Live IFS

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Live IFS episodes

June 04, 2024 393: Theresa A. revisits
🔸 People quietly walking away.
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
One of those days, racing home, have just a minute to catch my breath before getting on a call. But having the convo was just what my parts & I needed.

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1 hr 7 min
June 02, 2024 392: Mio A. revisits
🔸 A keyhole. Easy is scary.
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
A lot of this felt familiar, I believe we had already done some witnessing here, so I wanted to see if we could take some shortcuts

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1 hr 16 min
May 31, 2024 391: ⏫️ Clare A. revisits
🔸 Sit down, shut up, hold on!
2️⃣Pod boppins. We’re allowed to have concerns?
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Must remember to stretch before calls w Clare! We haven't done IFS in ~6 months, so when "This way, not that way" parts show up, I don’t feel like I have much room to challenge them. But I do wonder “how much of this part's role is diversionary?” Is the future/giggling just a more pleasant place to be?
I wonder what percentage of journeyers have this kind of instant, visual access to these realms. 5? It’s hard for me to know how to guide other than “I'll hang out with you while you travel”
2️⃣ I could have worded it better, but my confidence in her and this process is strong. Maybe I was talking to my own skeptical parts… they’re saying “where’s the sadness, where’s the hurt, are we having too much fun, are we being distracted?” … maybe. But the only way out is through. Meaning, evn if that’s the case, we’ll find out only by continuing to notice and engage from where we are.
Some of that confidence comes from knowing that Clare's “people pleaser” parts aren’t extreme. She’s not doing this for me! Her “personal development” parts work hard, but she’s not beating down my door to do this work.

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1 hr 47 min
May 29, 2024390: Riben A. - first call
🔸 Step 1: Who’s here?
🔹 Parts:
P: Sleepy v judgemental

P: Frustrated, an intensity “the universe is coming down on me”

P: Holding it together. "I don’t want to be emoting during those challenging time"
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
I could be wrong! I had parts on edge, this being a first time caller, parts saying “jump in now! No now!” Others saying I should just observe for now, meditate on it later. But who knows if we'll talk again? My confidence of that being a part: 86%.
I got stuck in town today, arrived home 60 seconds before call start, Riben didn't see my messages asking for 10 min late start, all of that had my parts scrambling a bit.

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1 hr 12 min
May 27, 2024 389: ⏫️ Onyx A. revisits
🔸 Teenage angst, impossible heaviness. She didn't think I'd get this far.
2️⃣ Rageful truth of the body. These social games feel like shit.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
1️⃣ Low energy today, but it felt right to hit the gas. We don’t meet often, it’s been maybe 2.5 months, and nothing else booked, so that’s another reason I go faster, especially when spacey was getting involved. Combined self energy was on the edge, but I'm confident in Onyx, her route and tools.
2️⃣ Onyx's system reminds me of my own, probably more than any other caller's. So I have to be very careful to avoid projecting.

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2 hr 21 min
May 26, 2024387: Christine A. revisits
🔸 A block around remembering my dreams
🔹 Parts:
4yo is afraid to go to sleep. And confused about why others brush it off.
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
My non-responses weren’t always cuz I thought that would be ideal, just not at full power, long day. I could have called attention to the mom-defender, maybe I just didn't have the language, or thought it might pull us off track.

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1 hr 15 min
May 25, 2024 386: Ian A. revisits
🔸 Gambling; the game of life.
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
It's been about a year since we talked, and the only intention we set was to chat, not do IFS. So I took this call while walking, and didn't prep much.
Presenting with what he called his most significant trauma, at beginning of call I was wanting to offer detours, not make the mistake of going too fast. But I'm not confident when I'm just one foot in IFS, and I don't think I was being particularly skillful or helpful.
When an old pal reaches out and says "my mom died", even if our intention was to do IFS, it doesn't feel right to respond with "How about a minute of meditation? Got any parts...?"

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1 hr 8 min
May 23, 2024385:⏫️ Bee A. revisits
🔸 We don’t live there anymore
2️⃣ Left out of the family picture
🔹 Parts:
P: get it perfect or you’ll disappear. tired, wishes someone else was In charge. Works so hard for chance to rest.

P: it’s too dangerous to look inside: “Are you crazy? He’ll kill us all”, story has been told, not felt. wants death certificates

E: waiting to be seen, in so much pain

P: healing is a battle
2️⃣
P: the judge. “she’s a coward” Not being willing to hear the truth. crazy about clean, searching for weak spot. Angry. You’re missing life by not expressing yourself. You’re giving up on relationships. Thinks I'm 13

E: on the outside. “You’re not family, you don’t belong in this kind of picture” Judge keeps telling me I have to ask questions. Wants me to talk to the judge
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
2️⃣ One of those hot midday summer calls, didn’t sleep great, headachy. I was finishing too many of her sentences but aiming for efficiency (win if I guess right!)

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2 hr 1 min
May 21, 2024384: Justine A. revisits
🔸 Collapse. There’s a lot riding on this.
🔹 Parts:
Rage: you never want to work w me

Urgency has to be there because motivation and drive are not.

Collapse is overwhelm + distraction (the 2)

Grief from how time was spent in 20s. Lost, unhappy, alone. Wanted somebody to get her. 21 year old by the river. Wants me to write.

The one who wants to hide from responsibility, career
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Tech problems had me flustered. Justine's intuition is so strong, I'm hesitant to open my mouth.

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1 hr
May 15, 2024383: ⏫️ Mimi A. - first call
🔸 “I have to be good at this”
2️⃣ Triangles and check-in tips
🔹 Parts:
P “The rehearser” narrates everything.

P Jittery, won’t let me go deep, everything gets suspended. And *you’re not gonna follow through*. Don’t even start.

P “on the spot” Anxious about it being there.

P Agenda, figure it out. How will I know?

P Frustrated about “don’t even start”

P “I have to be good at this” protecting:

E voiceless, powerless.

P “Adult self”, invalidating, shutting down other parts.
2️⃣
P The mask. Having to get it right. Thinks im 7 (maybe). Needs me to get more sleep.

E humiliation

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2 hr 32 min