Till The Wheels Fall Off

Reactive Defense - Fighting Back Is Not Abuse


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Reactive abuse (defense) occurs when the victim of abuse responds to the mistreatment they're enduring. Often times feelings of guilt are present and the victim then feels like an abuser themself. It's important to recognize that reactive defense does not constitute abuse in itself and in many cases is an involuntary reaction to ongoing abuse. Abusers seize the opportunity of these reactions as evidence or "Proof" that they themselves are victims of abuse, shifting blame onto the victim. The volatile nature of relationships where addiction is present leads to many of these instances. This episode is designed to educate victims of abuse and soften the guilt they have around their reactions to abusive behavior.


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