Live IFS

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Live IFS episodes

April 12, 2024371: Theresa A. revisits
🔸 Family loss. She needed there to be more of a network
🔹 Parts:
P: minimizer. This is fine now, nothing to see here. Family image protector. Never look back. Doesn’t want a bunch of whining, it’s weak to be bothered by things that aren’t horrible. “Self like” is not gonna get the job done

E: kid from whom something was taken. There weren’t other adults. I want my auntie. Too much focus on her. Nobody explained.
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Once I was certain about Theresa’s connection w exile, I relaxed and let some other of my parts (who love talking shop w T) step in. Maybe not ideal. But definitely better than starting a session that way.
As for the concept of "inviting the Self of someone else’s parts", it's never felt right to me. If someone was not good to me, who am I serving by imagining they were? Self can do anything for its parts; “I am here, I can go to where you are, and here’s how I would help” builds trust and heals, in the present. Or Self can "see that these were parts of [other person], and have compassion for their system”, in the present. But I think "imagine he was good to you" risks invalidating a part's experience.
Responding to “she needed those relationships not to end” I could have reiterated, "what did she need from someone (you), given those relationships were ending."

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1 hr 11 min
April 11, 2024 370: Charlotte A. revisits
🔸 Overwhelming beauty: Charlotte's wins and/or "too high on life"

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Climate control new IFS room. Oh, it was Frank Anderson saying "source", not Jay Early.

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1 hr 25 min
April 09, 2024 369: Bee A. revisits
🔸 The one who won't use her voice

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Something. Not sure.

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1 hr 11 min
April 07, 2024368: Olivia A. revisits
🔸 MDMA. Hide the body parts!
*Note: Olivia is not a pot head
🔹 Parts:
P: The ones who block the body part fear. Manager can’t step back cuz no analysis and method. Afraid of fear of Gatekeeper.

P: ”body” part, best thing ever, gives joy meaning. Expansive access. Leads to:

E: Grief of losing ex if I find out, Im irredeemable, everything is ruined.
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
I had my own sense of "futility", not in a bad way. It was when we realized gatekeepers just want Self's presence, so why am I talking? It can feel kinda haha self-defeating.

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1 hr 10 min
April 05, 2024367: Christine A. - first call
🔸 People don’t take you seriously when you’re excited
🔹 Parts:
P: School teacher: You shouldn’t be this excited. You make a fool of yourself, you overwhelm people with the way you are.. don’t be embarrassing. calm equals effective. Rather be helping w understanding. Thinks im 7.

P: Excited. Why are you raining on our parade?

P: Efficient

E: 15yo got really excited, jumped up on desk. Get in trouble. Get banished. Disconnection

E: 7, maybe, finally spoke up and regretted it

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1 hr 14 min
April 03, 2024366: Justine A. revisits
🔸 Unboxing "Spoiling Christmas"
🔹 Parts:
P (target) has to do it all or else nothing will get done. On its own

P trying to create the magic of Christmas

P this commercial stuff bullshit

P worth from things , the currency of love

P you have to be the best, you’re not doing it right.

P the elves. Exiles too dangerous!:

PE: told ruined Xmas , shroud over!

E black sheep. Age 5. I'm on my own and no one is coming. There’s no one who knows me the way I need to be known. Not fair that I was the difficult one. There's nobody. Angry
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
If it wasn’t audio-only, I can imagine saying even less. Justine asks for my guidance when she needs it, and doesn’t when she doesn’t.

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1 hr 22 min
March 19, 2024 365: Elena A. revisits (J edit)
🔸 Pushing

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1 hr 1 min
March 15, 2024363: Genie A. revisits
🔸 Another lovely day at the park. The unfinished bits, untangling, rewinding.
📌 Genie followed up:
i had made a conscious decision before that session, to fully 'go there' - wherever 'there' was - and not to 'try' doing anything - no figuring, no thinking, no looking for answers, no wondering how i was coming across, whether it was 'real' or not, no trying to be...anything/something or other. kind of like a trust falling exercise. just let go and do it.
the reason being, i wanted to know once and for all if i could trust this IFS thing. and best way to find out was to see how it felt when i was at my most vulnerable. i think the whole - 'you don't have much time left, make a choice' vs 'evaluate, consider, reflect before jumping in' parts were actually about that. about making a choice about ifs. and it was kinda mind blowing. i let go, i fell - and it was all good. better than good! it wasn't just about trusting ifs - it was about trusting me, trusting you and me, trusting not just that i would be safe - but that there would actually be positive benefits - like i would be.... hmm, different? changed? more? ... can't quite find the word - but better in some way that was more than just not being hurt or feeling unsafe.
i'm still really grateful and appreciative of all the skeptical, risk management, requiring proof/data, be careful parts - cos they helped me figure out how to conduct this experiment. and they have sure kept me safe in the past! they still can't fully explain the outcome of the experiment - but they accept the results. which were basically a big fat - go for it! lol.
so just wanted to explain that and let you know how grateful i am to you! i mean - i didn't even tell you that you were part of an experiment - (which now feels a little unethical! sorry!) and the end result was - that despite those doubtful parts not being able to explain how this whole thing works - they can see that it does.
🔹 Parts:
make choices now. No time to waste. Agitates, gives energy. Choices are not always life and death. Just pick one. It’s irresponsible to waste your time and talent. You might as well be dead

regret, more like reflecting summarizing. We can’t make a choice without evaluating. Protects a:

cute little child/multiple ages who is lost. They like butterflies

sadness overwhelms. Doesn’t know how to not overwhelm. Where does it come from?! “I ain’t nice, you don’t wanna get to know me”… it’s a long story. Needs james to pass the test re calm, no sirens.

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1 hr 26 min
March 13, 2024 362: Pro: Alethea Hanna with Alex
🔸 Alethea Hanna is a trauma recovery coach with IFS Level II training. She is passionate about the IFS model and looks forward to the day when everyone can regularly experience the relief of looking at and listening to their parts with love.
She can be reached at [email protected].
🎓 What Alethea would like to do differently:
I should have ended the session sooner. I think both of us were motivated by the desire for Alex to experience a satisfying shift, which made me less attentive to the parts of myself that were starting to feel tired. There is a segment (1:55:52-2:07:54) when we're discussing whether to keep going that I would have edited out (so feel free to fast forward there!) This is where I should have ended the session, assuring Alex that we would meet again. Fortunately she was able to spend time with a key part after that, so all's well that ends well.

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2 hr 54 min
March 11, 2024361: Mio A. revisits
🔸 The diplomat & actress.
🔹 Parts:
Accommodating calm veneer until overload. Rather be pampering me. thinks im 6-7. Is this the same as?:

Big sister guilt, everything is my fault. If I’m not accommodating, I’m bad.

The young one, (same as blue overalls?) she is so torn because she’s getting the message that everything is her fault. Made her feel so alone and so unprotected. And so trapped, she can’t do anything over again.. I want to hold your hand (w little sister allies).

2.5yo so angry my sister! I wanted one so much

Grade school sneaky math, grades

Teen
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Experimenting with hitting the gas, striking while the iron's hot; Mio's a veteran. Maybe with hindsight I would do differently but it all felt right at the time.

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1 hr 24 min