In this inspiring and heartfelt coaching session, Christine works with Sarah, who is navigating life after the dissolution of a 20-year marriage. While Sarah has processed much of her grief and feels more grounded, she finds herself in an in-between space—caught between who she was in the relationship and the new version of herself that she is becoming.

Christine helps Sarah explore the deeper roots of her feelings of being held back, which stem from earlier life experiences where she felt disempowered. Through their conversation, they discuss the challenges of moving forward when parts of your old life still linger, and how to embrace your growth without slipping back into past patterns.

Listeners will learn how to acknowledge and honor their own progress, release the need to please others, and fully step into their new life. This episode encourages listeners to choose themselves, embrace their own story, and trust that moving forward—while uncomfortable at times—is worth it.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you feeling stuck between your past and your future?
• Do you tend to hold back because you fear upsetting others?
• Are you fully acknowledging your own progress, or are you still telling yourself an old story?
• Can you trust that your choices, even if they come with loss, are the best ones for your growth?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Holding back can feel familiar, but it doesn’t serve your growth.
• Grief can come in waves, even after you think you’ve moved on.
• Choosing yourself may mean letting go of old relationships, and that’s okay.
• You don’t have to wait for external validation to step into your new story.
• Acknowledging your growth is essential to moving forward.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Identify the ways you are holding back and consciously choose to move forward.
• Allow yourself to feel the grief of letting go without letting it hold you back.
• Practice trusting your choices and recognize your progress without minimizing it.
• Find your support network and let them remind you of your growth when self-doubt creeps in.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this honest and empowering coaching session, Christine works with Elena, who is navigating the emotional aftermath of ending a seven-year relationship. Although the breakup initially seemed mutual, deeper fears have surfaced—particularly around abandonment, self-worth, and what it means to be alone.

Christine helps Elena explore the deeper roots of these fears, which stem from unresolved childhood trauma and modeled behavior from her mother. This episode addresses why we often stay in relationships that aren't healthy, the difference between true forgiveness and repression, and how to break free from generational patterns.

Through this conversation, listeners will learn how to embrace solitude, process anger in a healthy way, and find strength in standing firm in their boundaries. If you’ve ever questioned whether you were too hard on someone, or feared walking away even when you knew it was the right choice, this episode is for you.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Have you ever stayed in a relationship because you were afraid of being alone?
• Do you struggle with repeating family or generational patterns in your relationships?
• Are you confusing forgiveness with repression?
• Do you feel like you're settling for less than you deserve because it feels safer than the unknown?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Being alone in a relationship can feel lonelier than being on your own.
• Anger, when unexpressed, can turn into anxiety or self-betrayal.
• Repeating generational patterns is common, but with awareness and action, they can be broken.
• True healing requires both reparenting yourself and creating new internal belief systems.
• Boundaries are an act of self-love and are essential to change long-standing relational habits.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Embrace solitude as a form of strength, not weakness.
• Practice anger release through safe outlets such as movement or journaling.
• Acknowledge generational influences without letting them define your future.
• Reframe thoughts that tempt you to return to unhealthy dynamics. Ask yourself, “Is this my voice, or my programming?”
• Visualize the kind of parent, partner, or person you want to be, and make choices in alignment with that vision.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
•  Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

With the recent eclipse, equinox, planets in retrograde and schumann resonance activity, a lot of us are feeling pretty crappy! In this episode I share some tips for staying grounded and nourishing yourself during this time.

In this deeply personal and transformative episode, Christine Hassler coaches Sara through the difficult journey of self-forgiveness. Many of us have experienced the weight of regret—dwelling on decisions we wish we had made differently and struggling to let go of the past. This episode offers a path toward healing, self-acceptance, and true forgiveness.

Christine helps Sara navigate the emotions of guilt, self-judgment, and the pressure to "fix" herself, while also uncovering the deeper wounds that have shaped her self-worth. Together, they explore the impact of childhood conditioning, the importance of self-compassion, and how to break free from patterns of self-criticism.

