Put Into Words

QOTW: What are you excited about lately?

Engrid: Sister is coming to visit for Labor Day

Georgie: Sister is getting married this weekend!

IN THIS EPISODE:

Self-Care & How to take care of yourself in different seasons

Being mindful & selective of what you expose yourself to

The superiority complex that can show up with "self-care"

How you can do the same activity & your intention can be so different

When "feeling better than others" is all you have

Red-flags to be aware of in your pursuit of self-care

Self-care isn't just an activity - it's the mindset you go into it with

How we define self care for ourselves

We discuss the guilt that can arise when you change from your default

"I'll be happy when..."

QUOTES:

"If I think I'm enough, then I'm behind"

"Contentment made me uncomfortable, happiness gave me anxiety...if I feel those things, then something's wrong"

"Boredom isn't the anti-christ"

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N THIS EPISODE:

We discuss having better conversations, while staying true to yourself.

The give and take of a good conversation.

& making and keeping friends as an adult

Life Updates

Having better Conversations

Working on your small talk skills

Asking an easy to answer question

Using observations to start a conversation

You don't want to make anyone uncomfortable

Why conversations are like tennis matches not interviews

Why it's awkward to have a one sided conversations

The power of remembering what people say

Everyone plays a different role in friendships

Friendships as an adult

The power of "light touch" in friendships

Practical ways to create meaningful friendships

Finding connector friends

Friendship breakups

Long distance friends

Phone calls

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QOTW:

What has been lighting you up this week?

Georgie: Swimming in the ocean

Engrid: Lizzo + discovering "Tiny Desk Concerts"

IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCUSS:

A topic asked by a listener: Being able to disagree with someone and still love them. We flipped it and also asked: "Why do you need someone you love to agree with you?"

Politics can be a really polarizing topic - extreme outlooks are often more related than they appear

Stepping away from the idea of "us vs. them"

We can accept one another without sharing the same beliefs

Acknowledging others experiences, finding common ground, and getting curious about where someone is coming from

The impact of not having the experience while growing up, of someone holding space for your beliefs to be different. If you felt like your beliefs had to align with those around you in order to feel safe, accepted, and loved.

We unpack this idea: "If they disagree with me on this idea or value, it means they disagree with me as a person

"Don't go [into a disagreement] with: 'my goal is to change their mind'" Don't take others' behavior personally

Getting curious about your OWN desire to prove or convince someone of your beliefs/ perspective

Being loved and having one's own values are NOT mutually exclusive

You don't have to make someone else wrong, to make yourself right

What if neither one of us is right AND neither of us are wrong [in our own world]

Knowing what happens to you when you've been triggered

The power of being radically honest & vulnerable in a fight/argument

Recognizing when you might be projecting

It's so enticing - especially when you feel hurt - to tell others what to do

How hard (but amazingly helpful) it is to share with someone when you feel hurt (even if you don't know why)

Whatever we are fighting with someone about on the surface, that's never actually what we are arguing about

Trying to reason your way through human emotions with logic isn't going to get you very far

GEMS:

"If I need you to think like me, in order for me to feel okay, or in order for me to feel like you like me...it means I believe I'm not enough as I am. It means I don't believe I'm lovable unless I am in full alignment with all of our thoughts and opinions"

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QOTW:

What are you feeling inspired by this week?

Engrid: Body Positivity

Georgie: Two recent podcast Interviews

IN THIS EPISODE:

Our working definition of what it means to be exclusive vs. inclusive

Body language

"Opening up the circle"

Introductions

Things we feel when we are in an inclusive environment

Bonding with others over something negative vs. positive

The powerful connection/welcomeness that comes when you make others feel heard + seen

Being stingy vs. generous with your love

The responsibility of the "link" (the person who does the introducing, or the person that brings you into a situation)

Judgement: is it a situation where you sense/fear judgement (exclusive)? Or is it welcoming and judgement-free (inclusive)?

GEMS:

"That is the definition of an exclusive experience: trying to make yourself shape-shift to fit in, when you don't want to shape-shift"

"If you don't feel like you're being judged and it feels safe....that to me is inclusivity. That's when I feel like I can let my guard down, like I can be myself"

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QOTW:

What have you been up to this week?

