On Purpose with Jay Shetty

How do your 'icks' affect your dating life?

And what's the ultimate key to better dating?

Today, Jay is sharing the conversation he had with Jared Freid and Jordana Abraham where he was being interviewed in their podcast, U Up?. The U Up? is a definitive modern dating podcast where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in.

Jay talks about a wide array of topics including the challenges of booking guests for new podcasts, the importance of preparing for important interviews, and his  unique approach to every show, offering listeners a diverse and enriching experience with each episode.

The conversation takes on a serious note when Jay talks about his take expressing anger, dealing with insecurities, and navigating the complexities of modern dating. Gain valuable insights into mindfulness practices and learn how to focus on the wins while amplifying the abundance of life.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to deal with insecurities

How to become a better partner

How to change your mindset about dating

Truth be told, dating remains one of the challenging hurdles we go through in life but it is also one of the most rewarding when we find the right person to spend our life with.  

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:43 Calming Positive Influence to Others

03:29 The Competitive Aspect of Drinking Games

05:26 The Difficulty of Booking Guests for New Podcasts

07:05 Preparing for Important Guests

08:54 Every Show Has a Unique Offering

11:27 How Do You Express Anger and Hate?

13:57 Did You Ever Felt Wrongfully Targeted?

16:41 Did You Ever Block Anyone?

19:58 What are the Biggest Mistakes About Dating Today?

25:44 What’s Your Go-To First Date Activity?

27:16 Working in the Same Industry with Your Partner 

28:52 How Practicing Mindfulness Changes Your Mindset

31:07 How Do You Deal with Insecurities?

36:18 Focus on the Wins and Amplify the Abundance of Life

38:26 Two Things I Look Forward To

39:29 What’s Your Travel Pet Peeve?

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What's the top habit for mastering time and energy?

How can we make this habit our own for better time and energy management?

Today, Jay welcomes back his good friend Ed Mylett. Ed is a highly successful entrepreneur who has blended his unique experiences with a diverse set of practical strategies that have made him one of the most sought-after inspirational speakers in the world today. He is a serial entrepreneur who has enjoyed considerable success in part through his unrivaled work ethic and ability to fire up people with his dynamic, high-octane presentations.  Over the years, he has been involved in several tech, real estate, medical, and food ventures, among many others, leading him to be named a Success Magazine SUCCESS 125 most influential leader in 2022.

Have you ever stopped to ponder what lies within the depths of your being? Jay and Ed dive into the depths of self-discovery, from uncovering subconscious anchors to making courageous choices, discover the keys to unlocking your full potential and living a life of purpose. 

The duo explores the power of intention and action in validating your path, and learn how to navigate the challenges of speaking truth with kindness and compassion. Gain insights into overcoming obstacles, embracing change, and cultivating resilience on the path to success, and reflect on the concept of time and its malleability, and discover the rhythms of success that shape our lives. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to maximize your time

How to not get tied to the past

How to speak your truth

How to achieve success

How to change the trajectory of your life

Tune in to this enlightening conversation with Jay and Ed as they share wisdom, inspiration, and practical guidance to help you navigate the journey of self-discovery and personal growth.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:37 What Have You Been Working Inside?

05:56 In Life, We Move Towards What We’re Familiar With

06:58 How Do We Stop Creating Stress and Chaos?

09:12 The Subconscious Anchors That We’re not Using

12:50 Doing the Most Courageous Choices in Life

15:31 You Are Always Making People Feel Something

19:53 What Do You Do with the Weeds in Your Life?

21:07 You Validate Your Intention with Your Action

26:28 How to Speak Truth to People in a Kind Way?

32:54 You Are Born to Do Something Great with Your Life

40:15 Can You Bend and Manipulate Time?

46:11 Why You Aren’t in the Rhythm of Success

51:57 The Things that Got You Where You Are Won’t Get You Where You’re Going

55:34 Your Identity is the Thermostat Setting of Your Life  

01:01:28 The Danger of Tying Your Identity to What You Do

01:04:16 The Three D’s that Will Lead to Burnout 

Episode Resources:

Ed Mylett | Website

Ed Mylett | Instagram

Ed Mylett | Twitter

Ed Mylett | YouTube

Ed Mylett | Facebook

Ed Mylett | TikTok

Ed Mylett | Books

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How do we build our inner confidence?