This coaching session is a powerful reminder that we are not defined by our mistakes and that true self-love means embracing all parts of ourselves—even the ones we struggle to accept.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you holding onto self-judgment for something you’ve done?
• Do you find it easier to forgive others than to forgive yourself?
• Have you ever attached your self-worth to external validation, such as your appearance or achievements?
• Are you ready to let go of shame, guilt, and regret, and embrace self-compassion instead?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Many of the “mistakes” we regret are actually opportunities for growth.
• Forgiveness is not about condoning what happened, but about freeing yourself from self-punishment.
• Our childhood experiences shape our self-image—but we have the power to rewrite our story.
• True healing begins with self-compassion, not self-criticism.
• We can learn to see ourselves beyond the surface and appreciate our true, authentic essence.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Reframe your perception—instead of seeing your actions as "mistakes," view them as learning experiences.
• Practice self-mothering—speak to yourself with the same love and gentleness you would offer a child.
• Challenge self-judgment—when you hear your inner critic, ask, “Would I say this to a friend?”
• Shift your focus from past regret to future growth—each day is a chance to choose self-compassion.

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Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this insightful coaching session, Christine Hassler helps Venus navigate deep emotional wounds related to past relationships. Venus struggles with feelings of being replaced and not being chosen, which stem from childhood neglect, abuse, and enmeshment. She finds herself caught in patterns of comparison and pain over an ex possibly moving on with someone else. Together, Christine and Venus unpack these core wounds, working toward reclaiming empowerment, self-worth, and emotional sovereignty.

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt stuck in the past, struggled with self-worth after a breakup, or wants to heal old relationship wounds at the root level.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you still emotionally attached to an ex, even though you know you were incompatible?
• Do you struggle with feelings of being replaced or not chosen?
• Have childhood wounds influenced your relationships, making love feel like dependency or codependency?
• Are you trying to “pray away” pain instead of working through it?
• How can you shift from a fear-based desire for validation to true self-empowerment?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• The pain of feeling replaced often stems from deeper childhood wounds of neglect or not being chosen.
• Healing is a process that requires presence, patience, and self-compassion—there’s no quick fix.
• Breaking patterns of comparison and self-judgment is crucial for self-empowerment.
• Taking up space, moving energy through the body, and developing personal sovereignty help break cycles of emotional pain.
• The shift from being disempowered to reclaiming choice is the core of deep healing.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Recognize disempowering thought patterns and actively redirect them.
• Use empowering language—instead of asking, “Why did this happen to me?” reframe it as, “What am I choosing at this moment?”
• Engage in movement and expression—dance, sing, walk, or scream into a pillow to release stored emotional energy.
• Practice self-acknowledgement—celebrate progress rather than focusing on how far you still need to go.
• Trust the process—deep healing doesn’t happen overnight, but consistent efforts make a lasting impact.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Steven Kessler has been a licensed psychotherapist, studying many different healing modalities and maps of personality, including Character Structure, the Enneagram, NLP, energy work, Thought Field Therapy, and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). He is a certified EFT Expert & Trainer.

Steven has also spent many years studying the evolution of human consciousness. His bestselling book, The 5 Personality Patterns, deepens the insights of character structure and, for the first time, presents its map of the human personality to the general public. Many people claim that reading it has been a life-changing experience, which has enabled them to finally understand both themselves and others.

On this podcast we talk about his newest book, How to Have Better Relationships, which teaches the skills you need and actions to take to connect better with others based on the 5 personality patterns.

You can access Steven's first interview where we dive deeper into the 5 personality patterns: https://christinehassler.com/2021/07/coaches-corner-292/

and his books and courses: https://the5personalitypatterns.com/shop/

In this week’s episode, Christine Hassler revisits the very first episode of Over It and On With It, taking us back to where it all began. As we move through a new moon in Pisces, a time of fresh starts, Christine invites us to reflect on our own new beginnings. She shares her journey of launching this podcast despite doubts and external discouragement, offering a powerful reminder to trust our intuition—even when things don’t make sense on the surface.

