Permission for Pleasure

Embrace your desire. Own your wanting and gather your sexual agency. Doing this will help you change your relationship with desire. Dr. Juliana Hauser joins me to talk about reframing desire and how to get in touch with your vibrancy. You’ll hear practical ways to figure out what you want sexually and ideas for approaching and trying new things. Learn about the four quadrant exercise, a no thank you bite, and why Dr. Juliana believes safety is the strongest aphrodisiac.

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More on this topic:
The Truth About Desire (part one)
The Truth About Desire (part two)
Partner Sexual Desire Discrepancies
Why don’t I want sex as much as my partner?
When a partner wants to start something new

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Are you curious about female ejaculation and squirting? Tune in as I answer your frequently asked questions. Yes - women ejaculate, and yes women can squirt. However, they are not the same thing. Learn the where, why and how in this - all about the fluids episode.

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G spot (area)
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Loving behaviors is one of the six ingredients Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh has found necessary to build a lifetime of love. In this second part of our conversation, we talk about the importance of touch and developing a touch lexicon within your relationship. We get specific about all the ways to touch and how to make sure the touch given is received as intended. Sara also shares her distinction between sexual chemistry and sexual harmony, to help couples create desire and arousal as relationships evolve over time.

Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh is an Author, Speaker and Thinking Partner with a PhD in Social Psychology and specialization in the fields of human sexuality and relationships. Her latest book is,  Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love.

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The names we do or don’t call our genitals are fascinating. Where do these terms come from? What about the silence around our private parts? Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, who specializes in the fields of human sexuality and relationships, joins me to share her research about genitals around the world. From what we call them and how we groom them, to our relationship with them. We discuss practices around pubic hair, beauty standards, penis size and more. At the end of the episode, Sara shares an exercise to help us begin a healthier relationship with our genitals.

Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh is an Author, Speaker and Thinking Partner with a PhD in Social Psychology and specialization in the fields of human sexuality and relationships. Her mission is building world peace one relationship at a time.  

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Learning to listen to your body
Dating your body

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Scientists have found that sexual noises go hand in hand with enhanced pleasure. Whether you hum, purr or moan - giving voice to what your body is feeling may make sex better. Bonus- it also serves as non-verbal communication and positive reinforcement to your partner!

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People masturbate for all kinds of reasons including pleasure, exploration, sleep and pain relief. For women who have never experienced orgasm, self-pleasure is the most scientifically supported sex therapy technique to learn the stimulation needed to climax. August McLaughlin, a journalist, author and host/producer of Girl Boner Radio, joins me to share her insights, and personal journey with masturbation. We discuss some practices and tips, as well as debunk a few common myths around solo sex.  

August McLaughlin is a journalist, author and host/producer of Girl Boner Radio. Her acclaimed Girl Boner book is currently in its second printing. 

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The Pleasure Crisis and Why Good Sex Matters with Dr. Nan Wise
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Untangling Sexual Shame
Learning to Listen to Your Body
Natural Health Benefits of Orgasm

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All about the pelvic floor! Alexa Charbonneau, PT, DPT of Sarton Physical Therapy, joins me to offer her top tips and education for all ages and stages. Do you cough, laugh, sneeze and wet your pants? Do you have pain with sex? Do you have chronic prostatitis? While many of these might be common issues, they are not normal! The good news is there is physical therapy specifically for your pelvic floor. It may hold the solution you’ve been looking for. 

Find Alexa Charbonneau and Pelvic Healing

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Pelvic Floor and Painful Sex
Painful sex
Stretched out vaginas and other myths with Heather Jeffcoat

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In this quickie episode I’ll introduce you to the Kivin Method or oral for her – sideways. Hear a how-to guide and why you might want to try it. I'll also answer a few community questions including 'How can I make doggy style more intimate?' and 'Why do I bleed after sex?' Ten minutes of good education for good sex!

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Guide to Lube
Positions with Props
The clitoris has a hood
The clitoris
Why female arousal takes more than 5 minutes
Trying something new
Talking with a provider about sex

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My guest found that her college students had very little understanding of their own bodies and how to navigate sex in a healthy way. Professor Gwendolyn Dolske Ph.D. teaches Philosophy at Cal Poly Pomona. One of her classes, Current Debates in Sexuality, gives her a unique perspective on what young adults are asking about when it comes to sex and relationships. We discuss topics such as consent, current dating culture, and the high alert status women must negotiate to feel safe in the world.

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Why Sex Ed Really Matters
Girls and Sex/Boys and Sex, by Peggy Orenstein
The Growing Mental Health Crisis of Our Girls
Understanding Consent and Unlearning Body Shame

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People sometimes assume the source of erectile changes in men as they age is a condition called - erectile dysfunction or ED. This is not always the case. In this episode I am discussing some of the normal sexual changes men may experience in midlife and beyond. Listen to learn about normal changes in erections, sexual functioning, and desire for men.

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The different ways to experience desire
Partner desire discrepancies

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