And how can we stop pretending that we’re okay even if we aren’t?

In a world where we're constantly comparing ourselves to others, Jay reminds us of the importance of embracing our unique qualities and building inner confidence. We'll dive into the dangers of comparing our relationships to others and how it can affect our self-esteem. And find out why nurturing inner confidence is key for personal growth and happiness. 

Jay also shares practical tips for boosting confidence, like embracing our quirks, celebrating our strengths, and shifting from seeking validation from others to validating ourselves. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to build self confidence

How to boost your own strengths

How to focus more on self-validation

Together, let's learn the actionable ways and and empowering wisdom to help you embrace your uniqueness and cultivate unshakable confidence from the inside out.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:45 Getting Lost in Comparison to Other People’s Relationships

05:13 Why We Need to Build on Our Inner Confidence

08:35 Confidence is the Belief That You Matter

12:47 #1: Being Okay with Liking Things That Others Don’t

17:19 #2: Start Noticing Your Own Strengths 

18:20 #3: Giving Self-Validation Versus Needing External Validation

24:05 Your Hero is Your Future Self

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Why does trauma manifest as guilt and shame?

How do we untrap ourselves from the past?

Today, we welcome back renowned speaker on addiction, stress, and childhood development, Dr. Gabor Maté. They dive into the core of human identity and explore the delicate balance between being yourself and seeking acceptance, discovering the liberating truth that authenticity is the ultimate path to self-discovery. Gain insights into the complexities of the human emotional landscape and learn how to navigate and process fear, a powerful force that often holds us captive. 

Gabor talks about the top five regrets of dying people - a profound insight that serve as a compass, guiding us to live a life aligned with our deepest values and aspirations. He also talks about the intricacies of guilt and shares wisdom on how we can untrap ourselves from it, the universality of pain and trauma, the synergy between logic and creativity in problem-solving. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to live with fear and anxiety

How to deal with deep-rooted trauma

How to handle grief and pain

How to improve your personal growth

Together, let's explore the infinite possibilities that unfold when we awaken to our true potential and embrace a mindset of continuous growth.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

03:56 How Do You Heal a Broken Man?

07:34 Tell Me Who You Are

11:33 The Small Still Voice Within Us

13:19 Be Yourself or Be Accepted But not Both at the Same Time

17:10 What Are the Most Common Emotions We Feel Everyday? 

20:26 How Can We Process and Heal From Fear

28:11 How Can You Help Someone Who Refused to Be Helped?

31:06 The Top Five Regrets of Dying People

36:09 How Do We Untrap Ourselves From Guilt?

43:03 There’s No Path Without Pain, So Choose Which Path to Take

46:53 Embrace Your Freedom Responsibly 

48:46 There’s No Hierarchy in Pain and Trauma

51:07 What is Integrative Thinking?

59:27 The Book “Blessed with a Brain Tumor” 

01:02:00 Can I Continue to Grow?

01:04:15 How Do Emotions Translate to Physical Reality?

01:13:13 If We Could Just Wake Up to Our Possibilities

Episode Resources:

Dr. Gabor Maté | Website

Dr. Gabor Maté | Instagram

Dr. Gabor Maté | Twitter

Dr. Gabor Maté | YouTube

Dr. Gabor Maté | Facebook

The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture 

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Have you been struggling to get over your ex?

Do you want to find healing after a painful breakup?

Then this episode is for you.

Today, Jay will talk about the complexities of heartbreak and grief, shedding light on the profound emotional and physiological effects of romantic loss. He unravels the intricate workings of the human brain's obsession with love, exploring the biological and psychological mechanisms triggered by heartbreak. There are different physiological changes that occur in the body during a breakup, illuminating the intensity of emotions experienced in the aftermath of romantic dissolution.