Whether you're embarking on something new, re-evaluating your values during this Venus retrograde, or simply looking for inspiration to take that next step, this episode will remind you of the courage it takes to begin again. Christine also reflects on the deeper process of reprogramming our beliefs, navigating fear, and aligning with our truth.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you on the brink of a fresh start but feeling hesitant?
• Have you ever ignored your intuition because of fear or external doubts?
• Do you struggle with letting go of old expectations in order to create something new?
• Are you craving more clarity about what truly matters to you?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• New beginnings often come with doubt, but trusting yourself is key.
• External discouragement doesn’t mean your idea isn’t valid—it just means it’s different.
• Reprogramming your mindset can be challenging, but it’s necessary for transformation.
• True alignment happens when we clear out fear-based decisions and follow what feels right.
• Growth isn’t about having all the answers—it’s about taking the next step in faith.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Reflect on where you’re being called to start fresh, even if it doesn’t make perfect sense.
• Identify areas where fear or external opinions are holding you back.
• Give yourself permission to re-evaluate your values and what truly drives you.
• Embrace the discomfort of growth—sometimes the hardest part is just taking that first step.
• Surround yourself with supportive voices that remind you of your power and potential.

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: [email protected] — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

In this episode Christine dives into how the belonging wound happens and why it feels so big and hard to overcome. If you ever feel alone, left out, not included, or separate, this episode is for you. Learn how you can work with this wound and start creating the connections that you want and need. 

This coaching call is about feeling out of control when being in control is how we have compensated for not getting what we needed as children. Today’s caller, Cato, is pregnant and her lack of control is creating panic. She asks Christine for guidance on how to be okay with the changes in her life and her fear of feeling insignificant.

As children, we need to belong. We need love. And we need to feel safe. So, whatever we need to do and whoever we need to become to get those things, we do. The need for significance comes from not feeling enough as a child, not feeling significant just for who we are. So as an adult, we are constantly looking for people to see us, love us, and tell us how wonderful we are because that need was not fulfilled in childhood. Either we weren’t told we were good or we only were told we were good when we did something “good.”

Something important for people to talk about is that — Yes, having a baby is blissful and magical AND it can be really hard at times. There are times when the hard times are more than the amazing times and that’s okay. It is an identity death like no other and there’s no way around that.

The more we resist it and try to hang on to who we were or to keep that version of us, the more we are going to bump up against resistance. Because when we get pregnant and when we give birth, the old version of us dies and the maiden becomes the mother. We have to find our new identity at the same time that we are learning to care for another human being. It’s a lot.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you like control? Does it make you feel calm and safe?
• Do you consider yourself a capable, on-top-of-it person but something has completely thrown you off your game?
• Do you fear not being relevant or not being significant?
• Do you know how to receive, or do you believe that you must do to receive and be relevant?

Cato’s Question:

Cato fears that her pregnancy will make her irrelevant and insignificant. She is asking for guidance on how to be okay with herself and what is happening.

Cato’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She is excited about her pregnancy.
• Her pregnancy is forcing her to slow down.
• She signed up for Elementum Coaching Institute.
• Her pregnancy is bringing up depression and feelings of a lack of control.
• She is experiencing intense emotions and is unsure of herself for the first time.
• She realizes she has been using control to create safety.
• She fears slowing down and not being relevant or significant.
• Her inner child carries sadness and anger toward her father.
• She is unsure if she is worthy of raising her child.
• She is embodying receptivity.
• She feels closer to her womb and her heart.
• She has always kept busy to distract herself from her feelings.
• When she slows down, she feels restless.
• She finds purpose and meaning in her work.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Welcome the new feelings she is having.
• Listen to this episode when it airs.
• Embody what it feels like to be in her feminine.
• Be curious about her restlessness.
• Savor her pregnancy.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

[email protected]

[email protected] — For information on any of my services

Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Today on CC we talk about something that completely shifted my perspective on health and fitness. For years, we’ve been told that the goal is to lose weight—shrink down, take up less space. But the truth is, focusing on the scale might be the biggest mistake when it comes to long-term health and strength.

What really matters isn’t weight—it’s body composition. It’s about having more muscle and less excess fat because that’s what keeps you strong, energized, and capable as you age.

My friend Holly Perkins has been helping women transform their bodies and health for 30 years, and she’s hosting a free three-day workshop called Mastering Your Body Composition. It’s all about shifting the focus from weight loss to building the kind of body that supports you for life.

If you’ve been frustrated with the usual fitness advice and want real, lasting results, I highly recommend this. The workshop starts on March 6th, and it’s free to join. You can grab your spot at hollyperkins.com/christine