🔸 Acquiescing, Going along with unwanted touch. And James gets feedback.

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
I felt particularly unhelpful in this conversations. + Points for being honest about it and not spinning out, and for choosing to keep most of my theories/conjectures to myself and sticking to the script (because I didn't have any better ideas).

I'll revisit this one more, but my first thought is that both Theresa and I like talking about the process. Very valuable In the big picture, but can also interfere with the direct communication with parts. The ""keep quiet"" protector that we targeted felt only half-present in the conversation. And there were several paths/points I wanted to explore but decided against.

Maybe "do differently" is: be more binary, like if we're talking to a part, then let's just talk to a part. I could have stayed with "ask the part", instead of hedging there. A "save questions for the end" mindset. Now, how to convince two ADHD brains to do that...?

But we're not merely distracted; we're both super keen on IFS! So I think we can't lose.

We've come to this exile-less place a few times, but I keep hearing a theme: "worried about hurting other people". I'm having trouble seeing that from an exile's point of view, just need to keep asking parts.
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🔸 "...to self-discover without shame". Meeting an exile & more very welcome questions about the process.

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
I could have done more (any?) checking-in emotionally in the beginning, but being only our second call, I don't know what baseline is, so I decided to stick with "when in doubt, follow the protocol".

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🔸 "No longer defending myself from 'bad' thoughts", ruminating. Appreciating the beauty of protectors.

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
I told Scott I had to keep it under an hour, thats why I'm pulling back in second half of call.

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🔸 Existential, Fear of death. Building on her connection with task manager, Olivia is ready to meet those exiles! Protectors, on the other hand...

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
I think my targeting is improving. When we're hearing from the fear of the fear of the fear, etc. I think "time for direct access" but it's not by-the-book "explicit" nor "implicit". Having more of an intuition about what questions assess Self energy, and just more comfortable, giving myself permission to freestyle.

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🔸 "The one part that doesn't belong": a part resembling dad, enraged by children not listening or fighting.

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
A lot on my mind about this one. I was extra slow in the beginning, just was trying to open up to new possibilities.

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🔸 Is this IFS? "Everybody else is good..." The gap between listening (to an exile) and offering something helpful.

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
I feel like I'm only one-foot-in IFS here. I passed on several opportunities to follow the script, considering how much work Rosie has already hone here, and our history in which those methods haven't always landed as intended.

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🔸 James talks with the part that doesn't.

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
At times I felt I was being too pushy or confrontational, but my logical parts like being met in the logical realm, so I wanted this part to know I'm happy to do that, that I didn't need to rely on any voodoo to communicate with it.

I didn't have an exit plan, though. Fortunately Justine's Self showed to do what it does best: mediate, connect, accept.

* Direct access (for anyone searching it). Maybe I should start using a tagging system...
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🔸 "A nice boy"

📍At around 14m I resolve the awkward 3rd (4th?) person pronoun stuff. And sorry about the background noise, I was playing with the mic. Trying new things!

🔹 Parts:

🔸 Be competent or feel worthless.

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
In the past I've gotten lost, carried away in our convos. Today I identified the repeated blendedness, and was able to see many fewer parts.

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🔸 Co-parts-working for ADHD.

🔹 Parts:

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Must.. resists.. adhd.. coaching! Maybe I should make a separate podcast. : p

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