On Purpose with Jay Shetty

More people are now open to online dating where many have found a good partner and a lasting relationship. It seems that with the presence of these dating platforms, it’s easier to date people now.

Probably not. Dating remains a challenge not just for people in search of a partner but also for those who are already in a relationship. We often make a lot of mistakes, unconsciously and unintentionally, while we date which often lead to miscommunication and misunderstandings, or even breakups. 

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty tells us about the common mistakes we make when dating and what we can do to avoid and rectify them so we can save our existing relationships.

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Key Takeaways:

• 00:00 Intro
• 03:34 We all make mistakes while dating
• 05:41 Mistake #1: We talk for too long and we meet too late 
• 08:17 Mistake #2: We keep checking that one person who doesn’t message us back
• 11:15 Mistake #3: We give up too soon
• 15:01 Mistake #4: Being limited by our time
• 18:23 Mistake #5: We’re not present when we’re on a date with someone
• 20:49 Mistake #6: We let the negativity of online dating precipitate into all of our communication with others
• 22:43 Mistake #7: Not sharing your pain and priorities
• 24:06 Mistake #8: We try to use too many apps all at the same time

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You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Mel Robbins chats with Jay Shetty about the High 5 habit and how it can help you come to terms with your real self. How you start your day sets the tone for the rest of your day and immensely affects your confidence and productivity. And seeing that person looking at you in the mirror, your other self, helps you wipe away the dust that’s blocking you from loving your true self.

Mel began her career as a criminal defense attorney in NYC for Legal Aid in 1994, spent 5 years at CNN as a legal analyst, 5 number one audiobooks released on Audible, and 1 Gracie Award: America’s Outstanding News Talk Show Host. Her book, The High 5 Habit, explains the one proven habit that gives you the confidence to transform your life.

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What We Discuss with Mel:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:38 Think Like A Monk: Is it dust or is it me?
• 04:46 The High 5 Habit
• 08:38 How Covid brought many lives on a standstill
• 13:26 The excitement of seeing yourself for the first time
• 15:46 How to get into the High 5 habit
• 22:50 Gestures that are symbols of trust and partnership
• 26:49 Your mood in the morning impacts your confidence and productivity
• 29:31 The bouncer in your brain
• 34:00 How to be kind to yourself
• 40:43 The research on the snooze button
• 47:16 Outsourcing love and validation to outside things
• 53:28 It’s only when you love yourself that you can let others love you
• 57:14 It’s not your partner’s job to make you happy
• 01:00:34 Leave room for each other to grow
• 01:04:22 Jealousy is not hatred, it’s desire
• 01:09:56 Your brain is designed to protect you and change requires risks
• 01:13:40 Mel on Fast Five

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• Mel Robbins | YouTube
• Mel Robbins | Twitter
• Mel Robbins | TikTok

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At work, many of us often struggle in silence. We take on as much work as we possibly can, often pushing ourselves beyond our limits because we want to impress our boss, get a promotion and possibly get a salary raise. We all want a promising career.

Yes, it is commendable to work hard for your goals. Yes, it is admirable to strive for something you want to achieve. And yes, only you can make your life better through perseverance, BUT never at the expense of your mental health and well being.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty shares tips on how you can identify when your mental health is at risk and how to get out of it without losing your job.

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Key Takeaways:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:05 When your job is harming your mental health
• 07:00 Step #1: Become aware of how your work affects you well-being
• 10:21 Two big mistakes entrepreneurs make
• 13:03 Step #2: If you’re in an atmosphere you feel that is toxic
• 17:55 Step #3: Become a mental health ambassador
• 20:35 Step #4: Take the time off if you need it
• 21:16 Step #5: Being careful about how much you take on
• 22:28 Step #6: Make sure that you speak to someone 

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Who do you identify as in your relationship? Are you often in the “I need to fix this” mode? Or do you prefer to be taken care of or to be told what to do most of the time? Perhaps, you are more of a supporting pillar to your partner, always there to offer help in any way possible.

Our actions and reactions to situations and instances may differ on who you are with, but our personality will always be the same. And this trait that we have might help us work out our relationships or break them because of differences.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty discusses the three personality types that are common in most relationships and what it means for you and your partner.

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Key Takeaways:

• 00:00 Intro
• 03:29 The three role type we play in a relationship
• 05:56 Personality #1: The Fixer
• 06:43 Personality #2: The Fragile
• 07:42 Personality #3: The Partner
• 08:56 How will you know that you’re a fixer?
• 14:32 Detach from your fixer tendencies
• 16:15 Are you the fragile type?
• 20:13 Here’s how to get out of the fragile mentality
• 22:44 Or are you the partner/supporter type?