Through poignant anecdotes and expert insights, Jay navigates through the stages of grief, offering a compassionate understanding of the rollercoaster of emotions that accompany loss. From denial to anger, bargaining to depression, and ultimately acceptance, Jay guides listeners through the transformative journey of healing and growth.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to overcome a breakup

The physical manifestations of a heartbreak

The different stages of grief

Whether you're in the midst of a breakup or seeking to support a loved one through their journey of healing, this episode offers invaluable insights to help you navigate the path forward with grace and resilience. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:19 What Happens When Someone Breaks Our Heart?

03:54 The Human Brain Is Obsessed with Love

04:55 What Happens in the Body During a Breakup?

09:36 Why Breakups Are Comparable to Addiction Withdrawal

11:36 The Rage Room

13:58 The FIve Stage of Grief

16:38 THe First Stage - Denial

20:42 The Second Stage - Anger

23:03 The Third Stage - Bargaining

25:37 The Fourth Stage - Depression  

27:33 The Final Stage - Acceptance

29:02 This is the Best Way to Describe Grief

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How can you let go of something you love to do?

And when is the right time to let go?

Today, Jay is joined by Emmy Award winning host, writer, producer, and actor, James Corden. James is also a Tony Award winning and Golden Globe nominated actor; and a multiple BAFTA Award winner. In April 2023, James wrapped up his eight-year run as host of THE LATE LATE SHOW, which premiered on CBS in March 2015. The show garnered Corden four Emmy Award wins and an additional twenty-three Emmy Award nominations. Corden is the co-creator and executive producer of CARPOOL KARAOKE: THE SERIES for Apple TV+ which won five consecutive Emmy Awards and is currently nominated for 2023. The series also won three Producers Guild Awards, a Critics’ Choice Real TV Award and was nominated for a Writers Guild Award.  

James takes you through the successive successes and inevitable misses that shape our lives, the impact of expectations on our experiences and unravel the true meaning of success. He touches on his love for performance, the driving force behind success, and the reality that not all efforts receive the recognition they deserve; as well as the reflective process during significant transitions and gain insights into the complexities of the narcissistic dream.

As the conversation continues, James presents the powerful analogy of letting a balloon go, symbolizing the liberation that comes with releasing expectations. They also touch on the importance of mindful living, questioning how much of tomorrow you're willing to borrow.  

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to effectively chase after success

How to pick yourself up after failure

The importance of surrounding yourself with good people

How to balance family life and career

How to make your marriage work

How to slow down when things get tough

This episode is a reminder to cultivate a life filled with purpose, the art of slowing down, embracing life's pace, and savoring each moment. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:52 The Successive Success and the Many Misses in Between

08:32 The Expectation OF is What Mostly Ruins Things

10:22 What is the True Meaning of Success?

12:56 Love for Performance and the Drive for Success

17:23 Not All Efforts Get Rewarded

20:36 Your Life Can Get Flipped Over Every Single Day

23:38 Reflection Process During Big Transitions

28:13 The Narcissist’s Dream

35:50 The Analogy of Letting a Balloon Go

41:02 Becoming More than the Man You Actually Are

46:44 Sleep is an Extraordinary Gift

49:42 How Much of Tomorrow Are You Willing to Borrow?

53:15 Why Do You Need to Stop Going on a Diet?

56:21 How Do You Keep Good Friends Around?

01:00:32 How to Calmly Talk to Your Child?

01:06:14 Where is the Best Place to Raise Your Family and Kids?

01:11:24 Effective Communication Between Married Couple

01:15:43 The Story of a Man Who Just Kept Going

01:21:08 The David Beckham Statue Prank

01:22:35 Learning to Slow Down and Not Rush Anything

01:32:27 James on Final Five

Episode Resources:

James Corden | Instagram

James Corden | Twitter

The Late Late Show with James Corden | YouTube

The Late Late Show with James Corden | TikTok

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Do you want to do more this month?

How do you effectively become more productive?

Today, Jay will share with us how to maximize your efficiency, ensuring that this month becomes your most productive one yet. Are you ready to unlock your full potential? 

