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Nervous System Regulation After Betrayal: Somatic Tools to Calm Panic, Stop Shutdown, and Reclaim Your Power
“Sensations are the language of the nervous system. When you notice—and stay with—the feeling, the cycle completes and your system comes back to safety.” -- Laurie James
When betrayal scrambles your nervous system, healing isn’t just “mindset”—it’s body-based. In this episode, we unpack somatic, practical ways to calm panic, prevent shutdown, and rebuild your capacity so you can make clear decisions and feel safe again.
Betrayal shocks the body as much as the mind. Lora talks with somatic practitioner and coach Laurie James about nervous system regulation after infidelity—what “somatic” really means, how polyvagal states show up (ventral vagal, sympathetic, dorsal), and simple practices that help you come out of anxiety, numbness, or overwhelm. You’ll learn how to complete the stress cycle, set body boundaries, and create five-minute rituals that expand your capacity without adding more to your plate. Whether you’re staying, leaving, or still deciding, these tools help you feel safer now—so you can choose your next step from clarity, not crisis.
Top 3 Takeaways
Learn the cues of ventral (present/connected), sympathetic (fight/flight), and dorsal (shutdown). Naming your state reduces shame and gives you a map back to safety.
Micro-practices (5 minutes to ground, orient, breathe, feel sensations) complete the stress cycle and build capacity—so you can handle life with more ease and fewer blowups.
80% of information travels from body to brain; regulation starts in the body. Gentle, titrated work prevents re-traumatization and supports wiser decisions during hard conversations, mediation, or reconciliation.
About Laurie James — Somatic Practitioner & Life Coach
Laurie James is a mother, divorcée, recovering caregiver turned author, somatic relationship coach, and podcaster. Laurie’s podcast, Confessions of a Freebird, was inspired by her youngest of four children leaving the nest and is the sequel to her book, Sandwiched: A Memoir of Holding On and Letting Go.
Laurie’s book is about her journey from loneliness to finding belonging during a time when she was raising four teenage daughters, her mother had a heart attack and needed care, all while her marriage began to crumble.
Now Laurie helps women divorce, heal, and date differently in midlife. She blends her coaching and somatic training to help her clients develop a better relationship with their bodies and nervous system. Doing so allows them to find the inner freedom to experience more happiness, joy and create the life they desire.
When she is not coaching clients or podcasting, she can be found nurturing her free spirit by walking her dog, skiing, sailing, hiking, spending time with close friends or planning her next adventure.
Website: https://www.laurieejames.com/
Podcast (site page): https://www.laurieejames.com/podcast2
Podcast (Apple): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/confessions-of-a-freebird-midlife-divorce-heal/id1694026063
Free download – Beginner’s Guide to Somatic Healing: https://notable-apricot-657.myflodesk.com
About Lora
Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt, helps high-achieving women turn betrayal into embodied wisdom using her clinically-backed FLAUNT!® Framework—addressing legal clarity, emotional and somatic release, spiritual/ancestral healing, and identity reclamation.
Website: www.loracheadle.com
Work with Lora: www.affairrecoveryforwomen.com
Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Guide: www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com
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🎧 Subscribe, rate, and review FLAUNT! to help others uncover the power of radical self-worth and post-betrayal joy.
🌟 Join Sanctuary of the Soul — Just $47/month
Your safe haven for healing after betrayal. Each month, you’ll receive:
· 2-hour live group coaching call on the 13th
· Channeled message from The Librarians
· Somatic processing and spiritual rituals
· Legal insight to protect your peace
· Sisterhood support from women who truly get it
You don’t have to walk this road alone. Step into a community that integrates mind, body, spirit, and safety — so you rise whole, sovereign, and free.
Join now » www.SparkleAllSeason.com
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“Sensations are the language of the nervous system. When you notice—and stay with—the feeling, the cycle completes and your system comes back to safety.” -- Laurie James
When betrayal scrambles your nervous system, healing isn’t just “mindset”—it’s body-based. In this episode, we unpack somatic, practical ways to calm panic, prevent shutdown, and rebuild your capacity so you can make clear decisions and feel safe again.
Betrayal shocks the body as much as the mind. Lora talks with somatic practitioner and coach Laurie James about nervous system regulation after infidelity—what “somatic” really means, how polyvagal states show up (ventral vagal, sympathetic, dorsal), and simple practices that help you come out of anxiety, numbness, or overwhelm. You’ll learn how to complete the stress cycle, set body boundaries, and create five-minute rituals that expand your capacity without adding more to your plate. Whether you’re staying, leaving, or still deciding, these tools help you feel safer now—so you can choose your next step from clarity, not crisis.
Top 3 Takeaways
Learn the cues of ventral (present/connected), sympathetic (fight/flight), and dorsal (shutdown). Naming your state reduces shame and gives you a map back to safety.
Micro-practices (5 minutes to ground, orient, breathe, feel sensations) complete the stress cycle and build capacity—so you can handle life with more ease and fewer blowups.
80% of information travels from body to brain; regulation starts in the body. Gentle, titrated work prevents re-traumatization and supports wiser decisions during hard conversations, mediation, or reconciliation.
About Laurie James — Somatic Practitioner & Life Coach
Laurie James is a mother, divorcée, recovering caregiver turned author, somatic relationship coach, and podcaster. Laurie’s podcast, Confessions of a Freebird, was inspired by her youngest of four children leaving the nest and is the sequel to her book, Sandwiched: A Memoir of Holding On and Letting Go.
Laurie’s book is about her journey from loneliness to finding belonging during a time when she was raising four teenage daughters, her mother had a heart attack and needed care, all while her marriage began to crumble.
Now Laurie helps women divorce, heal, and date differently in midlife. She blends her coaching and somatic training to help her clients develop a better relationship with their bodies and nervous system. Doing so allows them to find the inner freedom to experience more happiness, joy and create the life they desire.
When she is not coaching clients or podcasting, she can be found nurturing her free spirit by walking her dog, skiing, sailing, hiking, spending time with close friends or planning her next adventure.
Website: https://www.laurieejames.com/
Podcast (site page): https://www.laurieejames.com/podcast2
Podcast (Apple): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/confessions-of-a-freebird-midlife-divorce-heal/id1694026063
Free download – Beginner’s Guide to Somatic Healing: https://notable-apricot-657.myflodesk.com
About Lora
Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt, helps high-achieving women turn betrayal into embodied wisdom using her clinically-backed FLAUNT!® Framework—addressing legal clarity, emotional and somatic release, spiritual/ancestral healing, and identity reclamation.
Website: www.loracheadle.com
Work with Lora: www.affairrecoveryforwomen.com
Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Guide: www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com
Hashtags
#BetrayalRecovery #InfidelityHealing #SomaticHealing #NervousSystemRegulation #PolyvagalTheory #TraumaRecovery #VentralVagal #DorsalShutdown #SomaticExperiencing #WomenHealing
🎧 Subscribe, rate, and review FLAUNT! to help others uncover the power of radical self-worth and post-betrayal joy.
🌟 Join Sanctuary of the Soul — Just $47/month
Your safe haven for healing after betrayal. Each month, you’ll receive:
· 2-hour live group coaching call on the 13th
· Channeled message from The Librarians
· Somatic processing and spiritual rituals
· Legal insight to protect your peace
· Sisterhood support from women who truly get it
You don’t have to walk this road alone. Step into a community that integrates mind, body, spirit, and safety — so you rise whole, sovereign, and free.
Join now » www.SparkleAllSeason.com
LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP
Don’t just listen—start healing.
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