Permission for Pleasure

What is a sexual script? Simply put, they are guidelines and shoulds  that we have taken in, which shape and influence our expectations and behaviors about sex. Aoife Drury, a Dublin psychotherapist, joins me for a conversation about common sexual scripts and how they become woven into our sexuality.
We discuss where they come from, what they sound like in our thoughts and how to rewrite the narrative. As Aoife says, “Recognize that you have a pen, and you write the rest of your book as you see fit.”

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Aoife Drury is an Accredited Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist and is currently carrying out a Doctorate in Psychotherapy. She is passionate about debunking mental health stigmas and creating a safe environment to talk about sexual health challenges.

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What have you heard about sex and lube? That lube is just for “old ladies?” That “getting wet” is the indicator of arousal and desire? This quickie episode covers the facts about lubrication, female arousal, types of lube and recommendations to try. Learn why couples say adding lube into their sex life is a “Game Changer!”


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Dr. Uchenna Ossai and I continue our conversation about common myths people believe about sexual health. In part two we discuss simultaneous orgasms with a partner, what low libido is and isn’t, female sexual dysfunction, and pornography. This myth-busters episode offers facts and alternatives to reframe and nourish your healthy sexuality.

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Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai is a sex-positive pelvic health physical therapist and sexuality educator and counselor. She is assistant professor at the UT Dell Medical School and pelvic health program manager at UT Health Austin.
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Part 1
Dr. Uchenna Ossai joins me for a thoughtful discussion busting some of the common myths people believe about sexual health. In part one we talk about orgasms, pleasure, foundational sexual beliefs, our mind and sex, and orgasming alone vs partnered. After hearing this episode, one listener said, “This was like a free therapy session - anyone could have some really excellent takeaways from this conversation!”

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Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai is a sex-positive pelvic health physical therapist and sexuality educator and counselor. She is assistant professor at the UT Dell Medical School and pelvic health program manager at UT Health Austin.
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This is a Special Episode, where members of our community share their stories and we explore what women hear about sex, their bodies, and pleasure. Hailey from Pasadena is my first guest and we talk about curiosity, consent, and both the silence and common narratives that many women take in who grow up in a conservative community.


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Dr. Erica Marchand joins me for a conversation about female orgasms and pleasure. Are orgasms a learnable skill? What are the components necessary for orgasm? Do orgasms really look like we see in the media? Dr. Erica and I answer these questions as well as why women fake them, do we need to rank them, and more about the Big O.

Erica Marchand, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist in Los Angeles and the creator of the Big O Masterclass, an online course that uses sex therapy principles to help women learn to have orgasms, by themselves or with a partner, from the privacy of home.
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If you experience pain with sex, please listen to this episode! Dr. Heather Jeffcoat joins me for an in depth conversation about all things pelvic health, specifically causes and treatment options for painful sex. You might want to have a pen and paper handy as we cover many topics, including: causes of pain, what pelvic floor physical therapy is and how it can help, dilators, sex & exercise after a baby, and how to do a kegel correctly.

Heather Jeffcoat DPT is the founder of Fusion Wellness & Femina Physical Therapy, and author of Sex Without Pain: A Self Treatment Guide to the Sex Life You Deserve.
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Painful sex is not normal, yet according to The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, 3 out of 4 women do experience pain during intercourse at some point during their lives. This quickie episode covers the 3 key things to consider if you are experiencing painful penetration at any point in your life. Essential education for every woman to know today or for the future.

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My discussion with Meygan Caston, co-founder of Marriage365, continues with more tips and prompts for couples learning to talk about sex. In part two we dive into: how to handle when one partner is not in the mood, introducing something new, when one partner is vanilla and the other is 31 flavors, and foreplay with words! Meygan shares her personal vibrator story and offers connecting questions to help get you started with your own healthy conversations.

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Meygan Caston is the co-founder of Marriage365

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Talking about sex with a partner can feel awkward and scary. Shame, fearing rejection and hurt feelings - these can be huge roadblocks to honest communication in this area of a relationship. Meygan Caston, co-founder of Marriage365, joins me for a discussion packed with practical communication tips, ways to break down barriers and conversation starters galore.

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