🔸 Getting to matter

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🔸 1️⃣ Beyond committed. The art and science of figuring out your entire self

2️⃣ Deep down bad parts. It’s crazy the way kids are treated.
📌 1️⃣ Olivia Followed up: i will say-- i actually wish i talked more about this on the pod but the mdma aftermath isn't always a treat, there are actually some big feelings of turmoil afterwards, you kind of feel like your life is a mess for a couple weeks because stuff is hitting you. i felt that way and my friend also felt that way... but the ensuing clarity and breakthroughs are worth it
it's like you're ripped open a bit and then enable to heal
though the healing still requires a good amount of work or at least it did in my case, i found it hard to even do my job for a week, and i was constantly feeling like, how do i figure out this maze of feels?!
james: 
Ive not experienced that negative side, but maybe I had less I was needing (or willing) to heal
Olivia: 
i'm definitely willing to believe it's different for everyone
my friend for instance, i dont think she would even say she did a lot of work to get to her breakthrough
she was just a mess for 2 weeks and then had kind of a sudden realization

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

1️⃣ Do differently? No; whatever got me here, to this place, with this person, makes me glad I did everything the way did.

Cynical part's answer: quit Live IFS, start Live MDMA.

2️⃣ It’s been 2+ weeks of high stress / high stakes stuff for me. I've been increasingly concerned about the effects on my health, multiple ailments reappearing. Today was *my* do whatever day, finally vacation day. I just lounged around, fed the crows, stretched a lot, ate what & when I wanted, skipped exercise (and that ~hour of call prep I normally do). So this was fitting.

When I start getting sick, my “figure it out” part takes over, researching like mad, making a project out of it, documenting everything, reviewing old notes. But lately I've been working with it more, taking it seriously, and allowing that process to complete. Then I actually arrive at “I've read enough, made enough todos and appts, time for that part to rest. Let's try calm, space, and see what intuition (now more informed) brings.

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🔸 What are the consequences of being vulnerable? Of trusting men? An experiment.

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🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Do differently: prepare better for midday calls, I'm often a little slow out of the gate. Grateful for Christine's leadership, which refocused the session multiple times.

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🔸 Doing it wrong and the real fear chat with James.

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Day 4 of deep relaxation, a personal vacation, have been doing lots of my own parts work. I'd like to do more to maintain continuity; "doing it wrong" gives us these glimpses, and when they're share with me (not Justine-Self), I should take more responsibility for following up.

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🔸 Alethea Hanna is a trauma recovery coach with IFS Level II training. She is passionate about the IFS model and looks forward to the day when everyone can regularly experience the relief of looking at and listening to their parts with love.

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🔸 Overwhelmed puzzler, a problem I'm not in the middle of.

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🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

I can’t explain every decision made in targeting. We can move quickly, I want to keep looking out for it being too quick.

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🔸 A floating freight train

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🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

I coulda been a little quicker on the draw. Kinda feel that way about all my calls. But. I have time. I rarely regret taking it

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🔸 Hot date heartache. Making it safe to want.

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Faster targeting. I know I sound off, a little short. Not feeling tip-top today. And parts increasingly frustrated w my yielding to story-telling. Maybe we should start charging by the hour. Joke. But I imagine the constraint of a 1-hour time limit used by most professionals has its upsides. “Yes you could tell me a story… and now we have 48 minutes to do the work…” I'm not complaining from a “waste my time” part, that’s not it. More like “I could serve better if I had some policy here”.

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🔸 Family loss. She needed there to be more of a network

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Once I was certain about Theresa’s connection w exile, I relaxed and let some other of my parts (who love talking shop w T) step in. Maybe not ideal. But definitely better than starting a session that way.

As for the concept of "inviting the Self of someone else’s parts", it's never felt right to me. If someone was not good to me, who am I serving by imagining they were? Self can do anything for its parts; “I am here, I can go to where you are, and here’s how I would help” builds trust and heals, in the present. Or Self can "see that these were parts of [other person], and have compassion for their system”, in the present. But I think "imagine he was good to you" risks invalidating a part's experience.

Responding to “she needed those relationships not to end” I could have reiterated, "what did she need from someone (you), given those relationships were ending."

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🔸 Overwhelming beauty: Charlotte's wins and/or "too high on life"

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Climate control new IFS room. Oh, it was Frank Anderson saying "source", not Jay Early.

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