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You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Dr. Nicole LePera chats with Jay Shetty to talk about trauma as the root of all mental health problems. They discuss how one can utilize their own environment to self heal, why people are stuck with the same adaptive mechanism that doesn’t help them change, and taking many small steps on our way to complete healing.

Dr. Nicole, a trained clinical psychologist, created the SelfHealers Circle to allow people to go on their own journey and create who they want to become. Dr. Nicole lives in Los Angeles, California and loves anywhere that involves the stillness (and quiet) of nature. She currently hosts the SelfHealers Soundboard podcast with Jenna Weakland focused on recognizing patterns, healing from the past, and creating oneself.

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What We Discuss with Dr. LePera:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:23 The concept of the work: getting stuck
• 04:33 Utilize the environment around us with many daily small steps
• 07:23 What is epigenetics?
• 09:46 Empowering yourself to be your own healer
• 14:04 When you entertain the idea that maybe you are broken
• 18:07 Overwhelming change could send us back into that same adaptive mechanism
• 22:26 We work with the pattern we’re stuck in
• 26:52 When we’re conscious, we can hear our body
• 31:44 The uniqueness that makes each of us different
• 35:31 The nature of our thoughts are reiterative and amplified in some ways
• 41:35 How to nurture self-awareness and self honesty without leading to self-destruction?
• 46:19 How do we stop letting other people's opinions define our choice?
• 50:16 Creating empathy to people we can’t relate to
• 52:47 Honoring the small choices you’re making and the moment you’re living in
• 54:25 Dr. LePera on Fast Five

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Episode Resources:

• The Holistic Psychology
• Dr. Nicole LePera | Instagram
• Dr. Nicole LePera | LinkedIn
• Dr. Nicole LePera | Facebook
• Dr. Nicole LePera | YouTube
• SelfHealers Soundboard

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Perhaps, it is easier to tell someone to be brave and to do something they haven’t done before. It’s easier to be that encouraging voice on the side cheering for them. But it isn’t as easy when you’re at the receiving end, when you’re the one being encouraged to do something you’re uncomfortable doing.

It takes courage and an open mind to do something you’re hesitant to do because it’s outside of your comfort zone, especially when it’s something you never thought of doing out of fear of failing or getting rejected.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty talks about how doing small uncomfortable things can gradually lead you to embracing changes and improving yourself.

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Key Takeaways:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:49 How to become comfortable with the uncomfortable?
• 06:05 Principle #1: Start small, do not go for the big things right away
• 08:29 Principle #2: Slow down, pause and reflect
• 12:11 Principle #3: Do one uncomfortable thing yearly
• 14:15 Principle #4: Surround yourself with people that do uncomfortable things
• 15:57 Principle #5: Know that it’s okay to fail
• 17:56 Principle #6: Measure the miniscule improvement
• 20:06 Principle #7: Say you don’t know anything when you only know a little
• 21:39 Principle #8: Accept correction and feedback without justification
• 22:47 Principle #9: Don’t avoid and postpone what you started, start preparing

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Gabrielle Union chats with Jay Shetty to talk about a woman’s inner strength. From her arduous journey to have children and competing against her partner on career growth, to realizing what makes a marriage work and thriving in communities where your resources benefit the majority.

Gabrielle is an actress who starred in several romantic films such as The Brothers, Deliver Us from Eva, Think Like a Man, and Think Like a Man Too. She portrayed the lead character in the BET drama series Being Mary Jane, of which she received an NAACP Image Award. Married to Dwyane Wade, she continues to advocate for survivors of assault.

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What We Discuss with Gabrielle:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:54 Struggling to have children
• 11:21 Every child is unique
• 15:45 Support looks different for men and women
• 20:19 Figuring out how to walk side by side with your partner
• 24:30 You can’t compete with your partner
• 28:37 Most children aren't going to be shady for no reason
• 32:06 Rising through a terrible experience
• 38:20 Don’t try to hide when you feel vulnerable
• 46:07 Raise girls to have a world perspective, not with a town perspective
• 48:18 Accepting your child for who they identify as
• 53:55 It’s about building communities to share resources
• 55:53 Gabrielle on Fast Five

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• Gabrielle Union | Instagram
• Gabrielle Union | Twitter
• Gabrielle Union | Facebook
• Gabrielle Union | Amazon
• Flawless

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Lessons can be learned anytime, anywhere, and at any given situation. These lessons are packed with learning that will help us grow to become a better person. Some are easily learned, some leave lasting and painful memories.

