Life Coaching Secrets

In a recent interview with Authority Magazine, I was asked what habits allowed me to have success in my coaching business. Here's what I came up with:

1) Sleeping in every day. 

I decided early on that I was not going to sacrifice my health for success. Rather than wake up extremely early to make my life busier, I decided to sleep in and use my waking hours to focus ONLY on what would get me results. This allowed me to learn how to be productive instead of busy. When you give your brain LESS hours to work with, your brain becomes MORE efficient. You learn how to get more done in less time.

2) Embracing awkward conversations with strangers.

As an introvert, I avoided large social gatherings. I dreaded the awkwardness that came with meeting new people. But then I asked myself, "Is it worth it to have a moment of awkwardness if it meant this person's life will ultimately be transformed?" The answer was always yes. The more awkward conversations I fumbled through with strangers, the more my business ended up growing.

3) Asking for support.

I used to stubbornly try to figure everything out on my own. But then I realized that if I had a big mission, it would require big support. The moment I invested in professional training and mentorship was also when I saw everything start to skyrocket. There's no reason to reinvent the wheel if you want to succeed as a coach.

In this episode, I explain how you can incorporate these habits to hit your first $10k as a coach.

To become a Certified Professional Coach, visit www.thrivingcoachacademy.com.

Do you share your achievements freely? Or, do you worry that doing so will make you look arrogant?

When you brag just to brag, it is annoying. But, when you share wins AND you are helping other people succeed too, it is inspiring.

It is not "humble" or "modest" to withhold your achievements. Keeping your successes a secret does not serve anyone. Hiding your gifts does no one any good.

When you shine, you give other people permission to shine as well. And, there's room for everyone to shine.

When you share your own wins and breakthroughs, you are enabling others to see what's possible for them.

In this episode, I share why it's OK (and necessary) to blow your own horn if you want to make a difference as a coach.

To become a Certified Professional Coach, visit www.thrivingcoachacademy.com.

Do you ever wonder how to explain "life coaching" in a way so people actually get it?

The two biggest mistakes coaches make when explaining life coaching to others are:

1) Sharing a confusing elevator pitch. For example, "I help people break through all barriers so they can live to their potential!" Saying things like this will result in people looking at you like you have eight heads.

2) Educating them on the coaching process. For example, "I ask powerful questions, listen deeply, use tools to help you shift your mind, blah blah blah...". I hate to break it to you, but no one cares.

Most people don't care about coaching... but what they do care about is what results from coaching can get them.

In this episode, I share the best approach to use when talking about life coaching with people so that it actually makes sense. 

To become a Certified Professional Coach, visit www.thrivingcoachacademy.com.

Client Magnetism is the art of attracting clients with ease. Any coach can become a Client Magnet as long as they embody certain qualities.

The most important quality to have when becoming a Client Magnet is curiosity. When you approach all challenges in your business with curiosity, you will never get confused or overwhelmed. And, if you get curious enough times, you become a millionaire.

There are five stages most coaches get stuck are also where they fail to apply curiosity. Those stages are:

1) When you are just starting and don't know where to find clients.

2) When you are producing value but getting zero engagement.

3) When people are engaging with your content but not booking consults. 

4) When people are booking consults but not showing up to them.

5) When clients are hiring you but giving up and quitting.

In this episode, I share how to bring curiosity to all of these five stages so you never feel stuck in your coaching business again.

To become a Certified Professional Coach, visit www.thrivingcoachacademy.com.

Have you ever heard the phrase “busy being busy"? Many people are busy doing things that are not even moving them forward in life. They are doing lots of lots of things, but they are staying exactly where they’ve always been.

We all experience 24 hours in a day. It is perhaps the one thing that is equal amongst us all. Time is the most precious resource we have because once it’s gone, it’s gone.

Unfortunately, many people let time slip away doing things that aren't serving them. Being "too busy" is one of the greatest lies we tell ourselves. In fact, when people say, "I don’t have the time", it is total BS.

Many people wear their "busy-ness" as a badge of honor. They are proud of how busy they are because it makes them feel important. Sadly, it’s just sloppy time management.

But when it comes to having the life you want, it's important to stop thinking you are "too busy" and instead become more deliberate in how you spend your time.

In this episode, I share how to know your priorities, set clear boundaries, and discover how there is always enough time to do what you want.

To become a Certified Professional Coach, visit www.thrivingcoachacademy.com.

