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Q&A: How do I tell my children we're getting divorced?


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Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about...

  • The best way parents can tell their children that they are planning to separate or get divorced.
  • How to approach this conversation in a way that helps children feel safe, supported, and loved.
  • What parents should share, what they should avoid sharing, and why it's important to focus on what you know rather than what you don't know yet.
  • The key reassurances every child needs to hear, even if they never ask the questions out loud.
  • Why children of different ages may react very differently to the news and how to tailor your approach to your child's developmental stage.
  • How to respond when children react with sadness, anger, blame, resistance, or seemingly no reaction at all.
  • Practical ways to help children adjust to changes in the family while maintaining a sense of stability and connection.
  • When it may be helpful to involve a therapist or family professional for additional support.

This episode will help you approach one of the most difficult conversations a family can face with greater confidence, compassion, and clarity while supporting your child's emotional well-being through the transition.

REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:

👉 Navigating separation or divorce? Upshur Bren Psychology Group offers specialized support at every stage of the process, including therapy and coaching, parenting and co-parenting support, family therapy, and weekly divorce groups for women and children. Whether you're in the middle of a split or adjusting to a new family structure, our team is here to help you and your children feel steady and supported. Visit upshurbren.com to learn more or schedule a free 30-minute consultation call to find the right support for your family.

CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about busting divorce myths and breaking down the true effect it has on children with Michelle Dempsey-Multack

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about navigating divorce or separation through a family systems approach with Una Archer

🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about whether "nesting" during a divorce better for your kids?

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