For the past twelve months, we all have been trying to adapt to the new normal, to a completely different way of life for our own safety and everyone else around us. Last year was a true test of mental strength, emotional awareness, and physical agility to endure and persevere in any adversary.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty shares lessons he learned in the past year as he tried to stay on top of his life and remain connected to the people close to him.

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Key Takeaways:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:51 Reflect on the lessons you’ve learned every year
• 04:41 Lesson #1: Focus on the input and the intention, detach yourself from the result
• 10:55 Lesson #2: You can’t always find joy and happiness but you can always find meaning and service
• 14:52 Lesson #3 Remind yourself of the gifts brought by terrible situations
• 16:00 Lesson #4: We have to learn to celebrate people while they are alive
• 19:35 Lesson #5: Look at how we are controlled by fear
• 21:39 Lesson #6: Digital friendships can go deeper
• 23:45 Lesson #7: Anything can be done in 48 hours
• 27:19 Lesson #8: There’s never a better time to learn when you’re not sure what’s going on
• 28:24 Lesson #9: When you don’t get what you want, you get more of what you need
• 29:29 Lesson #10: Solitude is as necessary as community
• 30:18 Lesson #11: Invest in energy first, expertise second
• 30:53 Lesson #12: The mind has to be used by you for what you want to believe

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Rachel Hollis sits down with Jay Shetty to talk about loving yourself and seeing failure as success. We all need to learn to see the positive aspects of every failure in our life, to take proper care of ourselves by taking good care of our health, to sit down and process pain and grief at our own pace, and to never lose ourselves just to keep a relationship.

Rachel is #1 New York Times Best-Selling and a motivational speaker. She authored three self-help books including Girl, Wash Your Face and Girl, Stop Apologizing. Aside from keeping herself busy with her podcast, The Rachel Hollis Podcast, she's also founded The Hollis Company, a media company that exists to arm people with the tools to make positive and lasting change.

What We Discuss with Rachel:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:06 Mental illness is not just about taking prescription medicine
• 06:00 Being intentional about trying to live in a healthy way
• 12:17 What the evolution of social media is doing to us
• 21:05 “My advance for my first book, which was Party Girl was $1,000.”
• 24:02 When something shakes the best life you think you have
• 38:24 Journaling every single morning to remember conscious moments
• 41:53 Pushing yourself to get over a difficult moment in your life
• 46:31 A different view of failure
• 54:48 You create something that you value and believe in and put it out there
• 59:10 There are many parts of us that can make a better version of ourselves
• 01:05:38 Feeding into your own narrative
• 01:09:24 “An apology without action or change is empty.”
• 01:12:27 Having support from people who cares without high expectations
• 01:17:14 How do you establish boundaries when you haven't done it before?
• 01:22:33 What’s your love language?
• 01:26:00 Don’t make other people’s process of pain about you
• 01:29:10 You’re trying to be the person who your partner thinks you are
• 01:37:19 We need to stop seeing the end of things as failure
• 01:40:40 Rachel on Final Five

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• Rachel Hollis | Instagram
• Rachel Hollis | Facebook
• Rachel Hollis | Amazon
• Hollis Co.

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“I hear you. I understand that this is difficult for you. What can I do to help?” These are the words we desperately want to hear when things don’t work out in our life. We expect our partners to be there for us, to understand what we are feeling and why we are feeling these emotions.

However, some of us don’t get to hear these words. Some of us don’t get the understanding and support we need. Some of us could no longer connect emotionally with the people we love. And this disconnection is putting a strain on our relationships.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty shares principles for us to be an effective communicator so that our partner, our family, and friends can tap on deepest emotions and so that we can tap into theirs.

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Key Takeaways:

• 00:00 Intro
• 03:30 The number one indicator for a good human life was the quality of our relationships
• 07:06 Point #1: We haven’t learned to communicate with ourselves
• 09:57 Point #2: Your self-talk
• 13:31 Point #3: Let’s experiment
• 17:10 Point #4: Repeat what other person said, what you heard, and then what you felt
• 20:21 Point #5: Separate the content from the context
• 22:45 Point #6: Us and We, not You and Me
• 24:54 Point #7: Focus on what builds trust
• 28:43 Point #8: Find time to connect with your partner

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