Jay introduces the concept of 25-minute stretches of focused work, strategically interspersed with 5-minute breaks—a game-changer for heightened productivity. Or engage in job-related tasks for 52 minutes and then take a 17-minute break. 

Jay sheds light on the wisdom behind the practice of tackling the easiest or hardest tasks first, providing valuable insights into mastering time management. Let's uncover the secrets of distinguishing between creative and logical days, understanding how to harness each for optimal results. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to become more productive effectively

How to manage your time without stress

How to be more intentional with time management

The best way to remain productive is to find ways to eliminate distractions that keep you from accomplishing your tasks. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:20 Do you want to become more productive this month?

03:44 #1: Engage In Job Related Tasks For 52 Minutes And Then Take A 17-Minute Break 

06:57 #2: The 25 minute stretches of focused work broken down by 5-minute breaks

11:32 #3: TTC - Task, Time, Calendar

15:44 #4: The Practice of Doing the Easiest/Hardest Things First

17:38 #5: Creative Versus Logical Days

22:00 #6: Energy Versus Time

25:13 #7: Putting Your Phone Away Lessens Distraction

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Do you feel that you struggle with being authentic? 

Do you want to overcome the judgment of society's perceptions of what it means to be authentic? 

Today, Jay sits down with Lil Nas X. Lil Nas X is a 24-year-old award-winning rapper, singer, songwriter from Atlanta, Georgia. Dubbed “an internationally recognized phenomenon” by Billboard, Lil Nas X rose to fame in 2019 when he released “Old Town Road” and shattered genre norms, disrupted the charts and went viral worldwide.  After a highly successful EP and several multi-platinum songs, Nas went on to release his critically acclaimed and GRAMMY-nominated debut album Montero in September 2021, which featured the culture-shifting 6x Platinum hit “MONTERO (Call Me By Your Name)”. Following the release of Lil Nas X’s latest single “J CHRIST”, his beautiful new documentary, Lil Nas X: Long Live Montero, debuted this weekend on HBO and is available to stream now on Max.

In this vulnerable episode Lil Nas X shares his story from being a shy kid in Atlanta Georgie to achieving his wildest dreams. Lil Nas X has proven that there is power of self-awareness and embracing your true identity, even in the face of loss and grief. He shares with us personal stories that have shaped him into the person he is today, and the person he is working on becoming. 

The conversation navigates through fears, the misunderstood aspects of Lil Nas' message in his latest single, and the importance of cherishing time with family. They discuss spirituality, the quest for genuine love, dealing with a lack of control, and overcoming inner voices. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to embrace authenticity

How to deal with societal expectations

How to be true to yourself

How to genuinely believe in what you love to do

How to make peace with your inner voice

Tune in for a thought-provoking and heartwarming conversation that validates our humanness, flaws and strengths, and our ability to overcome difficult times.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:42 Fascination for Time Traveling

03:55 Lil Nas X Helped Montero Morph Out of Being a Super Shy Kid  

07:04 There’s No Reason to Stop, Even You Mess Up

08:57 What’s Your Favorite Childhood Memory?

10:32 Becoming Self Aware and More In Tune with Your Sexuality

11:24 Losing a Loved One to Cancer

16:22 A Song About not Being Present When a Loved One Needed You So Much

17:39 Appreciating and Cherishing Time Spent with Family  

19:27 What Scares You the Most Right Now?

20:56 What Does Positive Chaos Look LIke?

22:14 The Part of Montero’s Message That Got Misunderstood

26:30 My Relationship with My Father

28:52 We All Have Our Own Ideals in Seeing Other People 

31:09 Freedom to Explore Your Spirituality

35:05 This One Being That’s Connected to Everything

36:28 Being Authentic and Relatable at the Same Time

38:37 Fully Open to Finding Real, Genuine Love

42:10 Overpowering the Voices in Your Head

45:23 The Ability to Recognize that Everything has Its Place

45:58 Allowing Your Younger Self to Grow 

47:35 Things that Haven’t Been Said to My Family Are in the Documentary

50:35 How to Help Others Work on Their Best Self

54:04 How Do We Deal with Our Lack of Control?

