Live IFS

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Live IFS episodes

August 02, 2022 73: Parker A. revisits
🔸 Topic: Sex. Language: NSFW. We meet at least 5 parts in this call. Robert is big into IFS. We have a chatty “about IFS “ rapport , not as structured as most sessions

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):
- The 16 yo. Angry, out for vengeance. Here to fuck & fight. How does he relate to the 13, 7, 18 year old parts?

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

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1 hr 21 min
July 31, 2022 98: Sam A. - first call
🔸 This part is pissed. And so many show up. Sam is big into IFS and meditation, he and I have done some work before, so I step back, while he leads us to an exile.

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):
- Mad part, big as the earth - afraid it will die - Rather to help all, warrior energy - weak wounded exile in arms. An old lady or a 3 year old?

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

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1 hr 3 min
July 29, 2022 97: Brandon A. revisits
🔸 “I thought it was just a black hole”. Fears of being misunderstood, inadequate. The explainer part allows us to meet a new exile.

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):
- explainer - legs - afeaid of being misunderstood - leads us to exile, the black shell. Not coming out, yet. - age 11

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Before the call Brandon says his therapist and he get to exiles quickly. I wanted to let that inform my practice, not derail it. So when the time seemed right I just asked. This is our second time speaking.
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46 min
July 28, 2022 Test
Test
44 min
July 27, 2022 96: Jo A. revisits
🔸 A suicidal part puts Jo in the psych ward. We go meet exiles again.

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):
- Suicidal - in chest very tight, like an abused dog, lashing out - the protector says stop being a baby

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

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54 min
July 25, 2022 95: Carmen A. - first call
🔸 The unblending doesn't happen. Too much of a language barrier? I won't call it a failure - later she says she’s never gone this deep before!

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):
- Part wants valueless part to go away - thinks she’s 13 - rather be doing the opposite

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
I think my #1 area to improve remains when first time callers show up with exiles in this way. Send advice if you got it!

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39 min
July 23, 202294: Ian A. - first call
🔸 "You aren’t perfect so why try?" Ian isn’t entirely new to IFS, has done a few IFS-ish sessions with a therapist. Today we meet the part hitting him w a golf club, among others.

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):
responsible, almost mute

age 25

Afraid of shame, exile.

second part is critical:

you aren’t perfect so why try

Same age

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
We chatted a few days prior so I skipped the chit chat, which may explain some of the tension. I was trying something somewhat new. More fishing for protectors rather than going with the first who showed up. How do you end a convo when someone is in a trance? I need a smoke bomb
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1 hr 15 min
July 21, 202293: Linda A. revisits
🔸 The time keeper is blended. Linda leads the way, discovering a new part, its relation to her father, to disappointment and shame.

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):
Time Keeper -

general tension -

fear of disappointment -

rather be getting her stuff done (not other peoples) -

needs the time to be kept. needs self leadership, for linda to heal the disappointment.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
So many trailheads I thought of pointing out, but I trust Linda to go where she needs to go. I wish we had done more unblending early on, I suspected the blendedness when she said how much she appreciated this part, which is always tricky. Is that a deep, Self-like appreciation? Or a part-like siding-with?

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56 min
July 19, 202292: Brandon A. - first call
🔸 The procrastinator and the judge. Brandon has done this before, with an IFS therapist and a lot of his own study. I think we have a lot in common, but try not to let that steer the session.

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):
Procrastination and judgement

In the heels and feet flexing

We learned some of what it was afraid of. Overachieving. and being like his dad.

Thinks hes in his teens

Needs him to deal with the judgemental part, the arch nemesis of the procrastinaor part
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
First calls always feel more challenging, but I got to know some of his background with IFS and could see he was able to go his own way. If you're hearing tension in my voice, it's that deciding how much to lead.

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35 min
July 17, 2022 91: Molly A. revisits
🔸 A new part! I suspect I'm talking to a part, that this isn't Self battling the rigid “don’t go” part. We bring it out. She's eager to go listen to these parts and examine that list with the rule making part.

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Am I talking too much? Leading the witness too much? I have these parts too, Molly, so I’m tempted to compare notes, share the answers from my homework.
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38 min