
(21:12) Common mistakes in therapy and communication issues
(24:39) Lee's methods: Unpause Your Marriage and Save Your Marriage models
(25:07) The Unpause Your Marriage app: How it works
(25:50) The Save Your Marriage program and crisis action steps
(26:18) One-on-one coaching, team support, and resources
(27:13) Outro, subscription reminder, and sponsor acknowledgment
28 min

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