Hey everyone! It's Sharla Snow here, and welcome back to another episode of "Master Your Marriage." Today, we're diving into an important topic with our special guest, Dr. Jenn Simmons. Dr. Jenn is an integrative oncologist, author, and the founder of Real Health MD. She's here to talk about perimenopause, hormone replacement therapy (HRT), and the truth about their connection to breast cancer. Trust me, you don't want to miss this one!

Dr. Jenn shares her journey from being a top breast cancer surgeon to starting Real Health MD. We discuss the often-overlooked symptoms of perimenopause and the impact of hormone deficiencies on our health. I also share my personal experience with these symptoms and how HRT transformed my life. Dr. Jenn debunks the myths around HRT and breast cancer and explains how to find a hormone-literate physician.

This episode is packed with valuable insights and practical advice for anyone dealing with hormonal changes. Dr. Jenn explains the benefits of HRT and the importance of addressing hormone deficiencies early. Don't miss out on this empowering conversation!

Chapters:

00:00 - Introduction

00:20 - Meet Dr. Jenn Simmons

01:00 - Dr. Jenn’s Journey

03:00 - Perimenopause Symptoms

06:20 - Estrogen and HRT

10:00 - Sharla’s Personal Experience

13:40 - Debunking HRT Myths

16:00 - Finding a Hormone-Literate Doctor

18:20 - Safe Practices for HRT

21:00 - Long-Term Health Impact

25:00 - Closing and How to Connect

Links Mentioned:

Real Health MD (https://www.realhealthmd.com/)

Keeping Abreast with Dr. Jenn Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/keeping-abreast-with-dr-jenn/id1697193398)

Dr. Jenn Simmons on LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennifer-simmons-md-16198389/)

The Smart Woman's Guide to Breast Cancer - Book (https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Womans-Guide-Breast-Cancer/dp/B0D38MNWBK)

#marriage #menopause #hormonehealth #breastcancer #womenshealth #holistichealth

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In this conversation, I explore the impacts of hormones on sexuality, focusing on the changes that occur in women's bodies during perimenopause and menopause. We delve into the physical and mental health challenges, as well as the implications for sexual function. Be ready to receive insights and strategies for maintaining sexual health and desire as women age, emphasizing the importance of open communication and empowerment through knowledge.

Takeaways

Hormonal changes during perimenopause and menopause can have significant impacts on a woman's physical and mental health, as well as her sexual function.

Open communication about sexual needs and changes in the body is crucial for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling sex life as women age.

Empowerment through knowledge and access to resources, such as hormone therapy and sexual wellness products, can support women in maintaining sexual health and desire as they age.

#sexualempowerment #healthyaging #menopause #hormonehealth #empowerment #ageless #menopausesymptoms

In this episode of "Master Your Marriage," Robert and I dive into how our feelings in relationships evolve over time and how to keep that spark alive. You know, those butterflies and the exhilarating rush of falling in love might not last forever, but that doesn't mean passion has to disappear. Instead, it can grow into a more mature love. We believe it’s absolutely possible to maintain and deepen our passion and intimacy for decades, and today we’re going to share how we can make that happen.

We talked about how sexual desire can change, especially for women in long-term relationships. Research shows that women’s desire often decreases more rapidly after marriage, which was surprising to us at first. But it's not that women care less about sex; it’s that we want sex that's worth having—full of romance, seduction, and connection. Robert and I discussed how important it is to take responsibility for our own desires. We shared tips like engaging in activities that make us feel alive and confident, because when we feel our best, it positively impacts our relationship.

To wrap things up, we gave you an exercise to help you understand your own turn-ons and turn-offs. We can’t always rely on our partners to fulfill every need; it’s up to us to take charge of our desires. By creating intentional rituals of connection and self-care, we can keep the passion burning. We’d love to hear your thoughts on this, so come join the conversation on social media. And if you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review and share it with someone who might benefit from it. Remember, it’s the small things done often that make the biggest impact. Until next time, take care and be kind to each other.

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"Power struggles in relationships usually result in either a breaking point or a turning point for growth."