Georgie: Photo gigs + time flying by

Engrid: Her experience weaning off of Vyvanse

IN THIS EPISODE:

The practice of walking through the discomfort that may arise when others are experiencing a lot of difficult emotions around you, and holding space

How you can feel multiple emotions at once

The importance of having your feelings validated

Our experience with having our feelings minimized during each of our childhoods

Learning & practicing giving yourself permission to sit with & feel your emotions

Engrid shares a recent real life example of conflict and how she resolved it

When you're in a heightened state of emotion (triggered) you can "become your emotion" vs. being triggered and having your frontal lobe (narrator) come back online and observe the emotion "I am feeling this emotion but I am NOT this emotion"

Minimizing: that awareness of 'here's what I'm doing' and 'here's what's been done to me'

Permission & Validation for our emotions: is what we can do for ourselves and others

QUOTES:

"Something can be truly joyful and sad at the same time...it's not all of nothing"

"Obviously conflict is going to arise, so how do I manage it healthfully?"

"Learn how to validate your own feelings first...learn how to be sad, learn how to be angry"

"I am feeling an emotion, but I am not the emotion... I am not anger, I am feeling anger"

"We tend to recreate the trauma we experienced from childhood without knowing it, and that's what my old brain was doing"

GAL PAL CORRAL

What has this process looked like for you? How have you learned how to hold space for yourself and others? What has it looked like for you to give yourself permission to feel your feelings?

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QOTW:

Life update: what have you been up to this past week?

Engrid: Going to a Pain, Stress & Movement Workshop

Georgie: Celebrating her one year wedding anniversary

IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCUSS:

Feeling the scarcity mindset around good things that are happening in your life

How do we savor the good things in our life, without letting expectations of it not being "good enough" detract from it all?

The anticipation/anxiety that may come from feeling like you won't be able to enjoy something special

Acknowledging all of our feelings (even the ones we don't enjoy)

How we set ourselves up to really savor a good experience

Phone usage vs. our ability to be present

You are still allowed to feel negative emotions

Learning to listen to your intuition when making a decision

How planning "fun" may be suffocating and detract from spontaneity & joy

Letting go of control, and allowing the magic to unfold

QUOTES:

"You can have a full day and still make time for yourself"

"Resentment has permission to be here...it gets a seat at the table"

"Every choice is not 100% good or bad"

"All feelings are worthy of being present, showing up, and being acknowledged"

"Setting the table and seeing the conversation that happens versus being the person who's like 'and now we're talking about this'"

GAL PAL CORRAL:

We want to know how you shift into "magic mode" and step into a space where you can enjoy the things that could never be planned!

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QOTW: Favorite summer traditions

We Talk About:

Engrid's meditation experience where she felt self-love

Out of body self-love experiences

You don't have to earn anyone's love - you're lovable just as you are

Why we spend time with people who feel good versus how much they've accomplished

Why we look for our worth in productivity

Being compared to others as a kid

How our childhood experiences teach us how to talk and love ourselves

Embracing stillness and discomfort

Self talk and self love in the dressing room

Tools we love: talking with a friend, journaling, music

Speaking the fear out loud releases their power

You don't need to be a Harvard grad at self-care

Quotable:

You don't have to earn anyone's love - you're lovable just as you are

Learn to ask yourself "is that really true"

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This week Engrid & Georgie dive into what it means to be confident. We talk about the difference between confidence, arrogance and insecurity.

QOTW:

What is something you are excited about in the coming months?

E: A slower season

G: Nantucket summer

We Talk About:

Confidence - what it is and what it isn't

Confident people are in tune with themselves

Self awareness & boundaries

The role trust plays confidence

Spending time with confident people

Being honest about what you don't know

You can't convince someone of your value

You don't have to impress anyone

Compliments & how you talk about yourself to other people

Learning to accept compliments

It's hard to trust compliments

How deflecting compliments can impact or effect others

It's ok to like yourself

Quoteable:

"Confident people are in tune with themselves"

"When you build a business on trust you can't afford to erode that"

"You can't convince someone of your value"

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IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCSS:

The pressure of hosting guests

Emotional labor from hosting and talking with certain people

How to be mindful of your expectations

The anxiety that can come from thinking about the future

Why being clear about expectations is so important

Efforting feels safe

Why we love (and are sometimes addicted to) hard work

Not all good things require suffering

Going against the norms to do what is right for you

Not all valuable work has to be hard

Why it's so important to believe in what you're doing

Trusting the process - what that means

Loving yourself and seeing yourself clearly

Making changes to your business that feel right but you don't make as much money

The effort it takes to feel good

Attachment to the outcome causes us suffering

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Georgie

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