Parenting Behavior with Dr. Andy Kahn: Your Guide to Getting Through the Hard Times

Your child might come home from school and say some troubling things about their teacher. “My teacher hates me. I can’t do anything right!” “I’m so messy, and she tells me that I just can’t get my space cleaned up.”

If you’re hearing things like this, it’s usually a sign that there’s some challenge between your child and their teacher.

These can be difficult issues to navigate, but there are strategies to manage teacher troubles. Tune in to this episode of Parenting Behavior with Dr. Andy Kahn for ways to help.

Related resources

• 9 steps to take if the teacher hurts your child’s feelings
• My child’s teacher is mean to her. What can I do?
• 8 steps to advocating for your child at school 

Timestamps

(00:44) Figuring out your child’s perceptions  

(01:51) Validating your child’s feelings

(05:29) Validating the teacher’s experience  

(07:03) How to find solutions

(09:13) How challenges can help kids grow and thrive  

(10:42) What to do if the situation is really bad

We’d love to hear from you. You can email us at [email protected].

A transcript for this episode is available on Understood.org.  

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Parent-teacher conferences can seem like high-pressure events. 

There are only 10 or 15 minutes, at most, for you and the teacher to discuss many important things. Plus you want to keep things positive and the teacher engaged. It’s a lot to consider.

On this episode of Parenting Behavior, host Dr. Andy Kahn will talk about some things you can do to make the conference as successful as possible. 

Related resources

• 3 ways I engage my child in parent-teacher conferences 
• Teachers weigh in: What I wish parents asked at parent-teacher conferences
• Listen: How to make the most of parent-teacher conferences
• Download: Parent-teacher conference worksheet

Timestamps

(00:54) Basic ways to prepare before the conference

(02:29) Advance communication

(04:44) How to prepare emotionally

(08:16) Special considerations for neurodivergent kids

We’d love to hear from you. You can email us at [email protected].

A transcript for this episode is available on Understood.org.  

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Learning challenges in kids can be really tricky to spot.

It can be hard to tell whether your child can’t do something, or if they just won’t. And sometimes it’s not clear what’s an in-the-moment challenge and what’s a pattern. 

On this episode of Parenting Behavior, host Dr. Andy Kahn will explain how to spot what might be a learning difference in your child. 

We’d love to hear from you. You can email us at [email protected].

A transcript for this episode is available on Understood.org.  

Related resources

• What are learning and thinking differences?
• The difference between learning disorder and learning disability
• Learning disabilities: What they are and aren’t
• Kids with multiple learning and thinking differences: What you need to know

Timestamps

(0:53) How to gather good data

(1:57) Looking for patterns

(3:09) Using homework to find clues

(5:37) How to spot motor or physical difficulties

(7:29) Why frustration can be a good thing

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Let’s face it. Embarrassment is a big part of growing up. And it can impact kids in many ways.

They may worry that trying a new outfit will embarrass them in front of their peers, or feel ashamed when a classmate comments on their appearance. Embarrassment and the emotions that come with it can be tough to navigate, for both kids and parents.

On this episode of Parenting Behavior, host Dr. Andy Kahn explains how to help young children deal with embarrassment and strategies for getting ahead of it. 

Related resources

• Social and emotional skills at different ages
• Managing emotions
• I’m letting go of the shame I felt about my ADHD and learning disabilities

Timestamps

(01:04) Embarrassment vs. shame
(02:06) How to help kids prepare for anxiety-provoking situations
(02:58) How learning or thinking differences can affect embarrassment  
(04:28) Making yourself ‘in’ on the joke

We’d love to hear from you. You can email us at [email protected].

A transcript for this episode is available on Understood.org.  

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One of the most frustrating parts of parenting is when your child won’t listen to you. It can be difficult to tell the difference between when your child is ignoring you and when they can’t pay attention to you.

If reading this is already stressing you out, take a deep breath — this episode is here to help. 

On this episode of Parenting Behavior, Dr. Andy Kahn will explain the many possible reasons why your child may have difficulties with listening or understanding. And he’ll go over some ways you can help.

Timestamps

(0:52) Anxiety, fear, and emotional distractions

(4:29) Focus and attention issues 

(5:48) What does “developmental” really mean? 

(7:51) Understanding your child’s comprehension challenges

(9:50) When to use consequences and punishments

We’d love to hear from you. You can email us at [email protected].

A transcript for this episode is available on Understood.org.  

Related resources

• Why some kids don’t listen
• How I got my child to listen (without yelling)
• Trouble with receptive language: What you’re seeing
• Understanding why kids have trouble with focus

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If you have a young child, bedtime can be one of the hardest parts of your daily routine.

Kids often have a lot on their mind at night. There’s Roblox, Netflix, and 100 other things competing for their attention as they try to go to sleep. Plus, they have a full day of school ahead. 

But as a parent, you need some time for yourself at night, too. It’s your “me” time to relax, get tasks done, or spend time with a partner. This can create tension between you and your child at bedtime.

On this episode of Parenting Behavior, Dr. Andy Kahn shares tips for how to handle the communication issues that come up at bedtime. Plus, how to create a healthy bedtime routine and more. 

Related resources

• Download: Bedtime checklists for kids
• Child can’t wind down at night? Why some kids struggle to go to sleep
• My child with ADHD can’t fall asleep. But I’m so tired. What can I do?

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Many things we do as parents can make us feel awful afterward. Whether it’s raising our voice in frustration or setting a firm limit and watching our child cry in response.

On this episode of Parenting Behavior, Dr. Andy Kahn shares tips for handling things in the moment when your child acts out. He also talks about striking a balance between giving yourself grace for your actions and taking time for self-reflection. 

Plus, he shares tips for picking your battles and preparing a default response when emotions are high. 

Related resources

• How to manage behavior problems in young kids
• Listen: How to tell the difference between tantrums and meltdowns
• 5 tips for taking a mutual time-out with your child

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Many parents think about behavior as something negative, a problem they don’t want to deal with. However, behavior is really a form of communication.

On this episode of Parenting Behavior, Dr. Andy Kahn explains the truth behind kids’ actions. He also shares how parents can respond to their kids’ challenging behaviors.

Related resources

• Listen: Understanding your child’s behavior as communication
• How to manage behavior problems in young kids
• The difference between discipline and punishment

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Parenting is one of the toughest things we do in life. It can be even harder when we can’t get our kids to do the things we need them to do.

On Parenting Behavior, host Dr. Andy Kahn offers bite-size tips for all kinds of parenting challenges. From how to stay calm when your child is acting out to helping with bedtime battles, listen as Dr. Kahn shares both evidence-based and mindful approaches for helping your child.

Tune in for upcoming episodes wherever you get your podcasts and on Understood’s YouTube channel at youtube.com/understoodorg.

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Parenting is stressful. In this six-minute guided meditation, psychologist Dr. Andrew Kahn helps you calm your mind and body so you can respond to your child more effectively.  

This is the last episode of What Now? A Parent’s Guide to Tantrums and Meltdowns. Explore the rest of Season 1 for more strategies to help you confidently handle your child’s big emotions.  

For more resources, visit the episode page on Understood. 

Related Resources

• Self-care for kids: 6 ways to self-regulate

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