In this episode of Master Your Marriage, we discuss the importance of accepting influence in a relationship and how it can lead to a happier and healthier partnership. We explain that accepting influence means taking your partner's opinion into account and being open to using their input to make decisions as a couple. We also address the challenges of accepting influence, such as cultural conditioning and the fear of losing power. We share some tips on how to mentally prepare for disagreements, including seeing the other person's perspective, assuming good intent, and focusing on the underlying values behind the disagreement. We emphasize the importance of finding win-win solutions and incorporating both partners' needs in the decision-making process.

Takeaways

Accepting influence is crucial for a healthy and happy relationship.

Power struggles in relationships can lead to deterioration or growth.

Accepting influence does not mean giving away power, but rather finding a balance.

Mentally preparing for disagreements can help improve communication and find win-win solutions.

Disagreements often stem from differences in values, and understanding each other's perspectives is key to resolving conflicts.

Chapters

00:00 Intro

04:17 Finding a Balance

08:06 Amygdala Hijack: The Fight, Flight, or Freeze Response

15:35 Acquiring Respect, Power, and Influence through Accepting Influence

24:18 Understanding Values

27:35 Small Acts of Kindness

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"Physical touch is a language of its own."

Physical touch is a vital language of connection in relationships. It fosters trust, teamwork, and overall well-being. Touch is a powerful way to communicate emotions and messages without words. Research shows that touch improves performance and cooperation in teams, including NBA players. Touch starvation, or the lack of physical affection, can lead to loneliness, depression, and health issues. To prioritize physical affection in long-term relationships, create daily rituals of touch, such as a six-second kiss, a 20-second hug, holding hands, giving back rubs, and creating a bedtime ritual that includes touch. It's important to respond to your partner's touch bids and avoid making touch conditional on sex. If touch has not felt safe in the past, start slowly and seek healing.

Takeaways

Physical touch is a vital language of connection in relationships.

Creating daily rituals of touch can prioritize physical affection in long-term relationships.

Responding to your partner's touch bids strengthens connection and intimacy.

Avoid making touch conditional on sex and prioritize non-sexual touch.

If touch has not felt safe in the past, start slowly and seek healing.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction

06:11 Improving Performance and Cooperation

15:13 Touch Starvation: The Impact of a Lack of Physical Affection

23:27 Responding to Touch Bids: Strengthening Connection and Intimacy

26:23 Creating a Safe Space: Healing Past Trauma and Building Trust

28:13 Conclusion

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"Learning isn't a straight line. It's really more like a roller coaster with ups and downs."

This episode discusses the four stages of learning and how they apply to relationships. The stages are: unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence, and unconscious competence. The hosts emphasize that learning new skills in relationships can be frustrating and challenging, but it's important to give yourself grace and keep practicing. They also discuss the importance of personalizing the skills and teaching them to others. The episode concludes by reminding listeners that relationships are a lifelong journey of growth and that it's important to have love and compassion for oneself and one's partner.

Takeaways:

Learning new skills in relationships can be frustrating and challenging, but it's important to give yourself grace and keep practicing.

The four stages of learning are: unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence, and unconscious competence.

Personalizing the skills and teaching them to others can help solidify your understanding and mastery of the skills.

Relationships are a lifelong journey of growth, and it's important to have love and compassion for oneself and one's partner.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Connection with Listeners

06:35 The Four Stages of Learning

15:01 Conscious Competence and Effortless Mastery

23:38 Emotional Struggles and Grace in Learning

25:29 Relationships as a Journey of Growth

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Is porn good for marriage?

In this conversation, Robert and Sharla Snow discuss the topic of pornography and its impact on relationships. They highlight three main reasons why they decided to address this topic: the correlation between pornography use and decreased sex life satisfaction, the potential for increased desire for rough or violent sexual intimacy, and the increased chance of divorce. They share staggering statistics about pornography consumption and its prevalence on the internet.

The conversation then shifts to the personal experiences of Emmanuel Guarino and his wife Becca, who share their journey of dealing with porn addiction in their marriage. They discuss the negative effects of pornography on their relationship, including porn-induced erectile dysfunction and the loss of intimacy.

