Nuance Needed

So many people say you need to process your emotions. But WTF does this mean and how do you actually do it? In this solo episode, Amanda dives deep and explains her 6 step method that walks you through exactly how to process your emotion. She also shares the science and practice of emotional processing. Amanda breaks down groundbreaking research from Lisa Feldman Barrett on how emotions are actually constructed experiences rather than fixed internal states, explaining the four fundamental dimensions of emotion (energy and pleasantness levels) that form the foundation of all emotional experiences.

Resources mentioned: Amanda’s book, Not Drinking Tonight & Workbook. “How Emotions are Made” by Lisa Helmand Barrett.

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Today we are tackling two listeners questions about sex!

Questions we answer:

* "I'm 28 and I've never had sex - the shame is paralyzing me and I feel like I've missed the window. How do I get past this when everything in our culture says I'm weird?"

* "My husband and I fight about sex constantly. The more he pushes, the less I want it, but when I just do it to avoid the fight, I feel gross after. What should I do?"

Resources mentioned: Emily Nagoski’s book “Come as You Are” also Amanda’s book Not Drinking Tonight (if you want more info about sexual shame and how it shows up with our drinking behavior)

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When did masturbation become an "addiction" that requires recovery? Licensed therapists Amanda White and Sam Dalton tackle the viral story of former Bachelor contestant Maddie Prewett's claims about overcoming her "sexual sin addiction" to masturbation and porn. In deeply personal conversations, they share their own experiences with sexual shame and explore how shame-based messaging around sexuality creates the very problems it claims to solve, why comprehensive sex education matters, and how purity culture's effects extend far beyond religious communities. This episode offers a nuanced look at sexual shame, religious trauma, and the journey toward healthy sexuality without judgment. CW- Talk of sexual assault

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In this episode, Sam realizes she might have had OCD as a teenager - an unedited, real-time processing session. For a year as a teenager, Sam was secretly convinced she was hitting people with her car. She'd loop back to check for bodies, research vehicular manslaughter, and visualize police at her house waiting to arrest her. Amanda shares her own parallel experiences with health anxiety and magical thinking, and together we explore how even therapists can miss their own mental health patterns until years later.

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Licensed therapist and OCD expert Kimberly Quinlan joins us for a raw, honest conversation about what OCD really is. In a vulnerable discussion, both Kimberly and Amanda share their personal experiences with OCD and intrusive thoughts, breaking down the walls between expert and experiencer. We dive deep into the difference between the intrusive thoughts we all have and clinical OCD, explore lesser-known subtypes, and discuss why recovery isn't about eliminating thoughts—it's about changing your relationship with them. This episode offers both hope and practical strategies for anyone struggling with intrusive thoughts, anxiety, or OCD.

About Kimberly: Kimberly Quinlan, LMFT, is a psychotherapist specializing in OCD and anxiety disorders. She hosts the Your Anxiety Toolkit podcast and is the founder of CBT School, which provides accessible treatment resources for those who cannot access specialized care. Her approach combines evidence-based practices with mindfulness and self-compassion.

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Your questions about suicide answered with honesty and nuance. In this follow-up episode, we're tackling the questions you were brave enough to ask - from living with chronic suicidal thoughts to the impossible task of explaining suicide to children. CW- This episode discusses suicide, and suicidal thoughts.

Questions we answer:

* "I've had chronic suicidal thoughts for years - how do I build a life worth living when these thoughts are always there?"

* "My mom died by suicide and our family never talked about it. How do I tell my kids about their grandmother?"

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In this deeply personal episode, we're getting real about the topic nobody wants to discuss - suicide and suicidality. Drawing from both our professional training and Amanda's raw personal experiences, we're breaking down what it actually feels like, why it happens, and what truly helps (spoiler: it's not telling someone how selfish they are). CW- This episode discusses suicide, suicidal thoughts, and self-harm in detail. Please prioritize your wellbeing and skip if needed.

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From "feminine energy" dating tips to refusing to tie your own shoes - we're unpacking how Princess Treatment content is actually political messaging in a pretty package.

In conversation, we tackle:

* The TikTok video that sent us over the edge: a woman who won't speak to waitstaff or check in for reservations

* How "feminine energy" morphed from dating advice into political messaging

* Why Princess Treatment might actually be a suppressed kink masquerading as lifestyle content

* The pipeline from "light a candle and relax" to "I don't tie my own shoes"

* How this content strategically targets single women and makes them feel "not woman enough"

* The real cost of romanticizing a time when women couldn't have credit cards

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When did "no is a complete sentence" become the ultimate boundary flex? In this episode, we're unpacking why this oversimplified advice might actually be hurting your relationships.

In conversation, we tackle:

* Why "no is a complete sentence" works for sexual boundaries but not for declining dinner plans

* The uncomfortable truth that closer relationships require more explanation (and that's actually healthy)

* How rigid boundaries are creating lonelier people who wonder why they feel disconnected

* Why flexibility in boundaries is a strength, not a betrayal of yourself

* How to tell when someone deserves an explanation vs. when they've lost that privilege

* What to do when family members bulldoze your boundaries (spoiler: it's not just saying "no" harder)

This episode is for anyone who's tried to implement TikTok boundary advice and ended up feeling more isolated than empowered. Because sometimes the most revolutionary act isn't cutting people off—it's learning how to stay connected while still protecting yourself.

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Today we chat with misinformation researcher Matthew Facciani, PhD to explore the psychological factors behind how we process information in our increasingly polarized world. From social media algorithms to the comfort of echo chambers, we dive into why challenging our beliefs feels so threatening and what we can do about it.

In conversation, we discuss—

* The evolution of "misinformation" from a psychology research term to a polarizing concept in today's media landscape

* The concept of "social identity complexity" and why having separate, independent identities makes us more resilient to misinformation

* Signs you might need to fact-check a piece of content

* The "pre-bunking" approach to misinformation resistance and why it works better than debunking

* Why some people are soooo into conspiracy theories

* Practical ways to strengthen your resistance to misinformation while maintaining your core values

Matthew Facciani, Ph.D., is a postdoctoral researcher at the University of Notre Dame. His research focuses on media literacy, misinformation, social networks, political polarization, identities, and artificial intelligence. Order his book— Misguided: Where Misinformation Starts, How It Spreads, and What to Do About It !

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