Polycurious

In this episode I speak with Rachel Krantz, former editor at Bustle and Author of the book Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation and Non-Monogamy. Her book is both a cautionary tale about gaslighting and manipulation and a story about the lessons and fun experiences that being open can bring.

We talk about the red flags that might indicate you are being manipulated and discuss why often times partners are not even aware that they are being abusive. We get into the topics of jealousy, swingers, and submissive dominant dynamics. Lastly, Rachel tells us why she chooses to still be non-monogamous after what she went through. 

Resources discussed:

Rachel's Book: Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation and Non-Monogamy -

Love In Abundance by Kathy Labriola

Multiamory Podcast

The Network La Red 

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In this episode, London shares her reasons for being solo poly and not seeking a primary partner. She tells us ho she is working on getting validation from herself and letting go of expectations when it comes to relationships. We talk about the importance of communicating intentions and feelings, even with people one is casually dating. Last but not least, we go in-depth about London’s experience dating a couple for over a year and all of the reasons why being a 'unicorn' was so special.

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In this episode I chat with my friends Jasmine and Felipe, who have been together for about a year and a half. With the exception of a short period at the beginning where they dated independently, they have only had experiences as a couple and mostly with women.

They tell us why dating separately sounds both intriguing and threatening to them. We also talk about the complexity of making moves on friends and about the sexy experiences they have had meeting new people after the pandemic.

Fernanda's Interview with the M.G.C Podcast 

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Queer Dating Coach, Ariella Serur, works with queer people navigating the dating world, so it becomes an enjoyable process and part of their personal growth journey.

In this conversation, Mariah and I chat about Ariella’s own queer and non-monogamous journey. We talk about how to date as a newly queer person and how to deal with feelings of infatuation and new relationship energy. We also discuss how to read if someone is into you, as well as how you might (respectfully) get non-verbal consent from your date.

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Ariella's Ebook “How To Tell If Someone’s Queer (And How To Connect Regardless)”

Shameless Sex Episode #5 Casual Sex With Reid Mihalko on Spotify or Apple Podcasts

Curious Fox

Awake and Sexy's reel on how to make a request that is both hot and consent savvy

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Roxy and Taj have been together for over 3 years and have had several group sex experiences together. They explored playing with couples, but eventually decided they preferred to only have threesomes with women. In this conversation, we chat about how they arrived at that decision. We also talk about Roxy’s process of opening up and letting go of what was expected from her community and about Taj’s past failed non-monogamous experiences. Their journey is an example of how through experience, you can find what Taj calls ‘the sweet spot’.

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On our season premiere Cookie and Jerry open up about their journey and their breakup. We talk about how their current separation has benefited their relationship. This conversation highlights how communication has to be a continuous effort. No matter how long you have been together, things change all the time. You have to do what is right for you even if it is different from what worked in the past or what works for your partner.

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Tarynn is a New York-based Psychotherapist that focuses on alternative sexualities & lifestyles – including non-monogamy. She is giving Polycurious listeners a 30 percent discount for sessions booked in March. You can write to her at [email protected]m or visit her website https://www.tarynndier.com/

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This bonus episode is an edited version of our interview for a feature article in Bushwick Daily. Allie Ferrera interviewed both Mariah and I about the podcast. We talked about the inspiration behind Polycurious, the difference and similarities between monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, and what boundaries mean for us. We also have a special announcement: we will be releasing a second season next year! In this episode you will learn what to expect from it.

​​To read the article click here.

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For our last episode of the season I chat with my co-host and best friend Mariah. If you haven’t listened to the first episode of the season where I interview her for the first time, go back and listen now. In our conversation, Mariah updates us about coming out to her family as polyamorous. We talk about her experience falling in love with her secondary partner and eventually breaking up with her primary. We then talk about her new partner and the difficulties of transitioning from a polyamorous relationship to a (mostly) monogamous one.

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Resources mentioned in this episode:

E8 - Relationship Anarchy, Being a Poly Parent and Alternative Relationship Therapy with Tarynn

E 10 - Doubting Polyamory with Mr. K

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In this episode I interview Seth, my partner of almost 3 years. So far he hasn’t sought out to be non-monogamous, despite having a partner who is. In our conversation Seth tells us about his upbringing as a homeschooler and the son of a pastor in a small midwestern town. We talk about how we met and his reasons for not pursuing non-monogamy. We tell you what our boundaries are and how they have evolved. Lastly, we talk about the secret to our relationship: letting each other be ourselves and maintaining our independence.

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In today’s episode I speak to my wonderful friends Ruth and Alejandro, who have been together for eight years. In this conversation they tell us how everything went wrong when they first met and how they ended up together anyway. They share their missteps as they began to open up their relationship, including a disastrous first threesome. We talk about their boundaries, how they have evolved, and Alejandro shares a story of how he overcame an insecurity that he had.

Resources mentioned:

Monogamish Essay

Podcast where they have previously appeared:

HuffPost Love + Sex Podcast

Touchpoint

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