They also talk about the lack of resources and support available for couples dealing with this issue. The turning point in their journey came when Emmanuel reached a breaking point and asked for help, leading them to start a mission of helping other couples overcome porn addiction. They emphasize the importance of addressing the underlying pain and trauma that often drives porn addiction and the need for open and vulnerable communication in relationships.

Takeaways

• Using pornography has been correlated to decreased sex life satisfaction and can impact relationships.
• There is a statistically increased chance of divorce associated with pornography use.
• Open and vulnerable communication is crucial in addressing and overcoming porn addiction in relationships. Removing shame and stigma surrounding pornography addiction is important for healing.
• Building a supportive team and changing the environment can aid in overcoming addiction.
• Understanding the dark side of the porn industry can help in breaking free from its influence.
• Vulnerability, honesty, and teamwork are key to building strong and intimate relationships.

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"Empathy can heal, deescalate conflict, and prevent resentments."

In this episode, Robert and Sharla Snow discuss the importance of empathy in difficult situations within a marriage. They explore three challenging situations: dealing with harsh words, when a spouse isn't open and vulnerable, and hearing the word 'no'. They emphasize the need to practice empathy, even when it's difficult, and provide strategies for understanding and connecting with the feelings and needs of your partner. The episode highlights the detrimental effects of harsh startups and the importance of repair attempts. Overall, the Snows stress the significance of empathy in maintaining a healthy and flourishing relationship.

Takeaways

• Empathy is crucial in difficult situations within a marriage.
• Harsh startups can escalate conflicts and lead to negativity and divorce.
• Repair attempts and a 5:1 positivity-to-negativity ratio are essential for maintaining a healthy relationship.
• When a spouse isn't open and vulnerable, inferential listening and confirming assumptions can help understand their feelings and needs.
• Hearing 'no' compassionately involves recognizing the feelings and needs behind the response and finding solutions that honor both partners' needs.

Chapters

00:00 The Power of Empathy in Difficult Situations

08:00 Repair Attempts and the 5:1 Positivity Ratio

21:49 Compassionate Responses to Hearing 'No'

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"Empathy creates more intimacy, and that's what everyone wants."

Empathy is a powerful tool that can improve intimacy and connection in relationships. It involves being fully present and seeking to understand the feelings and needs of others. Empathy is not sympathy, giving advice, or trying to fix things. It requires being present, focusing on the present moment, and understanding the feelings and needs of the other person. Non-verbal communication, such as body language, is often more important than words in conveying empathy. Achieving empathy can lead to a sense of peace and connection.

Takeaways:

Empathy is a powerful tool for improving intimacy and connection in relationships.

Being fully present and seeking to understand the feelings and needs of others is key to practicing empathy.

Empathy is not sympathy, giving advice, or trying to fix things.

Non-verbal communication, such as body language, is often more important than words in conveying empathy.

Achieving empathy can lead to a sense of peace and connection.

#empathy #intimacy #connection

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"Are we even speaking the same language?"

In this episode, Robert and Sharla Snow discuss the miscommunications that can occur in relationships and how different speaking and listening styles contribute to these misunderstandings. They explain the differences between inferential and literal listeners and speakers, and the challenges that can arise when these styles clash. The hosts emphasize the importance of clear communication and making explicit requests to avoid misinterpretations. They also encourage couples to eliminate the expectation that their partner should just know their needs and instead appreciate when their requests are met. Overall, the episode provides practical tips for improving communication and preventing miscommunications in relationships.

Takeaways

Different speaking and listening styles can lead to miscommunications in relationships.

Inferential listeners infer meaning from what is said, while literal listeners take words at face value.

Inferential speakers imply or hint at their needs, while literal speakers are direct.

It is important to recognize and understand your own speaking and listening style, as well as your partner's.

Clear communication and explicit requests can help prevent misinterpretations.

Eliminate the expectation that your partner should just know your needs and instead appreciate when they respond to your requests.

Be grateful for your partner's efforts to connect and meet your needs, even if you have to ask for it.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Overview

06:12 Understanding Listening Styles

12:41 Different Speaking Styles

23:26 The Importance of Clear Communication

27:30 Eliminating the Expectation of Mind Reading

31:11 Conclusion and Call to Action

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