🔸 “There’s something coming”. Meandering, parts meet Self.

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

I was kinda lost, drifting, through a lot of this convo. My questions weren’t very pointed or clarifying, and it felt like a “first timer” convo. But I assume that's fine, to be expected for the amount of work we've done and time between sessions. This marks the start of us working more regular together. Clare has the paradigm now, I think we'll be able to hit the gas, and I’ll feel more confident being more direct. Before playing the game sometimes you gotta dump out all the pieces (and maybe glance at the rules).

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🔸 How am I supposed to act in this situation?*

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

*I realize I'm talking about myself/projecting throughout this convo. We're both trying to answer the question.

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🔸 The shit kicker and- Oh, a baby on my knee!

*Part shares a song: https://youtu.be/SI8RmHw1QpY

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

I warned Theresa before call that I was on 3.5 hrs sleep.

I take full responsibility for derailing us with unclear questions about the non-believer. I was relieved when she said "just need to be quiet"; that’s what I planned to suggest when I said “I could list some options…”

I would have cautioned against meeting protector and baby at once like that if I didn’t know/trust her work and system to the degree that I do. I trust we can navigate whatever comes up. I was crying more than usual at the realness of this baby, could you tell?

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🔸 “Acceptance is a cope, not a strategy”. An airtight gang of 3 (or more) fights to keep the love out. Love finds a way.

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Feeling sick today, so I had concerns going into this call that I wouldn't be able to help much. I have an agenda part too that wants to get to the "deeper" work. But zooming out, I see it happening. The energy, tension in the air may feel similar to previous calls, but I think both Olivia and I are gaining clarity and some other C's as we continue. If all we did was establish that these protectors deserve to be known by Self, that's a win. And I think we did considerably more than that.

I could have done a lot differently, but she says it's helpful, and wants to continue. Maybe we're doing it just right.

📍 Olivia Followed up: things went especially well (in that sessison) ... yeah it’s been easier to access a bit more self lately
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🔸 Judgement around appearance/weight. Legacy and cultural burdens.

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🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
I've been studying too much lately, trying to change too many things at once. Non-gendered a gendered part.
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🔸 "Prove it!" & "This is yours" The keeper of keys, an ally.

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Was the spaceyness a part? I think not. But it can feel similar to its opposite: muddled confusion. Fully lost and fully present, both directionless.

Justine's use of "self-like" maybe opposite mine. Rather than "a part which acts like self", I think she’s referring to her experience (from Self) being dominated by parts.

Had a bit of a revelation this morning, realising he has a similar situation to The Wizard of Oz. Appearing almighty and powerful, but actually behind the curtain, it’s all smoke and mirrors. And he’s exhausted. Weary from the work. Ready to welcome assistance and support

Makes sense to me!

... I have showed up every morning as promised. And tho it still feels hard and a bit clunky to access Self solo, I recognise that if I keep practicing it will get easier, more familiar

And he has appreciated the attention and presence

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🔸 Fear of grief. "...there's a hole in my chest and people can see inside of it"

📍Scott followed up:

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
I was a bit pushy, but overall feel good about this call. I sensed the "feeling lost", the Self not-so-present, and given the context of our prior calls, I wanted us to explore what a more directed path would look like.

Even if/when Scott is lost, I continue to be impressed by his clarity/ability to see, detect, report. If he was lost *and* blinded, I wouldn't feel as safe leading in this way, would have tried something else.

Do differently: should have ended with more of a debrief.
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🔸 Background rage toward injustice is causing problems.

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Goodbyes are tricky indeed. I was laughing to myself when she mentioned "like arranging a second date" (with part) because that's how I think about callers! This is when I envy the pros: "Your insurance covers X sessions, talk to secretary about dates, goodbye!"

Asking "Is there sadness?", was a bit of a gamble. I didn't have to go there, but I wanted this part to see that Genie and I could do more than just pull the rug out from under it, confuse it. Still, I could have let that arrive in its own time.

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🔸 Pushing to claim my space keeps me up at night…

Romance, boundaries, and a surprise visit from The Tranquilizer (dissociation)

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Battling the clock again. I could be more insistent with the story teller, of course. I did moreso towards the end.
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🔸 Close the book, just move on, have fun! But something is holding back...

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Clare and I have only had 2 other IFS calls in as many years, so I'm approaching this one as if she were a first-timer. I'm doing more talking/teaching, less inquiring about the exile, and making more assumptions about the nature of the parts we're meeting. There are much more skillful ways to do that. I didn't know if it would be another year before we talk again, so I wanted to highlight the map more than anything.

I could've guided better through unblending in the beginning, she’s answering from part.

Didn't get to do my usual prep today, a handyman just left my house 5 mins before the call.

📌 Clare followed up: That was really cool… ! The parts were much more defined this time …and the one that was with me most of the time seemed to be multi faceted because he sort of shape shifted… if that’s possible
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