What really happens inside a narcissist's mind the moment they explode in rage?

Dr. Anthony Mazzella, Ph.D., is a New York City-based psychotherapist and psychoanalyst with nearly two decades of expertise helping individuals navigate complex emotional landscapes. He runs a private practice on Manhattan's Upper East Side, working with clients across the United States on personality disorders, depression, and social anxiety, while also training professionals and lecturing nationally. His podcast, 

The Narcissism Decoder, explores the many facets of narcissism through a psychoanalytic lens — from its origins to its everyday manifestations — equipping listeners with tools to recognize, understand, and effectively engage with narcissistic individuals. 

In this fascinating conversation with the host of the Narcissist Decoder podcast, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed.,  — author of The Human Magnet Syndrome and founder of the Self-Love Recovery Institute — breaks down the psychology of narcissistic injury and narcissistic rage from the inside out.

Ross explains how childhood attachment trauma creates a deep well of core shame that gets locked away in the limbic system — and how the slightest perceived slight can trigger a rage response that isn't really about the present moment at all. You'll learn why what looks like rage is actually a defense mechanism, how projection keeps the narcissist from confronting their own shame, and how grandiosity functions as a psychological survival strategy.

The conversation also explores the Human Magnet Syndrome — why narcissists and codependents (Self-Love Deficients/SLD's) are magnetically drawn to each other — and what keeps both partners locked in a trauma bond even when the relationship is deeply painful.

Topics covered:
- What narcissistic injury actually is (and why you only see the rage, not the wound)
- The role of core shame, projection, and grandiosity
- Why narcissists can't tolerate perceived criticism or disappointment
- The trauma bond between narcissists and codependents
- Why pathological loneliness keeps both partners stuck
- Treatment considerations for codependency and Self-Love Deficit Disorder

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG 
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. 

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com. 

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