When I began my coaching business, I realized there is not one magical strategy that works to find clients. And, my results didn't come from the actions I took, but from the thoughts, I had, that were fueling my actions. The more work I did on my thinking, the more my business grew.

One of the things I learned is that there are thoughts that repel clients and thoughts that attract clients. And here's the thing: you cannot have a million-dollar coaching business if you are thinking Zero Dollar Thoughts.

I'm not saying that you can sit around and think happy thoughts all day and expect to see results. What I am saying is that, when you have the right mindset, it will inspire you to take bold action steps that will save you time and get you, clients, with ease.

When you are getting started (or looking to scale) as a coach, you will need to up-level your thinking before you start seeing new results. You cannot grow a business unless you grow the leader running it.

If you don't have the income you want in your coaching business, it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. It just means you have some unexamined thoughts to look at.

In this episode, I'm going to spare your years of struggle by revealing to you the thoughts that will produce no money for your business, and the Million Dollar Thoughts that will bring you the income you deserve.

To become a Certified Professional Coach, visit www.thrivingcoachacademy.com.

Many people have the desire for a better life but struggle to create it. That's because desire alone gets you nowhere. 

Desire is a passive experience. It requires no effort, energy, or action to desire something.

And, desiring something does not entitle you to have it. On the other hand, commitment requires action. Commitment may be uncomfortable, but it is required if you want to achieve anything worthwhile in life.

The reason most people fail is not because of a lack of time, money, skill, or energy. It's due to a lack of commitment.

This is important to know because life does not give us what we want. It gives us what we are most committed to.

In this episode, I break down how to go from living a life of desire to a life of commitment.

To become a Certified Professional Coach, visit www.thrivingcoachacademy.com.

You have thousands of coaching clients that exist in this world right now. Even if you haven't launched your business yet. They already exist. And they're ready to pay you. 

When I got started as a coach, I thought it would be impossible to stand out and get clients because there were "too many" coaches already out there. I didn't think I added anything new or valuable to the industry. 

But then one day, when a client hired me, she said "I have been looking for a coach like YOU for SO LONG." It made me realize something so profound that I now share it with our coaches in the Academy. 

Right now, there are people in the world who desire you. They are looking for YOUR FLAVOR to life. They want to be in your energy. And no one else can replicate that. All you need to do is show up and let them know that you've arrived. 

Here's another way to understand this: Think about a musician you love. Before that musician became known, you were ALREADY a fan of them. You were already wanting them. Then, they made themselves known, and you thought, "YES! This is the music I've been wanting. I’ve been LOOKING FOR YOU." Were there other famous musicians BEFORE the one you mentioned? Yes! 

You don’t have to be the first to be successful. You just need to be THE NEXT. If you question whether there is space in this world for your coaching, your art or your voice, realize there is a hidden community of raving fans you already have that are waiting to hear your message right now. They already exist. You just need to let them know that YOU exist.  

To become a Certified Professional Coach, visit www.thrivingcoachacademy.com.

Goals can be deceiving. On the surface, a goal is typically thought to be something you want to achieve or do. But what if that's actually not what really matters? 

When someone sets a goal, they will often come up with a plan to achieve that goal. The plan doesn't work, and the person is left frustrated and disappointed. The bigger the goal, the more plans you will have that will fail.

The key to experiencing joy and freedom in your life is not through achieving goals. It's through learning to appreciate the pursuit of our goals. You can be committed to your goals and be detached on how you get there at the same time.

It's easy to understand but difficult to master. In this episode, we explore how to identify Goals Behind Goals so you get to the essence of how someone can get the most out of life.

To become a Certified Professional Coach, visit www.thrivingcoachacademy.com.

How important is it for you to do things in life that feel "authentic"? As someone who values authenticity, I found it very challenging to start a coaching business because nothing felt authentic.

It didn't feel authentic to talk about myself.

I thought maybe something was wrong and I should pursue something that felt more authentic or aligned. But what I realized is that my entire idea of authenticity was false.

You know what feels authentic in life? Everything we've already done. But doing things you already done is just going to continue giving you what you already have. But doing the same behaviors is not keeping you authentic, it's keeping you small.

Transforming your live requires you look at yourself and challenge who you THINK you are to become who you are MEANT to BE. Real authenticity is about embracing opportunities that allow you to share your voice, your message and your gifts.

In this episode, I break down the concept of False Authenticity and how to truly show up in the world as fully you.

To become a Certified Professional Coach, visit www.thrivingcoachacademy.com.