Polycurious

Today I speak to Sarah Tilley, Founder and CEO of Beautiful Space. Sarah is a psychedelic guide, integration specialist and couple therapist. Today she tells us about her work leveraging the power of psychedelics in relationships. We also talk about what couples might do to increase intimacy even without the use of these substances.

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In this episode I talk about the 12 lessons I have learned in my Polycurious journey.

1. Be Patient. Go as fast as the slowest person
2. Find the right time to talk
3. Check with your partner before making plans with other people
4. Feeling guilt at first is normal
5. Don’t sugarcoat. Be honest with your partner
6. Determine how much you want to share with your partner
7. Meeting your partner’s partners (metamours) helps with jealousy 
8. Jealousy and insecurities are likely to decrease with time
9. You can’t control your feelings for other people
10. Infatuation and New Relationship Energy can be fleeting
11. Be careful where you invest your energy
12. Non-sexual intimacy can be powerful 

Resources discussed in this episode:

• Fer & Seth’s episode 

• Jessica’ Esfandiary's episode

• Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy

• Rachel Krantz episode

• Dr.Zhana's episode

• Mariah & Fer's episode

• Tory and Jackson's Monocurious episode

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Today I bring to you the second part of my conversation with Natasha + Jeremy, sex coaches and educators behind All The Feels. They give amazing tips around communication in and outside of the bedroom. Jeremy talks about ways that are sexy and respectful to approach women and they both share how to have a threesome that is fun and sexy and where everyone feels safe. We also talk about what one can do if you have a sexual desire or preference your partner doesn’t like.

Resources discussed in the episode:

Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power - Carolyn Elliott

Untamed - Glennon Doyle

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

Pussy: A Reclamation - Regena Thomashuer

Dr. Eva Cadell Certified Sex Coach

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Today I had a wonderful discussion with Natasha and Jeremy, the couple behind All The Feels. They are certified sex coaches, working on empowering people to have better sex lives. Besides coaching, they also educate through their instagram and their porn videos.

Today we chat about their journeys taking charge of their sexuality and navigating non-mongamy. Natasha also tells us how she went from feeling jealousy to getting turned on when seeing Jeremy having sex with other women.

Resources discussed in the episode:

Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power - Carolyn Elliott

Untamed - Glennon Doyle

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

Pussy: A Reclamation - Regena Thomashuer

Dr. Eva Cadell Certified Sex Coach

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Today I speak to Jessica Esfandiary, the host of the Open Late podcast. She tells us how she opened up her now 9 year relationship only a few months in, after an ‘accidental’ threesome. We talk about how she went from hiding her open lifestyle even from her closest friends to having a podcast about non-monogamy. She also tells us the reasons why she likes being polyamorous, including seeing a side of herself she doesn’t always express with her partner. 

Resources discussed in the episode:

⁠The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures (book)⁠

⁠Relationship Style Quiz

Listen to Open Late

Spotify: Are You Polycurious with Fernanda from the Polycurious Podcast

Apple Podcast: Are You Polycurious with Fernanda from the Polycurious Podcast

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In the second part of our conversation with Jenny and Kris we chat about a time when Jenny fell in love with a secondary partner and had a hard time managing both relationships. Jenny also tells us about the parties she organizes and how it all began as a way to connect the non-monogamous community.

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In today’s episode Mariah and I chat with Jenny and Kris, who have been together for almost a decade and navigated non-monogamy from the beginning. They tell us everything about their introduction to the non-monogamous world and what they learned in this process. 

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Today I chat with Philip, the host of the podcast Dear Poly where I was a guest last year. We go deep into Philip’s coming out story and how he had to break so much stigma in his religious community to be his true self. If you have ever had a hard time letting go of shame, as a queer person, non-monogamous person or simply someone with a high sex drive, I think you will resonate with this episode.

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Jess is a trauma centered relationship coach and plant medicine guide. Zach is a breath work facilitator and men’s intimacy coach. Together they have the Sacred Ships podcast, where I had the pleasure to be a guest last year.

Today we talk about how they healed their sexual trauma, partly through their relationship. Zach opens up about using porn in a way affected his sexual performance, and reveals what he did to get to a comfortable place with his sexuality. Having casual sex with other women and opening up their relationship was actually an important part of this process.

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Resources mentioned in the episode:

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy (book)

The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know (book)

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In the first episode of our third season Mariah and I spoke to Taylor and Alan, who identify as solo poly and nonhierarchical. Both of them started their non-monogamous journey in high school and have since been immersed in the poly and sex-positive community. 

Today we talk about their experiences of seeing each other fall in love with other people and experiencing jealousy. They also share how polyamory has enriched their lives, allowing them to explore and learn from other people while maintaining their independence.

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