56:03 Why We Need to Relax Sometimes to Stay Sane

57:23 The Habit of Watching a Movie to Take a Break

59:34 What Are You Focusing on Over the Next 12 Months?

01:01:39 Do You Believe in Angel Numbers?

01:03:24 What Do You Do When You Can’t See the Signs?

01:05:11 Lil Nas X on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Lil Nas X | Instagram

Lil Nas X | Twitter

Lil Nas X | YouTube

Lil Nas X | TikTok

Lil Nas X | Facebook

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Are you struggling to silence your inner critic?

Is it becoming too loud and overwhelming? 

Today, Jay guides you through the art of silencing your inner critic and the reasons behind our tendency to quit. Unpack the various types of criticism influencing our inner dialogue, and discover actionable tips to befriend your inner critic. Jay's insights span from the importance of self-love in catalyzing change to the transformative power of language, urging you to remove the "I Am" statement. 

Learn the practice of journaling wins, cultivating resilience, and celebrating daily victories. And unpack how to navigate challenges with resilience, staying true to your goals despite the internal resistance.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why your inner critic is so loud

How to take control of your inner critic

How to think differently about yourself

How to celebrate small wins

Listen in, reflect, be in tune to a more positive and empowered self-perception. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:00 How To Silence Your Inner Critic When It’s Too Loud

03:29 This Is The Reason Why We Quit Doing Something

05:15 The Two Broad Types Of Criticism

06:35 7 Tips To Befriend Your Inner Critic

08:03 #1: You Can’t Hate Yourself Into Change

12:24 #2: Give Your Inner Critic A Name

12:56 #3: You Heard Your Inner Critic From Someone Else First

16:55 #4: Remove The “I Am” Statement

17:59 #5: Don’t Let Your Inner Critic Stop You From Making The Right Action

23:24 #6: Start Journaling Your Wins And Good Moments

26:04 #7: Write Down 3 Things You Did Well Today

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Do you want to know how to respond when no one believes you?

Do you know other people’s perception of you isn’t your reality?

Today, Jay Shetty sits down with Daniel Kaluuya. Known for his role as Fred Hampton in Shaka King's American biographical crime drama film Judas and The Black Messiah, Daniel won the 2021 Academy Award, British Academy Film Award, and Golden Globe Award for Best Actor in Supporting Role. His feature film writing debut with Netflix, The Kitchen has received positive reviews.

While football is a well loved topic between Jay and Daniel, the conversation shifted on Daniel’s earliest childhood memories that left an indelible mark on his life. We uncover the roots of his resilience and determination and his unwavering interest in writing. 

Daniel looks back into the challenges he faced for having dark skin and offers his insights on how to change our mindset around racism. We will learn about the cost of chasing our desires, the inspiration behind “The Kitchen”, and the transformative power of bringing ideas into existence. Together they unpack the importance of making peace with people's perceptions, and the courage it takes to share your work and passion with the world. 

In this interview, you’ll learn:

How to pursue your passion

How overcome your limits

How to turn ideas into reality

How to develop resilience

Join us on this soul-stirring exploration of life, growth, and the resilience that lies within each of us.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:19 Earliest Childhood Memory That Changed Your Life

06:07 What Would You Do When No One Believes In You?

08:51 How the Interest in Writing Started

11:52 Learning the Art of Improv

14:25 Shared Love for Football

19:27 Getting Shamed for Having Dark Skin

23:37 How to Change Your Mindset Around Racism

25:41 Standing Up For the Decisions that You Make

27:46 The Cost of Wanting Something is High

30:25 The Inspiration for The Kitchen

33:54 Exposing Why People Live the Way They Do

38:36 Overcoming the Fear of Making an Idea a Reality

43:16 The Power of One Idea

48:21 How Bringing Things into Existence can Change You

52:29 Making Peace with People’s Perception of You

58:51 Sharing Your Work and Passion to the World 

01:01:36 Daniel on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Daniel Kaluuya | Instagram

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