In this episode of Proud Mama, we’re diving into the emotional rollercoaster of tying our self-worth to our kids’ successes and struggles. Why do we feel pride when they excel and shame when they stumble? And how can we untangle these feelings to foster healthier, more authentic relationships? Join us as we explore the psychology behind parental pride and shame, how to shift from performance-driven parenting to connection-driven parenting, and practical tools to help both you and your child thrive emotionally.

In this episode we discuss:
* Why parents often see their children as extensions of themselves and how this fuels feelings of pride and shame.
* The difference between healthy pride and unhealthy pride—and why it matters.
* How shame shows up in parenting, including common thought patterns like self-blame and fear of judgment.
* The impact of parental emotions on kids and how to break free from perfectionist parenting.
* Practical tools to cultivate self-compassion, reframe negative thoughts, and focus on connection over outcomes.
* Playing word salad with the way you say things but still feeling them
* Pride as a natural response as part of parenting
* How we personally relate to our kids’ experience of success and failure
* Our desire to amplify and celebrate our child’s success
* How we personally experience pride and shame with our kids
* Self-policing and external policing of other mothers
* Parenting to get an outcome
* Your kids have an innate expression beyond your parenting
* Using your kids as a yardstick for ‘I’ve got my shit sorted’
* Pride and shame are entangled
* External performance and pride and their relationship to burnout


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